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have you ever been harrased or tormented by some one.. like sexual harrasment? and what did you do about it?
 
I've been harrassed before. Sorta stalked too. I told the principal(im 13 and it was in school) and the guys got suspended.
Still, it was scary. All of them lived in my neighborhood. *shudders*
 
Yeah...sexually. I was 14(am now16). Scared...never knew when I had been more scared.*shivers* The guy was 18 and he was high. Didn't think he knew I was 14 though...I woke up and...*shivers again* well you don't want/need to know the details. I told my mom who told the police and the guy was locked up for 6 months. When he got out he started stalking me. Creepy. We had him locked up again. Dont know what happened to him then.
 
I have a couple of incidicents that were pretty freaky involving men.

I had this guy who decided to take of his pants and flash me while he touched himself a lot. This happened in the parking garage at my work. The police came and I had to file a report, it was pretty creepy.

Another time that freaked me out happend like four years ago or so. This guy started off by being really nice, talking about helping me with my car and then he started to say some pretty creepy and nasty things to me. I just got in my car and drove off, it was really scary.
 
Originally posted by Angelic
Yeah...sexually. I was 14(am now16). Scared...never knew when I had been more scared.*shivers* The guy was 18 and he was high. Didn't think he knew I was 14 though...I woke up and...*shivers again* well you don't want/need to know the details. I told my mom who told the police and the guy was locked up for 6 months. When he got out he started stalking me. Creepy. We had him locked up again. Dont know what happened to him then.
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That is scary, wow...thats bad! I hope your O.K.!!!!

Chasity: Wow.....I hope your ok too!
*is scared now*
 
I get harrased by the girls at school all the time. I can't keep them away from me. seriously! not the way your thinking though. They like to bug me. and there was this one girl who stalked me for like 2 years in grade school, but I was too nice to say anything.

If I ever get sexualy harrased, I'll cut em up! not literately though.
(I have the worst spelling).
 
not really harrassed.. just this guy once, at my old kung-fu school.. he askedme out and he was like 30 somehting, looked like 40.. while i was 16 (im 18 now).. i was freaked out! i told him no, politely, of course.. but then he would 'wink' at me all the time.. caress my hand, and stuff like that.. i was about to do somehting about it, but then he gave up on kung-fu and ive never seen him again.
 
I wouldn't consider this harassment or torment but these two guys chased my brother and I in a truck trying to get our bikes while we were still on them. I was so scared.
 
I have been sexually harrassed more times than I can even remember! And not because of looks...I just attract creepy guys...um...people...I THINK the first time was in first grade when a boy named Vince came up and grabed my crotch...it was the last one he grabed THAT year...I've been verbally harrassed so much I can't even believe...the worst period of my life for physical or verbal was between 16 and 20. It was a daily occurance. There are some SERIOUSLY disturbed humans out there...the worst place for sexual harrassment is a rock concert...but mosh pits are a ball nonetheless...but it's worse when the victims are young. I got practically molested by a couple of the older boys down the street when I was younger...that's when it's good to have a protective daddy with a big gun... 😛
 
rayne: i'm glad your dady is protective!!!!!

to all: i feel with you!

when i was 15 my friends and i(we where 4 girls) got in contact with these guys through one of us(one of us girls) and this all hapened over the phone.. cell phone, so we would all sitt arpund messing with their heads.. and they would talk real dirty and stuff. so we would all laugh of them and make fun... then the contact stoped but one of my friends kept in contact and then he started to contact me again! and it was really creepy.. i was like 17now, and i was WAY paranoid because of this.. see these guys where acually just ONE guy.. a very sick man. they said that they where 18, but he turned out to be over 30! and i'm not kidding. and when he called me, i would hear a clicking sound.. and it turned out that he was taping all of the calles. he would even talk in the date, and who he was calling too!
i know this cos the cops called me, and asked me if i knew a guy named *** and i said no, and then he said he had got my phone no. from this guys cell phone, and then i knew who he was talking about! and then i filed a report! and i wsa not the only one! and this guy turned out to have had sex with a 12 year old girll, and he had raped another girl!(well so the girls say)
he used to jerk of on the phone, and he tricked girls into beliveing he was a fatshion photagrapher and he would take pictures of girls, and MAN this man was just sick!! today he is like 37 and i'm 20!*shiver* he even tok naked pics of girls..

i'm glad he i'm smart enough to never had met with him! he was like telling us that he was from a whole other place in the country, and that he had only been to my home twon once, but he knew where things was in my home town was, that only people who live there know, besides, i am not crazy!

i don't know why i never changed phone no. i guess i can blame my self, but i thought that well he already knows where i live, and i will not lose my phone no cos of a jerk, i will not hange my life! and i'm glad that i never hung up on him, even though the police told me he was not the kind of guy who would come after you like that! i don't belive that!
 
