Boyfriend to leave me

[Captain Malcolm Reynolds]

Hey guys. Guess what? My boyfriend decided that he didn't want to be with me anymore. He thinks that it is too much stress on him and never thought what would happne to me when he did. I love him and now that he is going to leave i don't want to let him go with out a fight. Should i keep fighting for him or let him go? I really love him and i really don't want to loose him. He means everything to me right now. I think that it's due part in the fact that he is in the hopsital and he needs to focus on himself but he didn't need to break up with me to do that. He expects that when he comes back things are going to be different. That i won't want to be with him and cry over him. That is not the case. I know that when i see him i will cry because i can't help it.

 

[polexia]

what happend to your bf?
man that is pretty bad! i'm so sorry! all i really have to say is that if you think there is really something there: then you should fight to it goes your way, or he really goes far out of reach... you should fight for this it is what you really want!!! GOOD LUCK!

 

[Nix]

you need to tell him this, perhaps he just needs some space to deal with being in hospital...other wise...i know the rest will hurt like hell but believe me its not the end of the world but it might feel like it.

 

[Rayne]

I guess it would all depend on the guys real reasons...if you sense that he is simply pushing people away because of some problem that will leave him physically alterd and you care enough for him that you know you can stick by him then yes, fight. But not now. Let him know you're there and that you want to support him. Then give him his space. Let him get beyond any fears and let yourself decide if you can really handel whatever is going on.

But if this guy is just getting his appendix out and he's brushing you off...then just try to move on.

LOL, it's really going to depend...tell us more if you can...

 

[Jenny]

Originally posted by Rayne
I guess it would all depend on the guys real reasons...if you sense that he is simply pushing people away because of some problem that will leave him physically alterd and you care enough for him that you know you can stick by him then yes, fight. But not now. Let him know you're there and that you want to support him. Then give him his space. Let him get beyond any fears and let yourself decide if you can really handel whatever is going on.

But if this guy is just getting his appendix out and he's brushing you off...then just try to move on.

LOL, it's really going to depend...tell us more if you can...

Couldn't agree more Rayne.

If he's very seriously ill, he could be pushing you away to save you from going through something long and painful with him. He might not want to watch you suffer as well...and feel he's doing the 'noble' thing by pushing you away. In that case, I say fight.

However, there is that age old saying, something like "if you love something enough, set it free. If it was meant to be, it'll come back to you."

Sometimes we have to let go of things we love, because we love them.

 

[Chasity]

Originally posted by redslayer

However, there is that age old saying, something like "if you love something enough, set it free. If it was meant to be, it'll come back to you."

Very good point, redslayer. Sometimes people see things very clearly once outside (a break) of a situation as well.

 

[Hero]

I dunno. Everyone knows how my last relationship went so I dunno if I can say anything lol. Um. I think that if he can't see how good you are, then you should let him go and find someone who does.

 

[*Lost Angel*]

*Gives spikelova a hug*

Ok well, I know how you feel, Im afraid of the same thing. My boyfriend is graduating and going to a privae collage in europe and Im afraid Im gonna have to let him go too *cry* But if its for the best then I think letting go is important. Ive been with him for 1 and a half years and he is very important to me but its just gonna have to be and I exepted it. You should too....if its to help him, letting go is important. You will meet somone else you love someday soon I promice.

 

[ana8]

You should try not to be so depressed..he might see his mistake and come back or you'l find someone more appropriate for you soon...

 

[Allycat]

I hate to sound mean or anything, but let him go, don't fight. If he's really in the hospital and is breaking up to give himself some rest, the last thing he needs is a fight with you.

 

[Lorne The Host]

"You know it wasn't so long ago
When things weren't as we know
Back when I was younger and had a hunger
For all the things I didn't know
And I remember the day when
I went out to play
And I bird flew down to my hand
Didn't want to leave and
When I asked to keep
I remember my dad said
Yeah son let it go away
Hope that it comes back
Here to you some day
Just let it go away
And if it comes back
you know it's here to stay
Since then I've gone through changes
Since then I've gone through life
Since then I found me a beautiful woman
I thought could be my wife
She said she really loves me
But she said she couldn't stay
She said I've got to go my love
To find things my own way
So I let her go away
Hope that she comes back
Here to me some day
I let her go away
And if she comes back
I know she's here to stay
There's not always reasons for the things in life
But it's comforting to know within your mind
If you love something enough
And you've done all that you can
If there's one thing I have known and learned first hand
Sometimes you have to just let it go away
Hope that it comes back
Here to you some day
Just let it go away
And if it comes back
You know it's here to stay
Let it go away
And if it comes back
You know it's here to stay
Let it go"

Let It Go, by Depswa

 

[Biggest Bad]

Well i'm debating myself here...Part of me wants to say you sound like you really love this guy and he shouldnt just do that without an explanation, but then the other part wants to say that the guy is in the hostpital...Maybe he just needs a break...When he gets out, try to talk to him...But you would just be better off letting go...