Buffy and Spike fighting

[Chosen Enemy]

I really like it when Spike and Buffy throw punches at each other, it's really fun to watch, it's a dance. But when they verbal fight, it really hurts me. Like in season 7, when Buffy yells at him because she wants him to be like the old Spike (or in other words, less sissy). I get the feelings that Buffy and Spike (or at least Spike) think the same as me. They enjoy kicking each other's butts, that's how they relate. But as of season 7, they both feel very hurt by each other's words. And it's really hard to watch. Any thoughts?

 

[white avenger]

I really like it when Spike and Buffy throw punches at each other, it's really fun to watch, it's a dance. But when they verbal fight, it really hurts me. Like in season 7, when Buffy yells at him because she wants him to be like the old Spike (or in other words, less sissy). I get the feelings that Buffy and Spike (or at least Spike) think the same as me. They enjoy kicking each other's butts, that's how they relate. But as of season 7, they both feel very hurt by each other's words. And it's really hard to watch. Any thoughts?

I don't think that it's the actual butt kicking that they enjoy as much as the exhilaration that they feel in the sensation of being able to extend themselves to their very limits and beyond against a partner, not an opponent, who is as close to being their equal as either one has ever encountered. Remember, unique of everyone, both human and demon, who she ever faced, Spike was the only one who Buffy never decisively beat. From over 40 years experience in the martial arts, I can attest to the fact that something like that can result in an adrenalin rush so intense that it is absolutely intoxicating. You reach a point beyond what you had always believed was your absolute limits and the feeling is absolutely indescribable.

That is why, I have always believed, that Buffy would no more have ever staked Spike, even when he was evil, than Spike would have drained her. The dance became addictive, in exactly the same way that magic became addictive to Willow.

 

[Joan the Vampire Slayer]

I totally agree with this. Spike and Buffy have their own "language", which is very physical. They work out their problems though fighting. Talking, though? A whole different story. Both have a lot of pride, and it's hard for them to really tell eachother how they feel. There's no much water under the bridge.