Yeah I agree, Spike hugging that cross, pretty melodramatic

But it comes back to the basic disconnect I feel about Angel. Spike is presented as a larger than life character, and for me his behaviour befits this. Angel is presented as a brooding, angsty introvert, who internalises his pain and is possibly a depressive, but when he's with Buffy his behaviour is that of a 15 year old boy having a melodramatic spat with his gf
I think that's partly the writing and direction they wanted to take the character, but I also think it's DB not having a firm grasp on who Angel is, and simply following SMG's lead in ramping up the emotion (acceptable and believable in a 16 year old girl, but not in a 240 year old man) This why I feel a disconnect with his character; we are asked to believe he is one thing, while his behaviour tells us he's something else.