How Was Your Day?

[Bop]

I learnt some new Sinhalese words from my best friend, I hope I can understand a lot by the end of the year because that would be cool.

 

[TamsinValencia]

A few months ago I found out that a group ballet photo including me was published to the ballet website to advertise for the beginner classes. The photo was from October 2022 so she must have liked me being in it because I wasn't in the other photos and haven't been back since then. I am famous now haha.

 

[Ethan Reigns]

A few months ago I found out that a group ballet photo including me was published to the ballet website to advertise for the beginner classes. The photo was from October 2022 so she must have liked me being in it because I wasn't in the other photos and haven't been back since then. I am famous now haha.

You could be rich, too. If they used your image without your consent, you could sue them for their underwear and contents thereof.

 

[November]

The poodle rolled on a dead rat at the park. So both dogs got a bath today. I clipped one but not the poodle yet, she gets cold.

My crochet maths is not good, I might run out of yarn before I finish this blanket 😕

I did not like my dinner either. I hope it stays down!

 

[November]

Its been a lovely Sunday. So relaxing and enjoyable!

There has been a solitary bin chicken hanging around at the park the last few days. The dogs are absolutely delighted by it. Its the biggest flying feathers they have ever seen, with extra big poops to sniff at. We got a nice long and relaxed walk in before the rain set in for the day.

Its so much more comfortable in the house with the new heater. I put it on a timer so it was warm when we woke up, its really nice to have the house at a more constant temperature.

Had lovely cuddles with Xander while Anya ran around the house. Hes a very old man bun, but still loves his cuddles and biscuits.

Today is the kind of day I want every day to be like 😀

 

[November]

Lol I saw a thread on reddit with over 500 replies. The question was how to stop JW door knockers. Apparently hundreds of people strip naked rather than just shut the door.... I am yet to see it, but I will probably die of laughter when it does happen. So far its only been polite nos or really interesting personal spiritual stories.
It definitely makes me love people a bit more going door to door. What other charity literally checks in like that? All this news talk of lonliness when I had to tell this group to back off with the BBQ invites cos I was so overwhelmed by social stuff, still, 7 years into first meeting them.

It doesnt help isolation at all, Im physically too far from anything to help that. I guess I am leaning more towards baptism after seeing threads like that. People in the world so scared they try with the ultimate act of vulnerability to scare others off first. Im glad I never finished that cognitive neuroscience degree. Making sense of it on my own is going to keep my mind busy for a long while.

It could be a nice life to learn to shelter myself better. Im not particularly worried about being shunned or anything like that, I've lost friends and support networks half a dozen times and lived. The rules of JW are not nearly as strict as the dutchies were, and I never joined them. I duno if I am trying to talk myself into it or out of it, could just be delusional again.

 

[Taake]

Lol I saw a thread on reddit with over 500 replies. The question was how to stop JW door knockers. Apparently hundreds of people strip naked rather than just shut the door.... I am yet to see it, but I will probably die of laughter when it does happen. So far its only been polite nos or really interesting personal spiritual stories.
It definitely makes me love people a bit more going door to door. What other charity literally checks in like that? All this news talk of lonliness when I had to tell this group to back off with the BBQ invites cos I was so overwhelmed by social stuff, still, 7 years into first meeting them.

It doesnt help isolation at all, Im physically too far from anything to help that. I guess I am leaning more towards baptism after seeing threads like that. People in the world so scared they try with the ultimate act of vulnerability to scare others off first. Im glad I never finished that cognitive neuroscience degree. Making sense of it on my own is going to keep my mind busy for a long while.

It could be a nice life to learn to shelter myself better. Im not particularly worried about being shunned or anything like that, I've lost friends and support networks half a dozen times and lived. The rules of JW are not nearly as strict as the dutchies were, and I never joined them. I duno if I am trying to talk myself into it or out of it, could just be delusional again.