I's sooo sorry guys that it happened to you....
When I was 15(2 years ago)I met a really nice guy(he was 18).We started dating and after 3,4 months he invited me to his parents' house.We were going to watch movies, eat sth etc.We started kissing and he wanted to take my shirt off.I said now, but he wouldn't stop.Thand God a few weeks before we had in school basic self defence course,so I hit him and ran out.I was too scared to report that, but he didn't even try to contact me.I guess I was pretty lucky*shivers*I just don't try people, especially boys,now....
 
I don't really want to go into detail about it but i was sexually harrassed and abused by my father between the ages of 7 and 11! I was too scared to say anything because he told me he'd kill me! Finally i'd had enough and i told my sister (who's older and didn't live with me at the time!). My own mother didn't believe me so she stayed with him! I took him to court and he got a year's probation! From then on i've lived with my aunt and uncle! I'm 19 now and in university, don't think my parents even know that!
 
I hope you guys are all ok. You all sound so unbelievably strong! It takes a lot to do something about such horrible, horrible people. And its always good to have a daddy to look after you, Rayne you lucky girl!

I haven't been sexually harrassed unless you count the numerous butt grabs, breasts grabs and horrible things yelled out to you, which i guess you do count cause they are definately not pleasant.

An exboyfriend became a stalker which was pretty scary. He would stand on the other side of the street and just watch the house and send abusive text messages and emails, he even told me in an email that he used to call my office after hours just to hear my voice on the answering machine. Which doesn't sound too bad but when you are in the situation it is kinda freaky. I remember he even sent me a txt telling me he knew everything about me and listed off all these things that had happened to me after we broke up.........it was scary. It went on for quite a few months.
 
Originally posted by elmo
I don't really want to go into detail about it but i was sexually harrassed and abused by my father between the ages of 7 and 11! I was too scared to say anything because he told me he'd kill me! Finally i'd had enough and i told my sister (who's older and didn't live with me at the time!). My own mother didn't believe me so she stayed with him! I took him to court and he got a year's probation! From then on i've lived with my aunt and uncle! I'm 19 now and in university, don't think my parents even know that!
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i'm VERY glad that you told your sis! and that you are doing goood(with univ and all), and it's so great that you have an aunt and oncle who took care of you! i'm sorry about your mom not beliveing you!

Dizzy : i'm glad your ex never hurt you! he needs some help!and the grabs where sexual harrasment!!



why are some men/guys just messed up and they take it out on the females? i'm glad there are some nice guys as well, or it would be an even worse world!
 
Two years ago I was in Rome and me and four girls were heading home (the hotel) on the subway. And there were these older guys tryin to make impression on the girls, they were really annoying. Tad bit scary too. Anyway, there also were these two gay guys and they were like winking at me. And on the escalator one of them squeezed me in the ass. :S
 
poor allycat!

i don't get why some people think they have the right to just touch peoples ass, and why some people think they have the right to be rude and nasty to others!

i saw this ep of prah once where this high school, had a sexual harrasment day(LOL... not like that, they wanted to make the boys in the school aware of how the girls felt about being harrased by the guys) and they made all of the boys in the school stand facing this gym wall, and then all the girls would walk passed the boys, saying rude, sexual things, and stuff like that.. and some of the boys where even crying!

i think this is a great idè, cos though not all guys harras girls like that, some do, and the ones that o needs to learn to respect girls!
 
