two by two, hands of blue
- May 17, 2008
This was the original problem. There was a perceived personal attack in my criticism of Spike, when it was just my opinion of a character. I've been involved with this fandom for years, and people take an attack on a ship as deeply personal and it becomes as contentious as politics. I do take issue with the way some Spuffys argue their point ie to say Angel's a paedo - is just not effective. It's never a good argument to attack your supposed opponent rather than giving positives of your side. But I don't have any problem with people shipping, I mostly find it odd because I don't, but I respect the passion people have and I can understand why they get invested. Do you, who cares. I certainly don't.When you're attacked a lot you percieve attack. I tried searching for your OP but maybe it's a bit far back. You did moan you'd almost quit the board because of mean ole Spuffys if it's happened before then it's possible you are 'being attacked' because you are attacking even if you don't realise it. I know Dora seems to have a problem seeing the difference between persecution and contradiction so it's not as if there isn't precedent for it.
I didn't quit the boards cos I felt bullied by the mean Spuffys, as you said. I don't feel victimised, I was just bored by it all. Ask someone who was around at that time, they'd probably tell you the same thing, regardless of their Buffy's man preference.
And yeah I'm a big moany grump. Most people know this.