I know some JW's and though I'm not interested myself, they're lovely people and seem to have a really lovely, strong, community. Obviously, I only see it from the outside, but while I used to think of them as a cult, I now only have positive experiences. Not sure if that changes if one joins, but they don't seem strict and it's not like they can't hang out with outside people (like me). They just seem genuine and kind. (And respect boundaries, like when I've said no thanks to invites etc)


Thought about you the other day, lol, cause I was out with the dog and ran into a woman who has a toy poodle and a Chinese crested, both skittish and scared, so while we say hello, the dogs rarely do. But the other day she had let the toy off leash and his strategy - when scared - was to bullrush at my dog, screaming as though he was being bitten to death, and proceeding to do so while running circles around my dog. The crested one joined in. Luckily my goof was just like "oh, are we playing a game? Fun!"

Though I did get some dirty looks from passers by who probably thought my dog was, in fact, killing the poodle. (He calmed down when the owner caught him and they could take a walk together after)

 

[Ethan Reigns]

We have a local Kingdom Hall of the Jehova's Witnesses and there was one guy from there whose insistence on talking to me more than once a month was bordering on stalking. Eventually, they had other people come to the door and the last time, they had a woman show up with a newly-minted female JW who was obviously not yet accustomed to speaking to other people. I mentioned that the Bible supports reincarnation, from Jesus' statement to Nicodemus; "You must be born again" and the whole of Matthew 17:9 - 13 which states Elias has risen from 700 years earlier and he is John the Baptist in this life. She was showing signs of agreeing with me, so the visits finally stopped. I have read the Bible cover to cover, so I know where all of these passages are. I think (hope?) they have given up on me.

 

[Antho]

I've been feeling a little sad lately. I don't even know if sad is the right word, we'll say disappointed. For 1 year I was training to become a social worker. This training lasted 1 year. In everyday life I am quite introverted, very shy, I don't approach others, I don't talk easily to strangers, I am really quite withdrawn into myself. However, during the training I formed a bond with a girl, we will call her Aurélie. It happened naturally, I didn't ask for it to happen. We laughed together, we discussed everything, we loved spending time together. A strong friendship was created and it's really just friendship, already because she has a guy and above all I'm gay lol. I felt good with her, I could tell her everything, every time something happened to me in my life she was the first person I contacted and it was the same for her she confided everything to me. We could spend an hour on the phone every day and we sent each other messages every day. Almost every weekend we had parties, drinking white wine lol,. For me we had a close bond. I could count on her at any time and she could count on me. I don't let many people enter into my life but it happened so naturally that I didn't understand anything.

However, the training has been over for 2 months now and the relationship has completely changed. She found work, I didn't, not yet. Today we hardly write to each other anymore, and when I send her a message she replies 48 hours later. We see each other a lot less too. I don't know, it's weird what I'm going to say but I feel a distance between us now and I'm having a hard time with it, frankly. In fact I feel abandoned, neglected... for me we have gone from everything to nothing and I don't live this contrast well. We saw each other on Friday 15 days ago, I told her that I found that our relationship had changed and well for her it's normal in fact, it's the evolution of life. Except that when you like someone, you don't react like that, do you ?

I would really like some honest opinions please ? am I the one having an abnormal reaction ? Have you ever experienced a familiar situation (in my place or in my friend's place ) ?

 

[Bop]

I would really like some honest opinions please ? am I the one having an abnormal reaction ? Have you ever experienced a familiar situation (in my place or in my friend's place ) ?

It's normal for you to feel this way but the distance is probably also normal because you don't have the training tying you together anymore and since you said she has a job now that might be taking up more of her time. Only she would actually know why she's slower at replying now etc. but if you feel you really have a close friendship with her I'd say give her the benefit of the doubt. I've known my best friend for 13 years and sometimes we talk almost every day or see each other almost every day and then sometimes we'll go days without talking or weeks without seeing each other.

 

[Stake fodder]

am I the one having an abnormal reaction ? Have you ever experienced a familiar situation (in my place or in my friend's place ) ?

It happens a lot when life circumstances change that we lose touch with people. "Out of sight, out of mind," as the saying goes. But it's normal to feel sad about it. However, you say it's only been a couple months since the program ended, and she has a new job. When things settle down for her, maybe she will be more available.

I am one who tends to make an effort to stay in touch with people after school or a job ended, but some people just move on to the next set of friends. So I know how you are feeling!

 

[Antho]

Thanks you both for your answers. I agree with all you said. I also think that this period is not easy for me, I’m unemployed, I’m looking for a job and I don’t do much of my days and when you do little then you have time to think 🤔 and to think too much is a problem.

