Fool for love?

Magui

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Well,everytime I start a thread to discuss personal thingds I end up fighting and the trhead gets closed lol;hope this time it'll be different🙂.
Okay,...ern...no,I can't...you will think I'm stupid,but I'm just confused.
There's a guy,Lee(nope,not 'I-love-Emma-Cauldfiel'-Lee,another one😛);I like him way too much but he is dating my best friend,Camilia, and I'm dating another guy,Pablo.
It's not just like him,I think of him the whole time(more than I think of Spangel😛) and I don't know what to do,I mean,what should I do?.I could break up with Pablo and tell Lee what I feel,but what if he doesn't feel the same way?.Camila really-really likes him and she is my best freind.
I have like two lil dudes rolling around my head,an angel and a demon.The angel says 'she's your best friend and everything might just be a crush' and the demon says 'want,take,have'. What the demon says sounds more interesting,but not better.
What if it really is just a crush?.It doesn't feel that way.I've had crushed before,gosh,I've even liked people via internet,those were crushed,but this is different;it feels real,but what is real?.I just wish I knew how to act,what to do. If I do break up with Pablo and start dating Lee,Camila might never talk to me again.Who knows?,it never happened to me.No has ever stolen my bf(...and lived😉...nah,j/k..really,no one).If I do that,'steal' Lee I'll be the b*tch and I dont' want to,but then again,I do want him...gosh,Candance much?(TCers will understand).
Last night I went to a cub,Cami wasn't threre,but Lee was.We danced together and I almost melted.When he is around I feel weird. It is just so strange,I can't even breath,I just get nervous,stay quiet and think 'OMG!,OMG!,OMG!';I'm nerver like tgat with other guys,not the shy type at all. But with him I'm just different,I think that if I act like I always do I might freak him out,cuz I'm not a regular kind of girl. Then I think 'well,whatever,this is the way I am,I'll be like...me.Take it or leave it..'' and tehn I just thnk 'Oh,no!,I can't'. Anyway,it's not like he doesn't know what I am like,we share a few classes and there I'm totally normal(Magui-kind-of-normal).
When he talks to me he is just too sweet...plus,he is smart and kinda hunky😛;not that I really care about his body;you don't fall for bodies. *Magui thinks ''::cough:: David ::cough::''*...well,yeah,okay,but that's an exception cuz...God!,have you seen David?!!!::drool::.Yummy!!!...but that's not the point...the point is that I have a question: Can somebody help me?


[Shellzz: This is just like the Chris-thing...well,sorta😛...]
 
I've been in a similar spot as you before, so I knd of know how it feels. My best advice for you is to stay true to your friend. If you aren't happy with your current boyfriend to the point where you're thinking seriously about other guys then you need to break up with him. But I don't suggest trying to take your best friends boyfriend away from her, that's not the way to go. Try to think more about Puppet Spangel love than this other guy.

That's all I got in my head for now, good luck!
 
That a tough decision. I would be faithful to your friend, but it is all up to you. Its just that friends seem to stay around longer than boyfriends and it sounds like she is a really good friend. You may like this guy a lot now but that can change friendship is more important IMO.
 
Magui said:
[Shellzz: This is just like the Chris-thing...well,sorta😛...]

Lol..well yeah,except his girlfriend isnt my best friend 😛
Anyway,right,well,I would say,be a good friend,and that friends are around much longer than guys,but you never know,cuz friends can be unpredictable,would she do it to you?if she really liked your boyfriend would she go with him?Think of it that way,but my main advice is,if he likes you,he will break up with her,I'm sure of it,and once they have broken up,wait a bit,then you can see whether you can take things further without betraying your friend 😀
 
It's a really tough situation....but think about who means more to you....your best friend, or this guy? Because as much as it sucks...in a situation like this, you can usually only have one or the other.
 
Never really delt with a situation like this. But like BH said think about who means more. I guess the question from me is would you let a guy come between you and your best friend?
 
Well never been in this situation before but maybe you should break up with Pablo otherwise it could all work up into a big Dawsons moment. As far as trying to steal Lee maybe you should talk to him rather then try adn ask him out. Maybe im just being stupid, I know nothing about relationships really and I dont want to spout out a load of clichés like follow your heart etc.
 
*You don't like Pablo,you date him because he is atractive
*Camila is your best friend,but you're not in love with her...right?. Love vs friendship
*Lee is nice and likes you,but he always beats me when playing Counter Strike!🙁.
*If you break with Pablo he will...cry and do anything,he is stupid
*If you tell Cam what you feel about Lee she might get mad to you because she likes him as much you do
*If you tell Lee what you feel and he doesn't like you(no way,he likes you),you'll end up without Camila,Pablo and Lee.
*Solution: Watch Angelus episodes,read Spangel fanfics and don't bother😉
 
Sweetie, you need to do what is going to be best for you. My opinion is that if she is as close friend as you say than you need to let your crush/fascination with her boyfriend go, especially if she is into him as much as you say she is.

BUT, on the other hand, if you like him A LOT as in he might be "The One" than I don't think you should let an opportunity like that go. It doesn't sound as if he is "theone" though, and I think it would be more valuable for you to just appreciate his handsome physique and continue to be close with your best friend. I'm sure there are going to be more men that will catch your fancy and they will not be with your friend! In the meantime, it wouldn't hurt to have some erotic fantasies involving your crush-nobody would have to know about those! 😉
 
I've been in the same spot, and I made the decision at the time to go for the guy and lost not just the friend he was dating, but several other in the process. It's just never a good choice. The only thing you can do is wait it out...if it's meant to be, then maybe with time, it will be.
 
I'm with Beer_Nut, definately let your current boyfriend go. You obviously aren't feeling it for him so do both yourselves a favor. No use in stringing him along because you're just going to build resentment in that situation.
If this Lee guy DOES like you, and I mean likes you like you like him, he'll see that you broke up with Pablo and realize that the ball is in his court. If he doesn't feel that your worth the risk for him then he won't make a move. And let's face it hon, even if he DOES like you and is just too CHICKEN**** to make a move then he probably isn't the guy for you. So just let Pablo go and be yourself good friend and all and see what develops. This decision isn't all yours so just do your part and see what he does. If he comes to you with feelings then tell him you can't discuss it as long as he's with your best friend. Honestly, I would say that you should wait for them to break up and then ask your friend if she's ok with it but that doesn't sound like something you're willing to wait for. So if he DOES make a move, breaks up with her, then play it by ear. At that point you can decide what's more important to you. Hell, by then you may be over it.
 
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