Dumped

[Anita Blake]

So, being in a morbidly depressed mood lately, I've decided to ask ya'll what your worst dumping/break-up experiences are.

What's the worst way you've ever been dumped?

What's the worst way you've ever dumped someone?

How many times have you been dumped?

How many times have you dumped others?

I'll even start it out by telling you the worst way I've been dumped. I was just dumped with a message on myspace.

 

[eponinethen]

Wow I'm really sorry to hear, gah, that's just.... Hope you will do better soon. I mean obviously you will, in a while, but that does really not sound like fun 🙁
Take care hun..

My worst was not being dumped at all, just ignored, and having to feel clingy and stupid and disgusting for not getting it, etc.. (Twice by the same person. Which proves what a stupid fool I am.. Not her fault though..)

Worst way I dumped someone, was doing basically the same thing. Although not even ignoring, just, treating her like shit by not being able to explain to her what was wrong with me, just.. Err.. (I was horrible..)

 

[Willow Rosenberg]

I've never been dumped, I've always been the one to do the dumping. Most of which were insignificant flings in high school.

Only one time when I consider to have dumped someone properly, and that was the first guy I was engaged to. I'd been with him for 3 years and I think it had become habit more than anything else for me. Then one evening he was late when he was supposed to come and see me, which was nothing new, and I had just had enough, so when he finally phoned me to say he wasn't going to coming down, I told him just to forget about it, he thought I meant that night, and I was like no, forget the whole relationship.

Took him ages to get over the fact that I'd dumped him just to be on my own, he was convinced that I was seeing someone else 'lol' Thats probably because most of the time his brain was in his trousers - he was unfaithful too & had this unique way of making it my fault! So glad I saw sense in the end!

Apparently he never got over me, as even years later, after I had my second son, he turned up at my mum's to see me! My brother took him out to the pub to tell him he had no chance, I was happily married to Andy and had got 2 kids etc. How I would of loved to have seen the look on his face! 'lol'

 

[Wicked]

Well, the worst way Ive been dumped was by text. That was harsh. Still friends with the guy though.

In fact its really the only time Ive been dumped.

I dont think Ive dumped anyone in a particularly harsh way. Im good friends with all but one of them. In fact pretty much best friends with them 🙂

 

[eponinethen]

Im good friends with all but one of them. In fact pretty much best friends with them 🙂

I don't know how people do that. I mean, I'm really glad it works for you, I just.. need to stay away from my ex's a bit? To not fall again, or to not be super bugged by them. Hm.

 

[4.O.cious Miss]

Re:

I'm sorry to hear that hun...But don't let it get you down. The way I see it it's their loss not yours...and the worst I've ever been dumped is when I was 19...I returned home from visiting my father. My boyfriend of 5 years told me that he and my best friend had been sleeping together while I was gone, and then he dumped me.My best friend (of 7 years) was sitting next to me and didn't say a word, she just smiled. It was gut wrenching...scandalous. But life goes on, and you're stronger for it. Trials and tribulations sweetie...

 

[Wicked]

I don't know how people do that. I mean, I'm really glad it works for you, I just.. need to stay away from my ex's a bit? To not fall again, or to not be super bugged by them. Hm.

Well out of my best friends in Glasgow Ive gone out with 3 of them. One of my ex's I hate though but luckily I never see him.

I dont know how. Its just easy for me. Becasue theyre such good guys, I cant not be friends with them. 2 of the relationships ended on good terms. One was messy but its over now. I was with him for nearly 2 years so its hard not to be friends with him 🙂

 

[eponinethen]

Well that does sound great 🙂 I guess it depends on what the relationship was like and how long you were a couple etc. Glad it works though, I've just started trying to be friends with this girl a hurt really badly about two years and a half ago.. Or maybe it is like you say, girls are more complicated 😉

 

[Wicked]

Most definately. I cant be friends with girls at all 🙂 Unless we barely see each other.

 

[eponinethen]

Lol. Well that doesn't sound liek a fun friendship, to almost never see each other I mean. I just find that, every time I've been close friends with a guy, they have (after a while) thought that it had to be more that friendship. Which has made me feel disgusted by them (that's how I work).

Girls never fall for me so it's all fine, lol....

 

[Wicked]

To me, guys are more honest. They tell you what they really think. Girls are more sneaky and 2 faced. But thats just my experience 🙂
Thats why all my friends are guys with only a couple of exceptions.