Even if I agree with what you all said I still feel abandoned… that’s stupid ! To respond to a message 48 h later… I don’t really understand this. Don’t tell me you don’t have 5 minutes to respond to a message in a day.. for me this isn’t even friendship here it’s just respect. And even her responses, yet she doesn’t respond the same day but her responses are closed.. like there is no place to discuss more..

I don’t know.. I’m just lost and disappointed.. for one time I let someone enter in my life. That’s not a full success.

I’m going to see how all of this will evolve.

 

[TamsinValencia]

Got an iPhone yesterday for way too much money and wireless headphones they work well for me because I am always breaking the headphone wire.


Cheerleading trial today I hope I do okay with the tumble preparation

 

[November]

Cheerleading trial today I hope I do okay with the tumble preparation

How did it go? Was it lots of fun?

I tried to see the aurora last night and then was too tired to drive today haha. It was very smokey over town, a few burn offs going on. Looks like solid cloud for tonight, but maybe I will look up when I take the pups out for the last loo of the night.

Did walkies and crochet and zoomed the meeting. I have a bit too much food that needs eating, so Im waiting for Masterchef cos thats sure to make me hungry! The fat blonde dog is telling me she is hungry for dinner now but their normal dinner time is over an hour away. Shes been exceptionally bossy this weekend and Im not sure why.

 

[whatdBuffyDo]

Thanks you both for your answers. I agree with all you said. I also think that this period is not easy for me, I’m unemployed, I’m looking for a job and I don’t do much of my days and when you do little then you have time to think 🤔 and to think too much is a problem.

Even if I agree with what you all said I still feel abandoned… that’s stupid ! To respond to a message 48 h later… I don’t really understand this. Don’t tell me you don’t have 5 minutes to respond to a message in a day.. for me this isn’t even friendship here it’s just respect. And even her responses, yet she doesn’t respond the same day but her responses are closed.. like there is no place to discuss more..

I don’t know.. I’m just lost and disappointed.. for one time I let someone enter in my life. That’s not a full success.

I’m going to see how all of this will evolve.

Hugs 🫂
I don’t know what might’ve happened with her but if I were in your place I would feel sad and disappointed as well.
Still, maybe it is best to accept the situation and move on.

I’ve seen various behaviour from friends I considered close before we became long distance, got my heart broken a few times but I think I just learnt to accept the things as they are, wish them the best, and take care of my own broken heart 💙 I’m gonna be there for me.

Also, these things go both ways and maybe I did something to break their heart as well. But I can’t know how to make it up to them unless they tell me and want me to make it up to them. It is easier to understand someone’s feelings when you see them everyday. But when it becomes long distance, communication might get less successful, and friendships might fail. Sometimes there is a chance to save it and sometimes not.

Maybe later in life we meet again, maybe not. New friendships might arise with different people.

You might rightfully be afraid to get close to someone else for a while, but from my own experience, I think we should still have open hearts without much attachment to others. Some people will hopefully stay.

Meanwhile, take care of your own heart, listen to yourself, listen to your wounds, accept them and heal them; and I hope you choose being open-hearted again 💙

 

[Ethan Reigns]

Thanks you both for your answers. I agree with all you said. I also think that this period is not easy for me, I’m unemployed, I’m looking for a job and I don’t do much of my days and when you do little then you have time to think 🤔 and to think too much is a problem.

Even if I agree with what you all said I still feel abandoned… that’s stupid ! To respond to a message 48 h later… I don’t really understand this. Don’t tell me you don’t have 5 minutes to respond to a message in a day.. for me this isn’t even friendship here it’s just respect. And even her responses, yet she doesn’t respond the same day but her responses are closed.. like there is no place to discuss more..

I don’t know.. I’m just lost and disappointed.. for one time I let someone enter in my life. That’s not a full success.

I’m going to see how all of this will evolve.

First, take care of yourself. Put your effort into getting a job and you will find that once you have one, you will not have time to be concerned.

