Dumped

[The Arcane]

I have, so far, never been dumped. Miracle huh? 😉

In fact, with the exception of one ex (who shall remain nameless) I've managed to stay friends with every girlfriend that I've had. There were bumps along the way, same as in any breakup, but I've been lucky in that I've managed to keep a friendship with pretty much all of them , to varying degrees.

Now, the next trick is finding that one girl who I think is the one that I want to stay with permanently. Other than Amy Lee, I mean! 😀

 

[zombie.apparatus]

well i've never actually been dumped.. .the truth is people i have only had very few guys i let into my life because im scared if i commit i will get hurt.. i know.. its pathetic.. so before they get the chance to know me i say goodbye.. i suck at the whole love thing.. 🙁

 

[CrazyMary]

The worst way I've been dumped? my last boyfriend dumped my on MSN...and also a few years ago another boyfriend dumped telling me that he liked someone that I was really close to, I spent 5 minutes trying to find out who it was...and he finally told me it was my best friend! I don't remember being that pissed off ...I HATE when people lie to me!

I managed to stay friend with the 2 people i dumped.I was just honest with them and we talked a lot cuz it's not something pleasant for any of us...

I don't really mind being dumped because I've never been with someone I really loved yet...

 

[Joamna]

I'm going through a major dilemma at the moment, because I'm in a long distance relationship and although it started off really well it's been a bit crap since I last went to see him a couple of weeks ago, the important thing that I see in a long distance is communication but over the last 2 weeks we've not really spoke much and I'm too busy to go see him again, and it doesn't look like he is going to be coming to see me any time soon! So I'm thinking what's the point! IThe problem for me is, I just don't know how to do it! How should I finish it? He doesn't seem prepared to talk when I phone him and I refuse to do it via text so I'm stuck! How the hell do I do this?

I would probably do it by the phone in this situation, it all really depends on what kind of relationship you've had and all though, you could always like try to get is attention by really saying you have something you need to talk about..
I've been in kinda the same situation, but it wasn't that long distance (plus I had some stuff at his place that I needed), but I let him know that I had something I wanted to talk about.. eh.

 

[Anita Blake]

I've had horrible ways of being dumped, my most recent was that the guy didn't want to dump me so he just started to be really horrible to me until I stopped trying and we just drifted apart!

I'm going through a major dilemma at the moment, because I'm in a long distance relationship and although it started off really well it's been a bit crap since I last went to see him a couple of weeks ago, the important thing that I see in a long distance is communication but over the last 2 weeks we've not really spoke much and I'm too busy to go see him again, and it doesn't look like he is going to be coming to see me any time soon! So I'm thinking what's the point! The problem for me is, I just don't know how to do it! How should I finish it? He doesn't seem prepared to talk when I phone him and I refuse to do it via text so I'm stuck! How the hell do I do this?

I know I would hate to be dumped via phone or text but it's such a long drive just to go dump someone! Anyone got any ideas?

Speaking from experience, if he would've asked me, I would've rather been dumped by the phone than anything else. Mine was a long distance thing too...but at least make it as personal as possible, if you aren't able to do it face to face. The phone is a good choice compared to other ways.

 

[Amber Benson]

The worst I've ever been dumped was by a girl I was engaged to. I was off in Nova Scotia and she was in South Carolina for school. I flew to see her for Christmas instead of seeing my family... And she broke the engagement off on Boxing Day (which is the day after Christmas for those who don't know). The worst part about it was I still had 7 days left in SC before I could go home.


The worst way I've ever dumped someone is known by those who need to know... And who know I was stupid, and am sorry.


I've only been dumped the once.


I've dumped every guy I've ever dated, which was before I was 15... plus the 5 girls I've dated since.



*hugs Anita*

 

[Frenchy Faith]

I have no problem telling a girfriend it is over, if I genuinely feel the relationship has run its course. I however, have commitment issues. If I think a girlfriend is getting too close than I will behave like a jerk until they dump me.

