To be fair to Xander I don't think any of them come out of Dead Man's Party well. (Apart from Giles and Cordelia of all people. Buffy's feelings are understandable, but still wanting to take off again was not right.)I wasn’t a Xander fan when I was younger, but he’s grown on me recently. I now see bits of my past self’s flaws that I used to overlook in him and a lot of his humor went over my head years ago. He’s not one of my favourite characters yet, but he’s getting there. I have little sympathy for him in episodes such as Dead Man’s Party and Entropy, though.
That's so funny, because imo he is at his best, humor-wise, in S2; I've never laughed more at his jokes I also agree with about 99% of the serious things he says and does in S2, including The Lie and that Buffy needs to be honest about why she wants to re-curse Angel. But that's for another thread.That said I think his failings are, in season 2 he is at his worst as he is too hard on Buffy, and his humour gets too intrusive at certain points
Yeah that spoke volumes. His ‘I understand Anya I do... but you!’ ‘I didn’t think he had a chance with a girl like you’. There’s no doubt he’s in love with Anya but it’s clear he values Buffy as a person a LOT higher than AnyaXander is a great character and often times gets unwarranted vitriol in the fandom. His strengths are his caring nature, loyalty and humour. His weaknesses as set self doubt, judgemental of others but that’s usually with their best interests at heart and can be hypocritical. He definitely idiolises Buffy, even more so than Anya as evidenced by his reaction (once calmed down) to Anya sleeping with Spike which he understood versus Buffy sleeping with Spike which was beyond his comprehension. He told Spike ‘he would never have a chance with a girl like you’