 

[Angel's vision]

I dumped a guy over the phone once cos it was so hard to tell him to his face as he was in a bad place emotionally, i tried to gently tell him. He had feelings for me i didn't so it was hard then i had to tell him to his face which was even harder ( he asked to meet)

then it was him trying to make me feel bad for saying that his feelings were unreciprocated i got a bit cross but he is married now and happy i never want to do that again.
But i have never been dumped which is lucky.

 

[eponinethen]

To me, guys are more honest. They tell you what they really think. Girls are more sneaky and 2 faced. But thats just my experience 🙂
Thats why all my friends are guys with only a couple of exceptions.

Yeah I totally get that, none of my friends (who are girls) are like that though 🙂

 

[Nix]

What's the worst way you've ever been dumped? stayed at a mates house - i got up in the night and found my bf at the time er entertaining my mate in bed..

What's the worst way you've ever dumped someone? i dont know i always try to be nice and as honest as poss. i supose when i was a teen i got a mate to do it 🙁 bad me

How many times have you been dumped? god knows i'm old lol

How many times have you dumped others? 4

I'll even start it out by telling you the worst way I've been dumped. I was just dumped with a message on myspace. - sorry babes that sucks

 

[Angels baby101]

Hmm honestly i've been broken up with more times then i've broken up with someone

The worst breakup i had was actually confusing, I was engaged and well in the beginning we werent really constantly around each other or whatever but we at least talked every day or every other day and all that anyways 6 months after we got engaged(his idea) he stopped comming around or calling except maybe a call every 3 weeks to say he loved me and he was busy working it got so bad that i basically wouldn't leave my house cause i was afraid he'd call and i'd miss the call then soon the calls stopped completely and i heard nothing of him... but yet i still didn't wanna leave just incase... i dunno worst breakup ever

anyways i remember the worst break up i caused was 2 weeks after we started dating i couldn't handle the way he acted seriously we'd go to the mall and he'd yell out the window to people he didn't even know going "WHATS UP MY HOME DOGGIES" and yeah i couldn't handle it so i basically told him i wasnt ready for a relationship cause he was a sweetheart and i didn't wanna have to tell him he was a moron.

in all i've broken up with maybe 3 people and been broken up with 6 times at least.

 

[Edmund Blackadder]

First things first, Anita as much as I feel bad for you, I would be lying if I didn't say i laughed at how you was dumped.
I'm not condoning it, its just so tacky that its amusing...to me.
Honestly though, a guy who could do something like that to you a)isn't worth you b) isn't someone you should worry about now you are single...see the comedy and laugh it off🙂


Now, generally i'm the dumped not dumper HOWEVER thats because i have such a high set of morals/ethics/standards that I never lower them for anyone, so women get annoyed and frustrated with me.

 

[Schillaci]

I have no problem telling a girfriend it is over, if I genuinely feel the relationship has run its course. I however, have commitment issues. If I think a girlfriend is getting too close than I will behave like a jerk until they dump me.

I've had two relationships that ended with violence(on their part). One of those was particularly bad and subsequently I had a minor breakdown because of it. That was about two years ago, a little while after that I joined the internet.

 

[Nix]

dzhug dude - hugs!
I know that one as i join net life after one of my long term rellies ended 🙂

 

[Joamna]

I'll even start it out by telling you the worst way I've been dumped. I was just dumped with a message on myspace.

That really sucks! I'm so sorry..

I haven't really been dumped yet, I did once find out that my boyfriend had been cheating on me by an other friend over msn though.. hm.

Both time I dumped someone I just waited way too long to do it, 'cause I was chicken or just scared to be alone or something.. I've been really good at getting involved with people without thinking and then just going along with it, eh..

A friend of mine just got dumped in a text message the other day, I don't know all that happened between them but either way it's just a shitty way of breaking up with someone.

 

[Summers Blood]

I've had horrible ways of being dumped, my most recent was that the guy didn't want to dump me so he just started to be really horrible to me until I stopped trying and we just drifted apart!

I'm going through a major dilemma at the moment, because I'm in a long distance relationship and although it started off really well it's been a bit crap since I last went to see him a couple of weeks ago, the important thing that I see in a long distance is communication but over the last 2 weeks we've not really spoke much and I'm too busy to go see him again, and it doesn't look like he is going to be coming to see me any time soon! So I'm thinking what's the point! The problem for me is, I just don't know how to do it! How should I finish it? He doesn't seem prepared to talk when I phone him and I refuse to do it via text so I'm stuck! How the hell do I do this?

I know I would hate to be dumped via phone or text but it's such a long drive just to go dump someone! Anyone got any ideas?