I've had two relationships that ended with violence(on their part). One of those was particularly bad and subsequently I had a minor breakdown because of it. That was about two years ago, a little while after that I joined the internet.

*hugs* for you

And I'm about the same, about dumping someone... like I couldn't tell my ex bf I wanted to break up (1.cause I didn't love him 2. cause I had come to terms with being gay during the time I was with him) soooo I stayed 6 extra months with him (out of 1 year) and I acted as bad as I could, like seriously I was a jerk, like reaaaally bad, lol until he got it (after my best friend had to tell him he needed to talk to me and me asking him if he felt like going on the way things were.. he said yeah he didnt see a problem in the first place.. he was maso I think...) so yeah.. he still broke up just cause I didn't wanna do it... and I wasted 6 months with him *sighs* oh well...
^ that was my worse way of dumping someone.. kinda

Worse way being dumped.. well kind of the same as epo... being ignored by this girl... we had something going on but it had never been out to anyone else (cause gayness = taboo)... and she was bi... and got a bf over a summer.. so it was weird and I kept getting my hopes high about stuff she'd tell me but she would never keep promises and stuff... and then she moved room (we were roomate) without telling me and blah blah...

 

[elmo]

I'm really sorry to hear about that Anita... 🙁 *hugs*

Hmmmmmm... Well I've only ever dumped anyone once. And that was the most recent... I'm not proud of the way I did it because I'm a big coward but we are still talking and that's kinda cool. I knew for a while that I didn't wanna be with him anymore. We were together for 3 and a half years and for almost 2 of those I was unsure of our future together (for various reasons that I won't go into right now😉). Anyway, to cut a long story short... when I finally got some courage to do something about it... it proved not to be enough courage. I dumped him with a text message... 🙁

I've been dumped 3 times.... but I was never really into them so... meh.

The worst way I've been dumped I guess would have to be when I met my then bf in town and we were holding hands and walking round and stuff. He saw this girl walk past (he liked her a lot) so he dropped my hand. Later when I called him he told me that he couldn't choose between us so he was gonna go with her cos I was moving to uni. lol.

 

[Randy Giles]

Well I got dumped through a frickin EMAIL...

Basically I liked this girl, she liked me. Our friends convinced us to date. We sort of did but after we were together, my "friend" tried ruining the relationship by lying to us both, so we thought the other one didn't really like us. On Halloween the girl's friend said that she had said she was thinking we should break up because we weren't talking anymore because of the lies being told by other people. My "friend" called her and asked her and the girl denied it, yet the next day emailed me and broke up with me but wanted to remain friends...

So we still are but I was devastated, I was still in love with her for over a year afterwards. But we eventually found out that everything that had been said was lies so that sort of helped things but now we just talk every now and then...

 

[[VIII]]

*Cracks knuckles*

Basically I seperated from my girlfriend about a month ago. And in the month that has followed it turns out that her current boyfriend (who she started going out with the day after breaking up with me) had actually planned the breakup of me and her for quite some time.

Upon finding out the details obviously I was upset but that's now been replaced with impressiveness at the timing, planning and execution of it.

Want to know what I did about it?

I gave them my blessing.

 

[Wanabee-slayer]

The worst way I was dumped was when my boyfriend (ex) asked my best friend out right in front of me and turned around and said I guess that means you're dumped. I have been dumped more times then I count. But can I just say I do not care I hate all men because they are all in it for the one thing and if they're not in it for that they are either gay or complete and utter jerks. Please note I am probably only saying this because I am bitter and alone and I HATE BEING SINGLE!

 

[Mesektet Ra]

This one really didn't upset me, it made me laugh A LOT.

I was already about to be on the outs with my then boyfiend, Joe. He's paranoid, blahblah, he was sixteen, blahblah. Therein lies badness.

