I think it's because Joss said he most identified with Xander, so people give him a pass because they think oh its Joss Avatar in the show.I...didn't like Xander. He was annoying, mildly pointless and he just was difficult to watch on screen. For the first 3ish seasons I hated him. He did have his moments, but overall, was a pain. I only started to like him mid-season 4 when he had Spike living with him, him and Anya were good, he began to improve, did anyone else have this.