Disliking your friends...

Wow elmo, this donna sounds really like a b*tch.
I mean, telling about personal thing just coz she isn't ur friend anymore ! I always thought there was a kind of privacy in any friendship, like an implicit pact, which made that even when you're not friend with a person anymore, you keep for yourself everything the person told you when you were friends. That's not be nice, that just respect or I donno, but it seems logical, how can you betray that? I can't understand ! ::thumb:: anyway...

Trustno1 : don't give up on your friend, I mean if you can. Even if she refuses to see it, she actually may still need you & your gang. I know how hard it is to convince this kind of person, because she changed & think that she is so right & that everyone else is wrong. But to change that much in such a little time, it can be only coz she got probs. Well, I think, it's what I noticed personally.
Maybe you wouldn't catch her back but it's worth trying.

I personally never (thinks & tries to remember) had a prob with the ones who were my friends.
Mostly we just lose track.
I'm mosqtly trying to keep in touch with them. (particulary with one that was in my school when I was 7. We remained friends till 14 I think, despite the very long distance, we wrote to each other, & see once a year. But then she stopped writing & I give up, coz I guess you can't keep in touch with someone you knew for 2 years when you were little. lol). I tend to run after my friend not to lose touch, but I realized that was mostly useless & now I focus on the present, & when they go away, after a few attempt I give up.
Then, well, there's my best friend that I know for 10 years now, & that's the person I trust the most in the world, lol
We've been arguing a lot, mainly when we were in junior high school (& it was mostly my fault coz I was bad tempered) but in the end, we built a solid friendship.
As for other ppl, well, I'm not the kind of person to trust easily, so, of course there are ppl I get along with but no one really know me & since I don't trust most of time, for the reason you said elmo (i.e being betrayed when not friend anymore) I'm careful not to give out too much.
That's it ! 😛 Me & my borring life, lol ::rolf::
 
I am so like that at the moment.

Recently i started to notice how self obsessed all of my friends are. They don't give a damn about you or anyone else and it started to piss me off.

I think it all started when i was in my friends car and they started playingmusci i don't like really loud. Since then whenever they offer me lifts i say i can't go or i'd rather walk, which is true, but there's another eason.

So now ewverytime i see them i'm really off with them, and i think they're starting to notice, but i have bad luck with my friends. I've only had one friend who i've never had an arguement with or fallen out with and i've known her since i was born.
 
Frenchy Faith said:
Trustno1 : don't give up on your friend, I mean if you can. Even if she refuses to see it, she actually may still need you & your gang. I know how hard it is to convince this kind of person, because she changed & think that she is so right & that everyone else is wrong. But to change that much in such a little time, it can be only coz she got probs. Well, I think, it's what I noticed personally.
Maybe you wouldn't catch her back but it's worth trying.
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Thanks Frenchy. I won't completly give up on her, not until she completely cuts me out...but I just get frustrated that doesn't talk to us anymore...and when she does, I see faint glimmers of the "old" her, and it makes me think, well, maybe there is hope for her. *sighs* I dunno, I guess I'm just going to have to keep being there for her and see if that does anything
 
some of you ahev some really bad episodes!!

i know this girl who i've known for 18years(since she was 1 and i was 2, we're 19 and 20 now) and she admited that the raeson we haven't hung out that much for the last few years is beacause she was imbarresed to be seen with me... cause of my wacky cloths(sp?)(and then she relised my friends where way cool, and i knew all these guys she though was cute, and then i was okay again...)

i wasn't thrilled to hear that, but i was glad she told me cause then i know.. we don't see each other that much (we was so close when we were kids, but sorta slipt apart when we got older... we are medium friends now.. we only see and meat once a year or so, which is fine with me, cause i don't need that crapola 😉)

why couldn't the world be like the BB? all these nice respectable people??
 
Frenchy Faith said:
Wow elmo, this donna sounds really like a b*tch.
I mean, telling about personal thing just coz she isn't ur friend anymore ! I always thought there was a kind of privacy in any friendship, like an implicit pact, which made that even when you're not friend with a person anymore, you keep for yourself everything the person told you when you were friends. That's not be nice, that just respect or I donno, but it seems logical, how can you betray that? I can't understand ! ::thumb:: anyway...
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Yeah, I know! But she didn't seem to understand that. We were still friends but not that close anymore. Then she did that. She used to meet me after class first thing on a monday. She was waiting outside my class and I just walked away from her. I couldn't stand to even look at her. I sent her a letter cos I couldn't speak to her face-to-face. It basically said that she had no right to do that but I was willing to forgive her if she had the decency to apologise. She read the note in Classics, my friend was in that class with her. She scrunched it up and threw it away... so I never spoke to her again.
 
