Yes it was bad. Poor Dawn. Willow was being very selfish.Ya when she put Daw i a lot of danger. That whise bad.
I think Buffy would have been uncomfortable, but she'd tell Willow the same as she told Xander in Season 1, that she didn't feel that way about her but she was glad they were friends. I think Willow would have coped better than Xander did (or maybe not?)I think if Willow turned out to have a crush on Buffy, Buffy would be a little uncomfortable. Do not you think?
And when Dawn came along, I thought since when does Buffy have a sister.
And did you know that the director wanted Xander or Willow to be gay. He had to choose because he definitely wanted one of the two to be gay.
I have heard that it could have been Xander who was made the gay character. But I also heard Jane Espenson on a podcast last year (maybe Slayefest98, I can't remember now) say that had never been the case and as far as she was aware it was always going to be Willow.