30 year old evicted from Parents home

[November]

This case appeared on one of those timewasting news shows. It seems pretty extreme measures to get a child to leave the nest.

SYRACUSE, N.Y. – It's a case that pitted a mom and dad against their own son. The couple wanted the 30-year-old to move out of their home in upstate New York. Despite eviction notices and offers of cash, he wouldn't budge, CBS New York reports.

So now, a court ruling is forcing him out, and he's complaining about his parents.

"I don't want to live there anymore," Michael Rotondo said Wednesday on CNN.

But that hasn't spurred him to find a new place to live – even though his parents want him to move out and on with his life.

30-year-old man evicted from his parents' house: "I don't want to live there anymore"

I am not really sure where I stand on it, the bottom half of me thinks he is a deadbeat dad who is not providing for his own child, the other half wonders what circles he runs in and if this is the norm of his area.


What do BBers think is the best age and situation to live independently from the family home? Has our (millennial) generation become the laziest in history, or are there real barriers to finding homes that do not apply to other generations? Are there any families here from cultures that do live in multigenerational housing? Is it the parents responsibility to care for the child regardless of age or circumstance, or does there come a time when the parents need to stick the boot in?

And for a note of humour - What is your most shocking share house story?

I'd be a little scared of living with or near this guy. I truly hope and wish and pray that I will never have to share my home and my space with humans ever again. Bunnies are lovely housemates.

 

[Anyanka Bunny Slayer]

I got kicked out when I was 17...as for a share house story, I'll have to think. There's SO many...

 

[brinkster130]

I don't know if I find this story sad or funny.

I don't believe that millennials are the laziest generation, previt generations taking down on the newer ones is just what people do.....at some point there will be a new generation to complain about. (It's the whole I walked to school uphill both ways thing.) There are certainly more obsticals to finding and affording housing today in America than there was for previous generations; that being said this guy might be lazy. It sounds like his parents have been asking him to move out for an extended period of time and have offered money to help him do so.

From my understanding of cultural multigenerational living, it's not so much a burden of taking care of adult children forever. It's more of a group effort type thing. Like everyone living in one house while they save up to buy another house. Or sticking with family until your married as they don't want someone to be "alone" in the world. Certainly there are some who live this way because of financial hardships, but there seem to be a fair amount who choose it.


I can't think of any funny house stories, but I did have a roommate who met someone of Myspace and went on a date with then. That person ended up being homeless and stayed with us for 3 months. It was kinda odd to have a roomie come back from a date with a person and tons of luggage.

 

[Taake]

What do BBers think is the best age and situation to live independently from the family home? Has our (millennial) generation become the laziest in history, or are there real barriers to finding homes that do not apply to other generations?

Definitely don't think it's laziness. Major housing shortage here, especially for affordable apartments that young people who are students / have their first jobs can afford. If you don't have parents who can buy you an apartment then you're kind of screwed. Most are desperate to get out, but are unable to. I don't believe that anyone really wants to live with their parents once they're 19-20, but maybe that's just me (my brother is also desperate to get out). On that note...

And for a note of humour - What is your most shocking share house story?

I was so desperate for an apartment that I moved in with a guy who said I could live rent free as long as I was accepting of him being a transvestite and as long as he got to massage my feet at least three times a week... Didn't work out... and instead I spent most of my twenties couch-surfing, living in various horrible house-sharing constellations that I'd rather repress. I'm very pleased to live alone with a dog now. Pets are much better housemates than people 😀

 

[badsister]

Oh yeah. Lazy. Ofc. Have to say that rent is really high. and the average salary is like 428$. but the rent can be much higher depends on where you want to live. but then again if you rent a cheaper apartment it means that it will be on the outskirts of the city and you'll have to pay about 100$ per 3 months for transport. add up paying for the university(well if you're studying for free you get scholarship but from my experience i can say it's tiny). the dorms from uni are offered only for people from other cities or countries. other dorms are cheaper ofc but then again...you really don't want to live there esp if you're a girl. buying an apartment is just not an option cause no bank will give you a loan for 50 000$ if your salary is less than 500$ lmao. and 50 000 is actually cheap for an apartment lol.

 

[DeadlyDuo]

I think 30 is the upmost limit to still be living at home. Anything beyond that starts to get a little weird. However, rising house prices do force people to stay at home longer and if you can't afford rent by yourself then you're kind of stuck because until you can support yourself financially then you're only going end up back where you started but worse off. Also I think you have to take into account emotional readiness. Some people are more emotionally confident to live independently than others.

 

[badsister]

I've shared an apartment with my sis and her bf. Then I shared an apartment with a friend from uni but it turned out that he's on heroin and he would invite people over and once I walked into a kitchen and i see a random dude shooting up in his groin area. Um. So I went to live with parents again cause well 5 rooms apartment, lots of space and we can even not see each other for days with our schedules

 

[Skanky Vamp]

I was so desperate for an apartment that I moved in with a guy who said I could live rent free as long as ... he got to massage my feet at least three times a week...

