So Oprah today, which I don't normally watch but I did today, was about listening to your own intuition and using fear to your advantage. They had the guy that wrote The Gift of Fear on, talking about how most people who are victimized saw signs and talked themselves out of them.
Then he said something which I think is really important especially for the ladies of the board. That women are too afraid of not being nice. He earlier in the show gave an example about women will say that when they're waiting for an elevator, and the doors open, they'll get a bad vibe from a man inside. They just don't like the look of him or whatever. But they talk themselves into getting in anyway, because they don't want to seem rude. He said humans are the only animal that would get into a soundprooof, steel box with something that scared them.
First they showed an interview with Gabrielle Union talking about how she had been working in a shoe store and a man came in, and she just knew something was not right and wanted to run. But she didn't want to be impolite or mean, so she didn't. And she was raped.
Now the part that I really wanted everyone to hear. He said that men at their core are afraid that women will laugh at them. WOMEN at their core are afraid that men will KILL them. So women often believe that if they're not nice, they increase the chance of danger or risk. But the opposite is true: it's when you're nice that you open up and give information or engage with someone you don't want to talk to. And he said he's never heard a case of someone being raped or murdered because they're not nice, that's not what motivates attacks. But many many women are victimized because they didn't listen to the voice in their head saying that something is wrong.
Then he said something which I think is really important especially for the ladies of the board. That women are too afraid of not being nice. He earlier in the show gave an example about women will say that when they're waiting for an elevator, and the doors open, they'll get a bad vibe from a man inside. They just don't like the look of him or whatever. But they talk themselves into getting in anyway, because they don't want to seem rude. He said humans are the only animal that would get into a soundprooof, steel box with something that scared them.
First they showed an interview with Gabrielle Union talking about how she had been working in a shoe store and a man came in, and she just knew something was not right and wanted to run. But she didn't want to be impolite or mean, so she didn't. And she was raped.
Now the part that I really wanted everyone to hear. He said that men at their core are afraid that women will laugh at them. WOMEN at their core are afraid that men will KILL them. So women often believe that if they're not nice, they increase the chance of danger or risk. But the opposite is true: it's when you're nice that you open up and give information or engage with someone you don't want to talk to. And he said he's never heard a case of someone being raped or murdered because they're not nice, that's not what motivates attacks. But many many women are victimized because they didn't listen to the voice in their head saying that something is wrong.
