How Do You Calm Down?

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As you all probably know, if you've read the threads I've made, this year has been a huge emotional roller coaster for me. There's been everything, attempted rapests, angry dogs down the street, my sister's psychotic boyfriend, my ex-girlfriend stalking me and Stephanie (Tru_Davies), having to be hospitalized for pnemonia, my mothers' side of the family pushing me around, failing geometry, and there's been other things that I haven't posted here. After all the drama of the past year, I'm surprised I haven't trashed my room a million times. I feel like I'm in the season finale of Buffy/Angel and that everything is building up and coming to a big dramatic closing just in time for summer. Everything is building up and about to explode and I need to find a way to calm myself down, becided getting drunk or high, so that I can survive the rest of the school year. So, with that said, how do you calm yourself down? Does it work? I'll try any method.
 
I know it sounds really cliche, but if you can afford a "gentle yoga" class, it does wonders for you. Afterwards you just feel all calm and at peace, kind of like you just woke up...

And personally, when I'm about to kill someone or something, I come home and listen to some Edith Piaf. It's imposible to be too angry while listaning to her.

And failing this, I like to take the cathartic approach and beat the crap out of my heavy bag for a while. Even though it gets me even more worked up at first, after a while of expending as much anger and energy as possible, there's a nice quite feeling that comes over me.

Good luck.

~Kindred
 
To calm down, I pick some music that fits my mood (either angry or depressed or wahtever), and whip out some pen and paper and just write until things feel better. Or I find me a nice, violent video game.
 
Hitting things is always comforting for me, but I hate having to go back to all my broken things after my little fit...
 
I always punch things, but I get carried away with it, like Faith did in Wesley's shower, in Season 4...lol...
But I also write and let all my feelings out on the paper...lol...
And also, my Live Journal, thats a great way to vent...
And also, people like Cordelia, Angel, Angelsbaby101, Magui, Ana, I can vent trhough them cuz they all have or have had their own problems, and its cool to relate to them 😀
 
I do a bit of everything... first i scream and hit things, then i sit in shock and think about everything, then I find someone to talk to, then I go have a relaxing bath to calm myself down, then I think a little more about it until I come to some rational decision on how I'm gonna deal with it!

NB: Sometimes thinking about things a whole lot just ends up in depression... please beware!
 
I shoot things....

(Relax...I go the gun range, but only during those times I am VERY VERY angry and need release. I use up a lot of ammo when in that state....and have to buy more.....so being angry can be very expensive during those times...).

Other than that....I have no other outlets for it, I don't punch things or scream, I usually will just get very quiet and keep to myself while listening to music on headphones.
 
I try to think happy thoughts - focus on something that makes me laugh or someone I love dearly. Failing that, I find blasting the cr*p outta some alien scumbag in Unreal Tournament sometimes helps (especially if you switch the god mode on 🙂)
 
Kindred - I dunno if yoga would help. I'm like a rubber band waiting to snap, lol. I think Yoga would change that though.

xtrustno1x - That might just lead to more stress because then when I loose or when I die I'll get even more upset, lol.

Ana8 - I have a punching bag in my basement, so I could probably go hit that...a lot...

bbb - scream? I haven't screamed in a long time. That might help...somehow.

elmo - well, the things just keep popping up out of know where so I don't get much time to stop and make a good decission.

Old Master - Me with a gun...can you say sad sad tragety? LoL. I try to listen to music, but then I'll get a call from someone saying how Jessica's upset because Anthony cut himself again or something and then that throws me out of wack.

Mr. Pointy - Eh. My family hates me except my Mom. And I don't really think I'd focus on her depending on which love you mean.
 
i ussualy hit my pillow a couple of times untill my rage passes, then i just cry untill i can't. it ussualy makes me so tired that i just go sto sleep right away. i find myself much more relaz and calm in the mornig. but since you have a punvhing bag, that ould probably work better. just try to it it untill you feel better or untill you're tired. and if that does't work, just lock yourself in the room, put some music that displays your mood (for me its ussualy heavy metal or very depressing songs) and cry your guts out.
hope i helped somehow.
 
I used to use my brothers kick bag until one time I had an accident..rather amusing.

Buffy, Cordelia and Angel are great for calming me down. I also go for walks with my dog and brush my cat. My animals always calm me.
 
If I'm really angry I put on some angry music and lay down in bed. And then I sing along while punching my bed. lol!
And if I'm depressed I do about the same thing, except I put on depressing music and there's not much punching, but more crying.
And one thing I feel always help, is writing poems. They don't have to be good, or rhyme, and noone ever has to see them. To me it's kinda like a diary. It always helps. That and alot of crying usually.
And my pet rabbit used to help alot, but since he died I've had to find other things to calm me down.
 
Mr. Pointy said:
I try to think happy thoughts - focus on something that makes me laugh or someone I love dearly.
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Yes...that is usually what helps me. When I'm deeply disturbed or upset by the ones that I dearly love I usually lose myself in a movie...uh...maybe several movies! 🙂

I was enrolled in a kick boxing class for a year and when I was having a bad day or really mad at my then boyfriend I would take out all my anger and agression in class while punching and kicking the air or a bag. Great therapy.

I often find comfort in just talking/ranting to my friends and my mother. They sometimes have great advice and other times they just listen and lend me a shoulder to cry on.

OLD MASTER 2.00-I want to learn how to shoot! My dad keeps promising to take me to a range...
 
lol....I like hitting/kicking the wall to calm down 😛 lol... or I have a hot chocolate and watch a few movies..or I come online..that always calms me down
 
I know it sounds cheesy lol but I meditate when I am stressed...Just find somewhere when you won't be disturbed and that is peaceful and sit down and just let your mind drift off somewhere and when you feel ready, stop and you will feel really refresehed 🙂 I promise ya..and if all that fails..just scream until you can't scream anymore 🙂 it helps vent the stress lol 🙂

I really hope everything gets better hun 🙂
 
OLD MASTER 2.0 said:
I shoot things....
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OM, dude, remind me not to piss you off any time soon, ok?🙂

Just kidding, that is an awesome hobby you got there...I wish Canada was a bit less paranoid about guns and legitimate ownership...

Hero: I had this same problem, and my buddy, Evil Clown, told me what he does...he plays his guitar. I'm just learning how, and I'm just a plunker with no lessons under my belt as of yet, but damned if he wasn't right! If you play an instrument, just go and wail away at it for 30 mins or so...then go and kick the crap outta your heavy bag, if you're still torqued up!
 
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