My late wife worked for three years at the Children's Aid Society of Metropolitan Toronto as the secretary to an abuse intake team and most of the social workers were swamped. The social workers would have around 35 to 40 cases each at any given time and this meant they had to weave court appearances and all the preparation that requires into their schedule. It is definitely not a 9 to 5 job and your friend may be overloaded with an excess of cases right now. After all, no welfare agency hires new social workers until they have had to reschedule too many court appearances and anyone who signs on will be given a lot of work right from the beginning.

It is possible that your friend is in a state of exhaustion. In addition to a demanding job, she may have to focus the rest of her energy on her boyfriend, because he is not necessarily going to want to play second fiddle to a job. In all of this, you may be abandoned but that is the nature of relationships - they respond to the stresses of the moment. My guess is she still likes you, but the activities you talked about like spending an hour on the phone and holding weekend parties consume time that she doesn't have anymore. She is still replying to your messages, however long that takes, so that is a sign that she still likes you (otherwise she would not reply at all).

Once you get a job, you will have a chance to meet more people and in social work, the majority of these people will be female. A lot of women go on cruises with gay guys who are their friends - it means they don't have to fight off single men and there is no sexual pressure on them. Opportunities like this may pop up from time to time. The greatest benefit I have obtained from joining the Latin dance circuit is my mindset went from one of scarcity of relationships to not being able to keep the names straight and I now have a girlfriend that I never expected to get. Your mindset is the thing that will change once you get a job and you may find that once opportunities for a relationship open up, you won't need one specific individual and with enough relationships going on at a time, none of them will be so crucial anymore. If anyone in a relationship with you gives you an ultimatum and tells you, "It's my way or the highway" you will be able to give them the correct two-word answer: "Vroom, vroom". You can and should be able to get the ultimate power in a relationship once you have the correct mindset: the power to walk away.

 

[Anyanka Bunny Slayer]

Went by the emergency room because I had an allergic reaction to medication. Couldn't breathe right and had massive itching. Definitely sucked, but I'm okay.

Didn't bother visiting by mom because I knew that my stepfather, sister and brother would be there. Emotionally, I just couldn't handle it today! I despise my stepdad, sister, and brother. I've only ever loved my mom, real dad, first stepdad and the brother who died. The rest of them? Hell no. I'm sad. Why is that I've only lost family member that I CARE about it. Kinda makes me feel like an orphan. 🥺

By the way, I had that allergic last night and knew I'd have to go to the ER in the morning, so I told my sister to let the others know I probably couldn't visit mom today. She said, "I'm not gonna make excuses for you." Jesus Christ.

 

[nightshade]

We had a big storm here yesterday afternoon and now the street I work on is closed. The bottom of town now has a beach, despite is being inland. Its all a bit crazy, I'll go down in a bit and work out if we should open. The shops opposite can't open due to the pavement collapsing.

 

[Plasma]

Miserable.

My landlord forced me to remove my cat from my home. My emotional support animal, btw.

Needless to say I’m done dealing with humans for a long time.

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Thanks you both for your answers. I agree with all you said. I also think that this period is not easy for me, I’m unemployed, I’m looking for a job and I don’t do much of my days and when you do little then you have time to think 🤔 and to think too much is a problem.

Even if I agree with what you all said I still feel abandoned… that’s stupid ! To respond to a message 48 h later… I don’t really understand this. Don’t tell me you don’t have 5 minutes to respond to a message in a day.. for me this isn’t even friendship here it’s just respect. And even her responses, yet she doesn’t respond the same day but her responses are closed.. like there is no place to discuss more..

I don’t know.. I’m just lost and disappointed.. for one time I let someone enter in my life. That’s not a full success.

I’m going to see how all of this will evolve.

In fairness, sometimes life gets in the way. I know I was talking with @TarasBoyfriend and they sent something and I took a day or so to respond.

I am sorry that you feel you have lost a friend, though. I wish I could help you with that, though there is only so much I know I can do as an online friend.

 

[Antho]

To everyone, thanks you all for your responses. I feel better now. I think I have accepted the situation as it is right now. I need to get a Job, work on myself to be the best version of myself I can be. I understand what you all said to me, and I even agree in fact. You are all right. I need to not dramatise the situation and give her the benefit of the doubt. However I will not do a step anymore toward her.. theses last weeks I am the one who first makes a step toward her, now it’s over. I’m playing the indifference card. If she came back, great 👍 if not then this friendship is over for me.