Why do good things never happen to me. Although I think I would opt for suckle versus just massage. Maybe massage with an option for a once-a-week suckle. If I try to strike that deal with a skirt here I get reported as some kind of... miscreant.

 

[November]

From my understanding of cultural multigenerational living, it's not so much a burden of taking care of adult children forever. It's more of a group effort type thing. Like everyone living in one house while they save up to buy another house. Or sticking with family until your married as they don't want someone to be "alone" in the world. Certainly there are some who live this way because of financial hardships, but there seem to be a fair amount who choose

Yeah when I wrote that question I was thinking along the lines of indian and asian households. They look almost joyful in their care of family on tv 😛. It is an different culture to where I am, my family were all expected to be well out of home once schooling had finished (so, 18 for my stepsisters and 26 for my baby sister lol) I mean, if anything happened to my mother, i would take care of her in the home in a heartbeat. I wonder if this could be a solition to our current aged care crisis. I dont really know why more people are being cared for by their parents at my age Vs people caring for their elderly parents. Maybe this will change as I age. I notice more multigenerational situations where i live now and adore my neighbours who are widowed sisters. Perfect for them to live like that.


It is ideal to stay at home and wait until you have the money to buy a house. But what if the parents do not have the money to support an adult child rent free? That does seem like an entitled child to me - to not have to pay rent with no intention of leaving. Maybe the word is greedy rather than lazy? How do divorce rates factor into this?

In australia, I know very few people who moved out of their parents home and into one they own straight away . The few i do know had very very rich parents who went guarentor for the homeloans, and even then most of them were out and married with kids before 30. Most of my high school friends have only recently been able to get into a home they own (with 30 year morgages and excessive work stress). I agree that housing prices are outrageous in some areas, but there are also some who dont want to change extravegant lifestyles to become independant.

The part that makes me go 😱 is that this guy is a father himself - blaming his inability to leave on not having access to hid child - but that appears a decent ruling, if he is unable to support and live by himself, how can the courts expect him to be a competant father to the child? It appears that acting like an adult would help his chances of seeing his kid sooner.

I have mainly lived on my own since about 22(?) When i found a shed to live in ALONE. Alone is bliss, i do not know why so many people are scared of the thought. I left home at 14 but was in boarding school by 15. I have some wonderful stories from there. The boys enjoyed catching feral animals and sticking them under pillows and in beds. Reminds me of Joyce "I'll rip it in half and stick it in bed with me" that happened to a number of rabbits, rats and snakes... Lol

 

[brinkster130]

Yeah when I wrote that question I was thinking along the lines of indian and asian households. They look almost joyful in their care of family on tv 😛. It is an different culture to where I am, my family were all expected to be well out of home once schooling had finished (so, 18 for my stepsisters and 26 for my baby sister lol) I mean, if anything happened to my mother, i would take care of her in the home in a heartbeat. I wonder if this could be a solition to our current aged care crisis. I dont really know why more people are being cared for by their parents at my age Vs people caring for their elderly parents. Maybe this will change as I age. I notice more multigenerational situations where i live now and adore my neighbours who are widowed sisters. Perfect for them to live like that.


It is ideal to stay at home and wait until you have the money to buy a house. But what if the parents do not have the money to support an adult child rent free? That does seem like an entitled child to me - to not have to pay rent with no intention of leaving. Maybe the word is greedy rather than lazy? How do divorce rates factor into this?

I don't think people should count on their parents to support them and most of the people I know who have lived at home past 18 did have jobs and contribute to rent or groceries.

Here is an update on that man child:
Man Evicted by Parents Calls 911 After Being Called 'Loser'

 

[Skanky Vamp]

Things seem to be looking up for him and he's getting stuff in order but someone wants to jam up his phone by prank calling him. Tsk tsk. He's got a job now, has income and is quasi-famous. His parents suing him worked wonders. Father does know best.

 

[November]

Yeah the publicity served him well. And I sorta love all the people who are offering him jobs, how wonderful would it be for 6 months down the track to see him working for someone, living in a place of his own and on the way to having visitation with his child. Late blooming is better than never blooming.

I guess the article triggered #jealousy in me - mainly because it appeared just after I refused to give free accommodation, meals and petrol to a city "friend". She has now instead booked an overseas holiday with her man child (who is closer to 40 and still lives with his mumma, but at least has a job) while her parents look after her 6 show ponies... This girl doesnt work, doesnt pay rent, doesnt pay for her car but has managed to save enough in newstart (jobsearch payments) for an overseas holiday to make babies. I could rant all day. But I really, really dont want to. WHY DO I EXPOSE MYSELF TO FACEBOOK??!?!?! If I didnt have to go there to look for local long weekend events, I would be completely unaware of the rash of mid 30 yr old children who are still living at home and treating welfare as pocket money, headed down my way for the wine festival weekend. Grrr. Apparently its ok to be an unemployed alcoholic as long as you are white and look pretty doing it.

I miss my job today lol.