Elmo: good for you!(that you never talked to her again!!)

i was best friends with this girl for 3years, and when we where done with high school, we didn't see each other anymore, but she had talked about me to m,y old best friend, and a girl i knew, and she told them all lies! she made up this story that she had called me and asked if i wanted to do something, and then i had said that i was going over to my boyf, and then she had called him, and he had said that i wasn't sepouse to hang out with him that day(all lies, she just made up that whole thing!!)
she know alot of things about me that i'm really afraid she'll tell people.. cos she's always bad mouthing(sp?) people!!
 
I have found this true from graduating high school.

Your 'friends' aren't really your friends anymore when you move on to higher education and they move on to tattoos, booze, sleaziness and jobs at a strip joint. And they have the audacity to talk about you behind your back.
huh!
 
Man...I'm very sorry for all of you. This is a sad thread...yeah, I know what it's like...I usually have a lot of patience where friends are concerned...but I've been screwed by at least 15 poeple so far...but that's just the really close ones...it sucks...it's hard...sometimes it breaks you into a million pieces and you think you might suffocate...I don't usually ditch my friends...I'm usually the one that gets dissmissed. After awhile...well, years of this...I guess you learn to expect it. But life's too short right? People make mistakes...humans are imperfect creatures...what can ya do?
 
A few years back, I always felt like I was the left-out one in our little threesome, because Christina (the girl who's pissing me off now) and Tab (the girl I've gotten closer too) were in tennis together. I don't think it was an intentional thing, but you know how it is when there's two out of three that have this really big thing in common. I think Christina feels like the left out one now, which I can understand. Me and Tab have come to find out we have a lot more in common than any of our other friends. And Christina...she's just not like any of us. She's hella fun to hang out with, but she just...focuses on other things that I just really don't care about. I used to worry about keeping in touch after high school...but now, not so much.
 
Rayne said:
After awhile...well, years of this...I guess you learn to expect it. But life's too short right? People make mistakes...humans are imperfect creatures...what can ya do?
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Wise Rayne ! Hey, glad to see you back 🙂

elmo : yep, it's weird to see ppl changing that way. Anyway, she seemed to be someone really... mean or summin

polexia : it's exactly what I wonder all the time! lol, why the world isn't like BB? I mean it's not that complicated, respect others, don't do nasty things out of a game (he he he, thinking about the duck game)
But even online you can meet mean ppl unfortunately ::cd::
he he he, but your sentence is true trustno1
 
SpikedBuffy said:
I have found this true from graduating high school.

Your 'friends' aren't really your friends anymore when you move on to higher education and they move on to tattoos, booze, sleaziness and jobs at a strip joint. And they have the audacity to talk about you behind your back.
huh!
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🙂 LOL very well said!!!!
i have to say that i do agree!
 
it's happened so many times in the past that i can't say i've really ever truly had a friend. most of the time just using me. i did love grade school. but...recently...i'd never call her a "best friend" but i guess she was a good friend...
it's very hard for me to smile and laugh with her, cuz i know if she knew i was even pondering if i wasn't straight, she'd freak, tell everyone (which would lead to mass amounts of staring and whispering, and i have a thing with being looked at for a bit, its very easy for me to become self conscious, and i'm rather ignored now which works cuz of maturity levels and stuff. just kinda sucks cuz im really talkative and i do want to talk to ppl, i just dunno how)
and she would be so disgusted with me. see the one day, this girl drug another girl up the steps by her hand, and the look on her face...it was like you were told you had to eat a maggot pie with worms on a pedastel in front of leering ppl. it was rather horrible really.
so i'm sure she'll hate me, i'm sure everyone would find out from her, even if i got on my knees and begged it'd get out, and so would the beg which wouldn't help.
she's nice otherwise, cept when she gossips but...it's hard cuz i can't just ignore her, rides to and from, so...i dunno. i usually just sorta withdraw from everyone which prolly doesn't help cuz i never know what to do, and eventually they get the idea i dun wanna anymore. so they go, they may hate me for what i did, but not what i am. which i'd rather. i'm not really good at this stuff.

your situation rather sucks, i wish i could help somehow but... i dunno how...i'd just try and be there if she needs it, try to help when you can. eventually things get better tho, always do. ppl change, which is sometimes a good thing, but you're never the same as when you woke up cuz of all the things and thoughts that happened. gluck with it all, wish there was more sage advice i could think of to dispense but its early and i'm not sure i've anything near sage. just a few pysch classes and an overthinking mind.
 
I haven't done that to anyone but I've had one of my old best friends do that to me.(Not talking to you, Charming_slayer). It was a girl named Mandy. She was 2 years older than me & CS. When she went to Middle School she figured she was better than us. We've seen her in public a few times and said hi and she completely ignored us. That Bitch!
 
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