Are you happy with your looks?

Sofie

Sofie

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I was thinking about all the money the beauty industries make from plastic surgeries makeup etc mostly because of people's insecurities.

And I was wondering how do people on the boards feel about thier looks?
 
I'm fine, though that's very unusual. I know I must add that it's not that I think I'm beautiful--I'm not by any means, and can detail my flaws as my model mom pointed them out to be enough times--but I know I'm pleasant enough for most to look at. (And let me say right here that looks do matter, and women can be just as shallow as men in this regard. Even babies react to appearances, and likewise, cuter babies get better attention than their less cute fellows.)

It could be that I don't place such importance and self-esteem upon relationships, but I think what it actually is was being raised by my model mother. She put up with such abuse in the modelling industry that I couldn't imagine putting up with it myself. She views what she endured with pride, like a mountain climber overcoming a mountain (though she never got to be as famous as she hoped), but I have too much self-respect to willingly endure what she did from modeling agencies, other models, and the like. When she often criticized my looks and saying why I couldn't be a model like her, she'd then talk wistfully of her glory days which were so horrid sounding to me (though she liked it) that I felt more like I dodged a bullet that I didn't have to worry about my mom trying to force me into that at some point.

She shared a lot about the beauty industry as well, like how she had to stay in one position for hours while a professional crew worked on her (before photoshop, though modelling life sounds remarkably the same despite the technology should change it significantly, at least off the live runways) and then they'd apply one piece of cosmetics, just a dab in addition to all the other cosmetics applied to her, to advertise that one product with the false message that if you bought that makeup then you could look a lot like her. Same for clothing and many other things. (It also gobsmacks me how many people think that models look the same at home as when they're on the job.)

I've always wanted to get my mom's reaction to this video, because even though Mom considers her modeling days as her glory days, I couldn't help but be reminded of them (when I hadn't thought of them in years) when I saw this:


As a result, when I look at ads put out by the beauty industry, I view them through a very cynical lens and feel sorry for the models (though I know many of them are proud to be where they are) and know it's a bunch of illusions (especially in these days of photoshop). And I think that deprives the beauty industry of power over me. (Likewise my mom smoked Virginia Slims, a cigarette promoted to her in fashion magazines, and when I looked through a woman's magazine that advertised her brand of cigarettes with "Find Your Voice" I silently thought in response, "Through your hacking cough." It was just another lie to me.)

I know that in prosperous times men tend to go "metrosexual" (called by other names decades and centuries past), but I hope the beauty industry fails to capture the male market as thoroughly as it has the female. Men have enough problems as it is without that (so do women, actually, but right now that's one of them).
 
Sofie
Sofie
I appreciate how much detail this has :) and do agree
Not really to be honest. I think I look cute enough in pictures but I feel like it's a lot different than how I look in real life ☹ I wish i looked like the guy from divergents girlfriend or Sofia vassilieva or Cameron diaz
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But there's nothing I can do about it so I just try to get on with it and not give it too much thought but it bothers me at times especially when the cute guys don't like me.
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This thread reminded me of this video 😂😂 lol
 
Im totes happy with my looks. Other people seem to have the problem with it. I muck about all the time between my derro work clothes and proper pretty dresses in public. Pretty amazing to see how differently people treat you depending on how you are dressed! Shaving my head was another shock to the social system round here, and when I dont wear a bra, the women get pocessive of their men. Flippin hilarious. Gotta find some new bras
for serious though, I wana start riding again and dont need black eyes added to the look.
 
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I look at all these minor celebrities having major cosmetic surgery and I just feel bad for them. Like yeah, I'm no supermodel and never will be but I feel like cosmetic surgery would never be an option (unless for medical reasons). For them to plump up their lips and thin their noses and lipo lipo lipo, they must be under so much pressure to do so. That's just really sad. The only pressure I'm under is my own.
 
I sometimes thought about getting my teeth straightened to 'improve my looks' but it cost a lot and I can't be bothered going through with all the appointments and so on. I'm quite happy with my looks, in general. I'm naturally petite with a very small waist, wide hips and the t&a, like what the men like. I avoid wearing dresses on nights out because I get hassle. I'm too much of a tomboy to really put any effort into appearances, I just wear what's comfy.
 
I like the way I look. My face and hair are the parts I like the most.
My torso region I like the least. I wish my bust was a little larger, but not enough to go have surgery over it. I also wish I was slightly thinner, but I like sweets and alcohol a bit too much to have the perfect bod. I'm by no means fat, and I don't think I am, just wish I was more toned. I work out, but when you love to eat horrible it kinda counteracts the gym time hahaha
 
If I had Kardashian money I bet I'd be nipping and tucking just as much as the lot of them! Probably a good thing I don't have that kind of cash 😉 I don't really hate how I look, but I'm pretty self-critical and there are several 'adjustments' I wouldn't mind making. 🙂
 
Not at the moment. I've always been more or less the same build and stayed that way without thinking about it. Now it appears I'm consuming more than I'm burning off. I've developed a mid section that I could do without.

I've always assumed losing weight was about eating less/better and doing more so I'm starting with that. A salad for lunch today and I'm just home from an evening run.
 
I am quite happy with my look and I am one of the lucky people who just can't have complexe because I just don't bother with them. Believe me I tried to make myself as a teen but for some reason I just never thought I was ugly or unusual enough to care. I would love to work out more but only to be healthier anf feeling stronger not for my look. I'll probably never do it anyway because I am happy with the way I look as of now 🙂
 
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