Anyway, I went to work that day, and hadn't talked to him all day before that. He lived in the same neighboorhood as me, so I'd go over to his place after I got off. The day before some stuff had gone down, involving my current boyfriend [he wasn't my boyfriend at the time, obviously]. I had invited him out to hang out at Denny's for a while, and he lived close by, so he came. He didn't know any of my friends, so I wasnt going to leave him there with a bunch of people he didn't know. Anyway, Joe was out and got pissed at me for not picking him up because he was both drunk and stoned and couldn't drive himself - not that he could anyway, because he didn't have a drivers license, but the point being that I was already busy and I told him I might not be able to get him that night, and he CHOSE to go out anyway. Anyway, he got pissed because I had a friend go get him instead, and we hadn't talked since because he has major communication problems. OKAY.

So, I get to his place after I get off of work, and I find a note in the from handle of his front door. ...okay. He's obviously not home, so I throw the note in my car and go home. I get home, read the damn thing...not only was it vauge as hell, but he BROKE UP WITH ME. IN A NOTE HE LEFT IN HIS FRONT DOOR. I swear to GOD, I must've been laughing for hours. I mean, really. Progress beyond fourth grade, please.

After that I ended up IMing him and telling him what an idiot he was - I bitched him out for being a dumbass about breaking up with me. The LEAST he could've done was CALL me - I mean, c'mon. How lame.

 

[zombie.apparatus]

I had a friend.. who started off as a mate..and then we became like best friends... then we starting getting close and we ended up going out.. i had to dump them not long after because it was just weird.. i did it in a letter.. and said it would ruin our friendship and it was the best way to do it.. whats sad is i did it on their birthday... i felt so bad.. but he was so clingy and i just couldnt handle it... i mean it was weird being with your best friend... i never want to do that again.. we still talk though.. that was like 3 years ago..

another boyfriend i had was actually my second one i think.. he was like the boy next door... he fell head over heels for me and i loved how he felt about me and i ended up feeling for him.. anyways.. one day i came home and he was on the couch with one of my mates making out and pretty much i stood there in shock and then walked out.. he came running after me.. i said no... he using the excuse "its not what it looks like" so him and the mate ended up going out and she was always talking about him and rubbing it in my face.. worst feeling ever... its also happened a year ago as well with another guy.

and thats why i have trouble letting guys in..

 

[freakydorky]

What's the worst way you've ever been dumped?

*The guy texted a mutual friend telling him to do it, only minnutes after I found out he was in a car accident the night before*

What's the worst way you've ever dumped someone?

*just ignoring them until they get the hint*

How many times have you been dumped?

*too many to count*

How many times have you dumped others?

*Only a few*


***** So, today, my boyfriend doesn't show up at school. So i call him and text him a few times, just curious as to where he is. He doens't answer me. Then i find out, around noon, that he rolled his truck the night before. And i freak. I worry and cry and call him over and over. He won't answer my calls. But he answer's our mutual friends. He talks to him, and another one of our friends, and then I get the phone handed to me, I make sure he's alright, talk for a few minutes, he doesn't really sound like he wants to tlak to me. 30 seconds after we hang up, our mutual friend gets a text saying "Tell Kayla it's over". And that's it, no explanation, won't talk to me, and couldn't even dump me himself. And the worst part is, I know i'd take him back in a heartbeat, no matter how hurt I am now.*******

 

[freakydorky]

Ok... I know I'm a bad girl, but he wanted me back, and we're together again. Dont hate me Miffed.

 

[killerdwarf]

Y'all are making me very happy I am married...and more than 25 years past this kind of stuff...sounds brutal out there...

 

[freakydorky]

You have no idea KillerDwarf... you have NO idea.

 

[Anita Blake]

Okay, so the guy finally got in touch with me...through a mutual online rpg we play. I'm just sitting there, minding my own business when I get a message from some random character I hadn't met telling me to check my myspace. So, I do. And there's a message from a person with a Buffy/Angel profile piccie, so I figure, oh, it's someone from the buffy-boards wanting an add. So, I open the message and its -him-.

He says that he deserves the asshole of the year award and that he never stopped loving me and he wants me to forgive him...

And this is after I'd sorta fallen for someone else. I'm so confused right now. 🙁