I think most people have heard of my story...or at least the shortened version (located in what's the story behind your sn) But I'll go into the longer version. First off, 8th grade, I was about....13 at the time. I joined track with one of my friends and it was alot of fun...at first anyway. That's where I met Glenn. About a week into it, he asked me out(didn't know his name or anything) of course, I said no. he asked why. My answer was because I don't know you. and that was it for the day. Didn't try making small talk or anything, just went about our warmups and laps. The next day, I was talking with my friend, Sam, and Glenn came up to me w/ his buddies Adam, and a couple of others. They were talking about the "great night we had together" (for those who are innocent enough not to get it, he was implying a great night of sex, and I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW HIS NAME FOR GODSAKES!!) So, I was pretty much in shock, and sam was like whoa, what's going on with you? So, later, I talked to Glenn alone, and he was convinced we were dating. I tried to correct him that No, we weren't. (still had no idea what his name was, have no idea how he knew mine) Anywho, it kept going on and on, and I just kinda ignored it, thinking it would go away. Finally, I just snapped, and I "broke up" with him, thinking he'd leave me alone. The next day, I was at lunch w/ some of my so called best friends. Our usual table was for some odd reason full, and we had to sit elsewhere. At this time, I had asked my friend, Sam, what the kids name was, and now knew it was Glenn. So, we sit at this table, and I see glenn a table away, his back to me. I told them I wasn't staying, and started to leave. They made me stay, after I told them what was going on, and they assured me that if he came over, they'd make him leave. (their the tough girls...and as I thought at the time, would do anything to help a friend, and I trusted them....big mistake on my part) So, I stayed, all nervous whether or not he was going to show. And finally, he came over, and I felt so scared, I was sick of seeing the guy, and he came over, put his arm around me and started talking about all the "fun times we've been having" I was devestated and tried getting his arm off of me, and at the same time, my best friends were laughing. I felt so betrayed, and I didn't even notice glenn and Adam, I was so shocked that my friends would do that to me. The bell finally rang, and we all went off to class, and I went through the rest of the day in a daze, I don't remember anything besides feeling the betrayal of my best friends. I mean, I couldn't stick up for myself at the time, and now I wish I would have...so I wouldn't have to feel the pain of being laughed at by my best friends, when I was clearly in the need of their help and not trying to get them to laugh. Anywho, I dodged glenn for the rest of the year, he was going one way, I went the other, school ended a week later, and all was good. I figured, there's no way he's going to remember that. So, freshman year starts, I can't talk to my former best friends because all I feel is that sense of betrayal. I didn't see Glenn that much, but he still harrassed me in the halls. I had a class with Adam though, and he made a notion of mentioning glenn every chance he got. Finally, one day, I got so ticked, in that class, I was the quiet one, never talked, did my work, read a book. that was it. So Adam comes up to me, and says something about how we've been such good friends and now I'm being a royal bitch, what happened to change that. I got so fed up, I don't remember anything, but I blew up at him, telling him we were never friends, that he and glenn made up this sick illusion we were dating and spreading rumors about my "nights" with him and that I hated them for breaking up my friendship with my best friends, and most of all, for making me feel weak. I guess the teacher was still in the room and heard the whole thing. I was shaking so bad, and crying that the teacher lead me out in the hallway, I don't remember getting out there, and the next thing I know, Mr. Cruz is asking me to start from the beginning. I finally fessed up, and Cruz made sure adam stayed away from me in class and Glenn....well I'm sure Adam told him how I felt, because he was in 2 of my classes last year, never even looked at me once. I was terrified he was going to do something to me, but didn't. thank god. I probably would have hurt him.....and I wish I had enough guts to pay him the favor back.

One thing for sure though, I know no one will ever make me feel that way again. One thing I also hate about it is that I can't tell my best friend anything...can't really TALK to her like I used to because I'm afraid of the betrayal that could come.(had nothing to do w/ this, she knew the story after I finally told her, and she stuck up for me, unlike my other friends....) I've closed myself off, lost my faith in people, and I'm trying to gain that back, and I think I'm having some success. I know I'll never get to the point I was at before this. I can't talk to a guy without wondering what the alterior motive is, and I hate that too. *sigh*
 
i'm sorry trust no one!! i'm hope you can trust your best friend some day🙂!! i really do!

glenn should NEVER look at ANYONE ever again, and i hope some one does to him wha he did to you!(okay... i know that might sound harsh, but that's the way it is! cos if he NEVER feels that pain, he prob will do it again!) i'm glad he looked down! cos he can't be the "boss of you" when he looks down!(if you know what i mean)

when i was nine, some guys in my street used to bugg me,(they where like 6 or 7 guys) they where 9 til 12 of age, they surrownded me with their bikes like 3 times(that was the only times i rode my bike around there!!),they made me cry once when they had me cornered... it was very scary!
well when i saw them on my way to or from school, i would stop and just look down, til they'd pass me, and one day one of them came over too me at the side of the road and asked me what i was doing here, shuldn't i be home in martins bed?(he was their leader sorta) i got really scared and so on... they stoped after a while.. well when i moved away...(i didn't move cause of this though!)

well my point of that was: i saw martin in a store he works in like two years ago, and he couldn't even look at me, when i was standing there to pay, he just looked down all of the time, and he didn't speak too me(and later i sent my mom and lil sis in there to bug him, asking him a bunch of questions and stuff -LOL- that was cool!)
 
Wow! you people have got it rough! especially Rayne and Trustno1. There are some pretty bad stories there, even pissed me off reading them. I haven't had anything like that happen to me (probobly cause I'm a guy). There was one of my 'girl' friends that got touched by an older guy in scouts. Thats the closest thing I have to any of your stories.

On the behalf of my gender, not ALL guys are sick, pigs. Most of them ya, but not all. I mean even I have slapped a girls butt once...but then she did it back too me, so I'm not sure if that counts.

as for having your friends backstab you.... well Trustno1, I'm sure alot of us have went through something like that. I myself don't trust anyone. (not even my parents, old councilor, friends. In fact the only people I do trust are you people.
I guess its because the chance of meeting any of you are very slim (with the exception of Vamp Somayya and the girl from Ottawa).

Smart idea for a thread Polexia. Its great to talk about these things and find out your not the only one its happened too.

My suggestion to all of you girls is to carry around a cell phone or quarter (to call for help) and maybe some pepper spray, or something like that.
 
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