Alright...I feel extremly guilty to be bringing this up, but I feel like it just has to be said.
Xander has been my favorite character for a long time... But I was watching Dead Man's Party and realized that he's really been horrible towards Buffy a number of times, always when sh'e vulnerable.
I know Buffy can dish it out too, but I've never felt like she was purposefully hurtful, and I think that Xander has been, a number of times:
Becomming - He doesn't tell Buffy what Willow's doing. Maybe he was trying to make things easier for her, but he still should have told her (Glad to see that this was finally addressed in Helpless; about damn time!)
Dead Man's Party - He goes at her when she's obviously vulnerable, when he really has no idea what's going on.
Revelations - Instead of talking to Buffy like a big boy, he runs of to Giles and get's everyone to gang up on Buffy. What really bugs me is that no one would listen to Buffy about why she didn't tell them about Angel. Than Xander goes and tells Faith about the incident.
There are other times, but these are the one's that bothered me the most, why? Because Xander is supposed to be such a ffriend and a people person... He had no idea what was going on with Buffy at these times, and didn't seem to want to. (I know this is the writers and not the character himself). Has anyone else noticed this?
If you think i'm crazy...Well, you wouldn't be the first...
~Kindred