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DáNió

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I'm guessing this is the place to put it..I have a problem concernaing my friends...well here goes..
My friend is going with this lad, and my other friend went out with him and aload of his friends on nite and they was both rather drunk and she ended up snoggin him, she then told me which put me in the most worst place ever, but she promised me she wouldnt go with him again so me being me believed her, and last night we went out and I was sleepin at her house and we snuck out and met this lad, our friend and her boyf n this other random person and i goes to her you best not being going with him again and she was going no no no, so we met them and i was walking with my friend and i turns around and she was going with this lad when she said to my face she wouldnt again and then she was sat on his lap and our friend kept oo what would you do if steph went past now and she was like oh id cry, then why is she doing it?? This then puts me in the worst place ever do i tell my friend or do i keep it a secret? but if she finds out and then she knows i know she will prob hate me and it isnt fair on her.
If anyone could like give some advice or something it would be realllly helpful..
thanks..
 
OMG that's really difficult..I'd just pretend I didn't know bout anything,but don''t do the same..Try talking to your friend..It might help her in a long run...
 
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DáNió
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Thanks ana8! 🙂

In the end I told my friend if she didnt tell her, I would and so she eventually did, in that it ended up my friend falling out with her, she told her that I knew and she was kinda bothered and I said that it wasn't really my place to say and I was eventually going to tell her. But thank gawd she hasnt fallen out with me. But them two aren't friends and well it serves her right she shouldnt go behind one of her best mates back and go with the person she was going with..
(iam slighty angry about the matter..😡.)
 
I definitely can see why you are angry. I think you did the right thing, by telling forcing the one friend to tell the other. I think that was the best way to go about it.
 
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I know how you feel, I've been in a similar situation before and it really ticked me off. I'm still kinda bitter about it today and it was several years ago...lol. The real trick is to try and not play favourites, just try to stay neutral if you wanna keep both friends. Even though it's hard to stay neutral when one friend is clearly in the wrong. Try also to remember that the idiot guy played a part too. Get angry at him, not your friends, it seems to work out better that way.
 
The thing is though, she has done it before. For some reason she seems to target her. We was at the pub and this guy was clearly flirting with my friend and so she went along and started being the loudest, flirting with him and then she went with him. I'm sorry but if someone is clearly flirting with your friend you leave them too it, you dont barge your way in. I dont really know if I want to be her friend she has changed so much she isnt the person she used to be, all her friends have noticed so it isn't just me. Im soo argh I couldnt imagine not being friends with her, but at times I want to kill her and I cant stand her...🙁
 
Oh hon I'm so sorry!!! What a terrible situation to be put into.

But you know what? You handled it perfectly. You gave your friend the chance to come clean, otherwise you were going to do it. You were the perfect friend to both. It's exactly what I would have done in that situation.

It sucks when friends treat us like dirt. It's the fact that you are such a good and loyal friend that she does that. She knows you will always be there for her. It's a real shame someone's good nature gets taken advantage of.

Good luck and *hugs!*
 
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kevs, scallies, townies, learn english instead of all this americanisation, gawd kids today! 😉
 
Faldor said:
Nike Trainers, addidas tops, blazin squad look alikes 😛

kevs, scallies, townies, learn english instead of all this americanisation, gawd kids today! 😉
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Oh no i aint a townie then..don't wear stuff like that 🙂
 
Dà¡Nió said:
The thing is though, she has done it before. For some reason she seems to target her. We was at the pub and this guy was clearly flirting with my friend and so she went along and started being the loudest, flirting with him and then she went with him. I'm sorry but if someone is clearly flirting with your friend you leave them too it, you dont barge your way in. I dont really know if I want to be her friend she has changed so much she isnt the person she used to be, all her friends have noticed so it isn't just me. Im soo argh I couldnt imagine not being friends with her, but at times I want to kill her and I cant stand her...🙁
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Have you had the chance to talk to her about the way that she's acting? My best friend right now is acting like a complete a** and it's all because of the girl he's with. The other day I sat him down and talked to him about the way he was acting and he said that he had no idea he was acting that way. Talking to him made him realize what a d**k he was being and he's seemed better in the last couple of days. Maybe a good "talking to" is what your friend needs.
 
Beer_Nut said:
Have you had the chance to talk to her about the way that she's acting? My best friend right now is acting like a complete a** and it's all because of the girl he's with. The other day I sat him down and talked to him about the way he was acting and he said that he had no idea he was acting that way. Talking to him made him realize what a d**k he was being and he's seemed better in the last couple of days. Maybe a good "talking to" is what your friend needs.
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About 2months ago me and my friend fell out with her cause of the way she acted and she agreed she did act like that to some of the things, we didn't talk for ages and then we finally made up, me and my friend thinking maybe she will change but she didnt..
 
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