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Guys,I need your help...
I had a friend,the best one ever and I told her a lot of terrible things,seriously,I acted like...a cheerleader lol...okay,not a good moment to make goofy jokes.
The point is that she hates me...well,maybe she doesn't,but she definitely doesn't want to talk to me anymore.
I feel horrible because she was my best friend and I don't know what to do to make her understand that I don't really believe the things I told her.I was pretty cruel and she didn't deserve that.
What should I do?,help?,please?
*Writes down 'Acting like Angelus is bad...oh,and btw, Maguilus is a b*tch,beware'* *Thinks 'Chris,I should play Angelus,trust me...'*
 
well, if you were in those b*tchy days like pmsing or something you have an excuse, i have a friend who looks like she's possesed or something in that days, so we don't really think f she says then...but now seriosly, if you're really friends, just explain her why you did it if she really misses you she's forgive you..it's waht friends so...forgive..
yeah i'll be carfull w/ mangelus now...just don't have a moment of perfect happiness soon ok? (lol, i know bad joke...i'll stop now..)
 
lol,Mags,just tell her the truth,explain how sorry you are..and if she's not ready to forgive you,just give her time 🙂
 
mire said:
well, if you were in those b*tchy days like pmsing or something you have an excuse, i have a friend who looks like she's possesed or something in that days, so we don't really think f she says then...but now seriosly, if you're really friends, just explain her why you did it if she really misses you she's forgive you..it's waht friends so...forgive..
yeah i'll be carfull w/ mangelus now...just don't have a moment of perfect happiness soon ok? (lol, i know bad joke...i'll stop now..)
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Well...yeah I was having a really bad day...but it is not an excuse,I shouldn't have treated her like that.
I don't know if we were really good friends...she was a my best friend,but...I don't think I was her best friend
You're right about the moment of true happiness *Throw her boyfriend off a cliff*
 
Mags,give yourself a break,if she knows how bad you feel and if you give her time,I'm sure she'll come around,I know how you feel,believe me,the best thing you can do is leave her alone for a bit..if you've apologised and explained why you were like you were,theres nothing more you can do.It'll be ok 🙂
 
Or maybe you're making her even more mistrustfull by posting a private business like this on boards for everyone to see it?
 
Erm...I sense some tension...

My advice...just apologize. The worse thing that can happen is that she doesn't accept your apology, and if that's the case, just give it time.
 
Well...the idea was asking for help and spaming!...well,not the spaming part.
Ya know what...whatever!,close this thread,I'm not going to cry for her because she thinks she's some kind of Goddess...no,wait,Evil Goddess because we are all humans and humans make mistakes...so if she doesn't wanna forgive,well,I don't care anymore...she's done a lot of terrible things too and I forgave her...know why?,because I cared for her,now I care a s*it...so friends my a*s!...I'm going to chat with real friends and eat candy,bye!.Delate or close this please...well,no need to ask for it,huh?lol
 
Good to know Magui it was all a 'publicity stunt',coz that girl told you she had a trust issues with you and needed time
 
ana8 said:
Good to know Magui it was all a 'publicity stunt',coz that girl told you she had a trust issues with you and needed time
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OMG!,You're a psychic!..Wow!,you never mentioned that girl!
Well,anyway your powers aren't working well...maybe you need...gasoline...?
Well,she didn't say she needed time she just said she didn't trust me anymore...I'll tell ya what I think...I think she's a freaking jealous b*tch that can't understand that I don't wake up saying 'Oh,I think I'm gonna be friendly and make a lot of new friends today'...her social problems aren't my issue.
I'm this way,so what?,good?,bad?,I don't care,I'm not gonna change because it bothers her.So the hell with her!.I don't care anymore...I'm gonna live my life and stop acting like Spike in S5..OMG!,shame on me!
So,now,put your new glasses on and read the title 'Help'...not classes of 'You're a b*tch,your friend doesn't want you anymore,deal with it*...ok?,thanks,so nice of you.
Well,where was I ?,.oh,yeah,...close this...I don't feel like spaming today,that's not my job,...but you could ask my friend..ern...ex friend to do it...she loves doing it!,..God,..we should make a campaign to buy her a life,don't you think?
So,..oh,yeah..candy😀...bye
 
Huh? I think I missed something. *Skims thread again* Right somewhere in here was a cry for help so I'm gonna answer it.

Whatever you said to this friend must have been bad but nothing you can say is unforgivable. I'm sure if you explain that you're sorry and that you were having a bad day she'll talk to you. You could even write her a note if she won't talk to you. Tell her the truth and that you're sorry and you never meant to hurt her. I'm sure she'll come round.

Hope that's helpful... even though I don't think it's relevant anymore judging by other things that have been going on in this thread! 😀
 
Ok, seems like I'm barging in on a private spat here, but I'll give what I believe are general guidelines for asking for forgiveness when wrongs have been done.

1) Responsibility: the person who did the bad must take responsibility for his/her actions, and with no excuses..."yes did indeed do the bad thing and it was [whatever it was]".

2) Remorse: the person should show remorse for their actions. They should express that they feel bad for doing whatever they did, and they feel bad for the negative effects it had on the victim.

3) Repetition (or lack of it): the person should promise not to repeat the action, no matter what...and stick to the promise!

Any apology without these three things is not an apology, in my opinion. So, do this and then it's up to the victim to accept or not. If a sincere apology is offered, and refused, then it's not the bad guy's problem anymore...it's the victim's. If you are done wrong (I mean, not murder or rape or stuff like that...some things shouldn't be forgiven) and a person offers an apology that is heartfelt, then you should graciously accept it...but if it occurs again, drop the hammer...and the "friend". They have, at that moment, demonstrated that they are not worthy!
 
Dude, you're so right! Accept, Remorse, and no repeating! Your kids are gonna learn right from wrong the right way! Just wouldn't like to be one of them when they do something wrong. I hate getting in trouble, having to accept responcibility and apologise. That's why I try not to get into bother. That way... when I do something bad... It's not in my character... makes it easier to forgive. 😀 Cunning huh?
 
Is this done now or are you two still on the outs? Because I'm preparing to shut this thing down faster than you can answer-this is between Magui and Ana8 right? Or has my reading between the lines gotten blurry since the last time you two had it out?
 
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