- Jul 29, 2016
I disagree. Buffy's parents had just recently divorced so it's obvious she's going to be at least a little upset about it as her family unit dissolves. I also don't think Spike and Angel technically class as "older men" as such because, although they're vampires, they don't look "fatherly". Had Buffy tried to romantically pursue Giles then she would certainly have daddy issues.I disagree. At least in the popular usage of the term, a woman who has daddy issues is often because a father was absent or left her as happened to Buffy, and it greatly upset her as we see in season 1 Nightmares. Those with such issues fear abandonment just as Buffy does. They're also thought of as chasing older men which Angel and Spike both qualify as.
I don't think that means Spike has "mommy issues". His mother was his world (in a non-sexual way) and she was sick. He tried to make her better by turning her into a vampire and was horrified by how it changed her. When she's trying to come on to him, he rejects her and she tries to whack him one with her walking stick. As soon as he sees her vampire face, he stakes her because he can't bear to see his mother that way. He obviously found the whole experience traumatising because he repressed the memory for so long.season 7, as much as I hate to reference it, does make it clear that Spike's vampire mother rejecting him hurt him worse than anything before,
In my opinion, Spike's "thing" with his mother wasn't an oedipal complex but that of a child refusing to grow up. His mother still sang to him despite him being a grown adult, and even Dru wasn't keen on his suggestion of bringing his mother along on their travels. Spike wanted his mother to be with him forever and when she turned vampire, the confines of the mother/child relationship he'd enjoyed were suddenly blasted apart as his mother rejected him as her child but tried to have him as her lover. He certainly had an unhealthy attachment to his mother (which concerned even her) but we don't know the background as to why. There was no mention of Spike's father, so it's possible that either the dad left and Spike took it upon himself to care for his mother, or the dad died and made Spike promise to take care of his mother which Spike took extremely seriously (even as a vampire, Spike sticks to his side of bargains even when he has no reason to eg the deal with Ford).
If Spike had "mommy issues", then Joyce would've been much more a focus of his interest than Buffy. The fact Joyce then got sick would've also have sparked something in Spike where he would try and "save" her.
Just because Spike had a traumatic experience with his mother and Buffy's father was absent doesn't mean that they both have "mommy issues" or "daddy issues" respectively. If anyone has "daddy issues", it's Faith (at least in Season 3) and Drusilla, especially given the weird Dru/Angelus dynamic where she considers him "Daddy" yet allows him to have sex with her (though I don't think she really gets much of a say in the matter).
I disagree. Riley, Graham and Forrest had families they were going to visit on Thanksgiving so therefore the "orphan" trope wasn't necessary. Also Riley's Season 5 behaviour isn't as out of the blue as it first appears, especially when you take his behaviour in Goodbye Iowa and The Yoko Factor into consideration.Riley is harder to define as he's so different in season 4 when the writers tried to make Briley happen than in season 5 when they assassinated his character to make room for Spuffy. In season 4 he's practically a white knight for women while also respecting any authority they have and not being threatened by Buffy's strength. His breaking away from the Initiative and the chemicals pumped into him (and sudden withdrawal) do create intense stress, but I wouldn't call it mommy issues, it wasn't just Maggie's death that was causing the upset, though Maggie did foster a cult-like devotion to her (and I suspect all her "boys" that include Riley were taken from broken homes, foster care, etc).
I wouldn't call Riley's season 5 behaviour "mommy issues", more like emotionally manipulative, bordering on emotional abuse towards Buffy.Yet in season 5, he does exhibit classic mommy issues behavior by not trusting Buffy and being intensely insecure and jealous, and fearing she doesn't need him, and there's just a different "flavor" to him overall. It's so contradictory to me that I'm not sure how to read it.
I disagree to an extent. The way Angel is attracted to Buffy is completely different to the way Angelus was attracted to Drusilla. Angelus wanted to break Drusilla completely, he wasn't just content to destroy her life and drive her insane, he turned her into a vampire so her torment would be eternal. As a human, Drusilla would've believed in heaven and hell and hoped she would go to heaven when she died, Angelus took that hope away from her completely. I also think the reason why Dru is the only one of the Whirlwind to never get her soul back is because it would be too cruel to her. She's Angelus' eternal victim and a soul would just add even more torment.Angel is attracted to Drusilla, Buffy, the various maidens and nuns because of their innocence and purity.
If Angelus was about destroying Drusilla, then Angel was about protecting Buffy. He saw her "purity" but it wasn't the same as Drusilla's. Buffy's "innocence" wasn't about being a virgin, it was that she wasn't yet jaded by the life of a slayer. Spike's "Every slayer has a death wish" is a simplification on what probably actually happens, Slayers have a moment where they wonder what's the point in fighting as the vampires and demons seem never ending, and in that moment of hopelessness is when they get killed. If slayers actually wanted to die to end their fight, then they probably would commit suicide since it would be faster and likely a lot less painful than at the hands of a vampire/demon. Angel wanted to support Buffy in her fight so that it wouldn't break her.
Back to Xander, I think he's the one with "daddy issues". His Restless dream in regards to Spike and Giles is very telling. Giles saying "Spike is like a son to me" is almost like a rejection of what Xander wants, rather than considering Xander like a son, Giles prefers the person Xander hates the most. If Joyce is the mother figure to the scoobies, then Giles is the father figure, and yet Giles does not acknowledge Xander in the same way he acknowledges Buffy or Willow.
Agreed.The redflags for Riley being unable to stand Buffy's strength and darker/slayer side are waved from pretty much the beginning (the Initiative, Doomed, and pretty much the back half of S4), so his character wasn't assassinated as much as developped.