A friend just killed herself!!!

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Slaying_Spuffy

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Okay, I know this really weird, but I just had to say it somewhere. There's this girl named Justine (aka justice) that I was BEST friends with from kindergarden until 7th grade. Then I had to move. Well, I just got word that yesterday she hung herself because her boyfriend of a year or so dumped her.

She left her family a note saying stuff like "I know you're all sad, but remember that it's not the end of the world. It's hard to die knowing that the sun will keep rising and setting and that birds will keep singing. But it had to be done"

and she even told them to say goodbye to me for her! Which is weird, cause I haven't talked to her in like 2 months!

Sorry, I just had to tell somebody! It's such a surprise!
 
Awww, I'm sorry hun, are you okay? I'm really sorry this happened. Pm me if you want to talk. And believe me when I say people here are gonna say something because I've had a couple breakdowns here and everybody tried to help...People here are nice and they want to help. We're one big buffy boards family
 
this isn't weird spuff...its far more common than people may think...

i think that we as a society like to believe that no one is capable of such a thing...but we need to realize that anyone is capable of suicide...

its hard because there are so many people in this world...and people just get drowned out by distractions...like tv...entertainment...job...

but for me...the best entertainment i have is just having a good conversation with a person...genuine and cool...sharing thoughts and feelings...and stories...and thats what ties us to this world...our relationships to other people...

and so...for me...the best way you can prevent tragedies like this...is to take some time out of the day to just talk...bullshit...tell jokes...spend some quality time with someone...it may not mean much...but...it goes a long way...trust me...

may Justine...let the cables sleep...
 
K
killerdwarf
Listen to this very wise man. I did just what he's said last week when my friend died unexpectedly, and it works. Hurts, but heals too.
God I'm so sorry for you.. I have no idea what to say in a situation like this.. I have never been through that.. but I've had very very close friends who have tried to kill themselves and one that was so close to dying... "Only" that made me.. totally ruined and I know this must be so much harder.. You can never be prepared for something like this, it's always a shock and it's always terrible, of course, hm.. As I said I don't know what to say, since I'll obviously not be able to make anything better but... I really wish I could..
 
omg... i'm so sorry spuff! my heart is with you right now!! and feel free to PM me as well, if you need to!! Like destructo said, we are a big BB fam, and if you need anything, i and others are here for you!

yeah, suicide is a messy/ugly thing, and more common then we would like it to be. it's good she left a note though! casue at least she gets to explain it, and say goodbye.... 🙁. (a guy my lil brother new killed himslf about a year or so ago, and he didn't say anythinhg, didn't leave anote either. just drove to the side of this motorway in our hometown and shoot himself.... 🙁)

and i hope you have people who can be there for you now...
 
Aw sweety. I'm so sorry. I want you to know that you can approach me or anyone else on this board for support via thread or PM. Don't hestitate. OK?

As Soulgasm has already said, suicide among young people is not uncommon. I know that doesn't bring her back but it's important that you know. 2 months is not a long time to stop talking to someone for. You 2 were friends for so much longer than that. It obviously meant a lot to her. I'm very sorry for your loss.

I can't imagine what it would be like to lose a friend through suicide but I know that there will be people here that do. I also know that they will be willing to lend an ear.

My advice to you would be to make sure that you have someone to talk with at home or at school. This could be absolutely anyone so long as you are sharing the load. Also make sure you drop in on us from time to time. A PM to just about anyone in this place is not a PM wasted.

My thoughts are with you and Justine's family.
 
I'm so sorry about your friend. I think we are putting way too much pressure on our young people since this is not an uncommon occurrance (as others have said).

If you need anything at all feel free to pm me or anyone else here.
 
OMG!!! I am SOOOO sorry!!! :bluesad: I know exactly how you feel! My best friend a couple of years ago, killed herself by O.D. on pills. But, this is not to get sympathy, I'm just saying that I know what you're going through, so PM me ANYTIME if you wanna talk!! Good luck!! My thoughts and prayers are with you.
 
I'm so sorry for you! You can never be prepared for these things, no matter how much you have or have not thought about it before. I've had friends that been close to killing themselves, and that totally shook me up. It's so hard to imagine how it would be to be in your situation, but I do know that I would need to talk to people, so if you wanna talk, don't be afraid to PM me. Hope you got good support around you to help you in this sad time.
 
That's too bad, honey. It just really is upsetting when anybody dies, no matter the relation to them or the cause.

Keep tugging along. You obviously have some fond memories of your friend because of the time you spent together, so hopefully that will help you through. Be strong.

If you need anything, support, a place to rant about your feelings, you can pm me. I'll try to help you if you need someone to talk to.

Thoughts and prayers to you.
 
Hey Spuff... I know it seems monotonous, hearing this, but we really are all here for you... I went through this not too long ago, and I was in the situation you are in now... One of my umm used to be current close friends committed suicide not too long ago, and the hardest part was that I wasn't anywhere near him. I was out on a coast with the Navy, and I found out from another friend while I was sailing. I took it hard too, and was landed for compassionate leave... So if you need to talk to someone, I'm also here... That's the best thing for it though... Get out all your feelings and aggressions about it... I spend a day by the ocean and yelled at Mike (the guy) for what he did, and it honestly helped... 🙂
 
Sorry to hear about your loss hon. I find it very sad that someone so young should want to take their own life...
 
Awww I'm so sorry, Spuff! But everybody is right. Suicide, unfortunatley, is very common these days. My prayers and sympathies (sp?) are with you, Justine, and your families. You can pm me as well.
 
I was so incredibly sorry to hear about your loss. 🙁 I would say 'I Know what you are going through', but I can't even imagine how you must be feeling, as I have never lost somebody close to me through suicide, and especially nobody so young. This is so sad. My sympathies are with you, her family, and everybody who was close to her.
 
I feel sorry for you & her family. It's good that you wrote it here if you felt you needed to tell about it. Don't bottle things up, that can make things worst, generally speaking but even more when the matter is serious & sad like this one, trust me.
You said "sorry", don't feel sorry for telling things like this one, really. Everyone in here is willing to help the other members, & I never saw anyone being rejected when saying things they needed to take out of their chests. On the contrary!
oh, & of course, feel free to pm me too if you need, or want, I'd be glad to bring support if I can...
 
Aaah sweetie I'm so very sorry to hear this. We can never really know why people do these sorts of things. And the worst part...is the effect it has on the people they leave behind.

Big hugs to you honey *HUGS*
 
So sorry to hear about ur friend. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and Justine's families. I totally agree about not bottling stuff up, so I too am ready to listen if you need someone to talk to.
 
Aww thanks for all the support.

Today was pretty upsetting at school. I had to tell everybody else about what happened. Some cried but also, some people are just like "That sucks," and blew it off.
 
Don't be fooled, Spuf...people deal in different ways, and some deal by not dealing, if that makes any sense. Suicide is always a tragedy, and usually the survivors are left devastated. We're here to see that you have a place to vent, rant, or just philosophize about "why". We all have our own versions of answers, so if you need to talk, pick any one of the folks who are here...we'll all listen!

take care

kd
 
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