How Was Your Day?

[November]

Beautiful day here. Just got back from walkies with the dogs. Nice and relaxing, didn't go as far as usual cos I am feeling a bit off. Woke up at 2am feeling weird. I let the dogs out and then coaxed them on to my bed with treats to sleep with me the rest of the night. They are good companions and I felt much better once they were all settled with me. The poodle sleeps near my head and the stinky dog sleeps nearer to my feet.

The bunnies are really happy too. This is the first year that I am not worried about Xander's weight going into winter. Maybe cos the summer was so late and hot, maybe cos I changed the bun house, maybe cos I upped his pain meds, but whatever it is, he is looking exceptionally healthy for a 10 year old rabbit. Anya is cheeky as ever trying to eat the vacuum cleaner. Shes really playful today. Desperate to play with the dogs but I will not allow it, the bunny might bite them!

 

[Plasma]

To everyone, thanks you all for your responses. I feel better now. I think I have accepted the situation as it is right now. I need to get a Job, work on myself to be the best version of myself I can be. I understand what you all said to me, and I even agree in fact. You are all right. I need to not dramatise the situation and give her the benefit of the doubt. However I will not do a step anymore toward her.. theses last weeks I am the one who first makes a step toward her, now it’s over. I’m playing the indifference card. If she came back, great 👍 if not then this friendship is over for me.

That is a good decision. It could be that she simply wants/needs space, or maybe she’s not interested in being your friend anymore. In either case, you are putting the responsibility on her by making her take initiative, which is good.

 

[Antho]

That is a good decision. It could be that she simply wants/needs space, or maybe she’s not interested in being your friend anymore. In either case, you are putting the responsibility on her by making her take initiative, which is good.

I also need to think about me and stop caring for people who apparently don't value me as much as I value them.

 

[Ethan Reigns]

I also need to think about me and stop caring for people who apparently don't value me as much as I value them.

Nothing makes a person look more pathetic than clingy behaviour. You may find after a while people you do not keep in touch with as frequently have a better opinion of you. There is nothing more attractive than looking competent at living your life. A lot of the attraction of "bad boy" behaviour is it mimics competence. In a world of guys who are trying to determine how to live their lives, the bad boys appear to have it all figured out. One of the comedic items of Buffy is that Spike is written as a clingy bad boy, a contradiction in one personality.

As for thinking about your own future, prospective employers can tell if a person is too wrapped up in personal problems to become an effective employee. No one wants to hire a needy person. You have to understand your place in the world and it is better than you might think. Showcase your competence and understanding of the field you intend to be in and keep personal issues out of the spotlight and you should be able to land a job in a reasonable time. We all wish you the best.

 

[Taake]

I also need to think about me and stop caring for people who apparently don't value me as much as I value them.

I don't think you should ever regret caring for people, that's part of what makes you a wonderful person, but learning to let go is a good thing. I don't think you're ever clingy (or pathetic) to the right persons, but sometimes the right people come and go <3

 

[Anyanka Bunny Slayer]

I also need to think about me and stop caring for people who apparently don't value me as much as I value them.

It's not your fault. There's nothing wrong with being a loving, sensitive person...but it can suck when you feel abandoned by someone you thought was a friend. There's been several times where I developed an emotional attachment to someone, only to discover they didn't feel the same way. And it really hurts. I guess it's kind of like being a small child whose favourite toy is suddenly snatched away from them. Your heart breaks, and inside you're screaming, "But I thought you were my friend!" Believe me, I know. The sense of betrayal is so painful.

Don't let this experience sour you on making friends. Just remember that a lot of people don't feel things the way you do. It doesn't help that you're a Cancer, one of the most emotional signs in the Zodiac! 😄 But I have faith in you.

 

[Plasma]

I also need to think about me and stop caring for people who apparently don't value me as much as I value them.

You are a valuable person and you deserve to be valued as such by your friends. If they do not, then that is their loss and you are better off without them. You are a sweet person, Antho, so do not let other people make you think otherwise

 

[Antho]

Nothing makes a person look more pathetic than clingy behaviour.

Do you imply I’m pathetic ? I don’t think so you meant that, it’s probably a problem of understanding on my part.. agreed with the rest of your message.

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It doesn't help that you're a Cancer, one of the most emotional signs in the Zodiac! 😄

It’s totally true. Water signs are the most emotional. You sound like my aunt

 

[Ethan Reigns]

Do you imply I’m pathetic ? I don’t think so you meant that, it’s probably a problem of understanding on my part.. agreed with the rest of your message.

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It’s totally true. Water signs are the most emotional. You sound like my aunt

No, I don't think you are pathetic but you should be aware of the effect you have on people's opinions of you. As I have said, your position in the world is better than you think. She thought you were a good enough guy to have a friendship with in the past and there does not appear to have been any even that changed that. You mentioned a boyfriend - he may be uncomfortable with her continuing to communicate with you.

No one wants to see the inbox on their phone blown up with lots of messages - that would be pathetic clingy behaviour. The messages remain and the fact that she is still responding, even if it appears later than it used to be is probably a good indication that she still likes you even though her workload has made it impossible to respond as quickly as before and your favourite memories are of things that consumed a lot of time.

 

[Antho]

No one wants to see the inbox on their phone blown up with lots of messages - that would be pathetic clingy behaviour.

That is not the case. That was never the case. On the contrary, I’m more the type of person that wait for people to respond to me than to harass them with a tons of message. We are not in the case of harassment here. I have not News from her since last Wednesday and as I have said before I’m not going to do a step toward her.

 

[Ethan Reigns]

That is not the case. That was never the case. On the contrary, I’m more the type of person that wait for people to respond to me than to harass them with a tons of message. We are not in the case of harassment here. I have not News from her since last Wednesday and as I have said before I’m not going to do a step toward her.

Excellent. I am glad to hear it. You have to take the Zen attitude that things will either happen or they won't and it is not a reflection on you, you just have to accept what comes. It is difficult - being in a position of wanting someone who doesn't want you is unpleasant, but this does not appear to be your case. She may want you as a friend, she just doesn't have the time anymore.

 

[Antho]

It is difficult - being in a position of wanting someone who doesn't want you is unpleasant, but this does not appear to be your case

Here it’s more « wanting to keep a friendship as it was » but indeed relationships evolve in life. It’s just that I needed time to accept it, and to adapt myself to it, and she did it easily than me apparently.

Anyway enough talk about that subject. It’s 1h am and the dog 🐶 of the neighbor under my apartment is screaming since 1 hour. I am right now talking to it to try to calm her.

 

[November]

Poor doggo! Although they can be such drama queens. Lilah howls when I take the other dog out for a walk. She stops after a couple minutes, but it sounds so mournful. We've always come back so far, she doesn't have to be so dramatic about it. Harmony couldn't care less if we left her alone. Especially if we leave her with food.

 

[Nothing13]

Tonight I went to a bar to have a few drinks, and there was a girl alone working in the bar, as the owner was in Prague to celebrate his birthday.
There weren't many people there, but she was there by herself, running the whole place. I stayed there to help her a little bit and talk.
We talked for about 2 hours and had a "strawberry margarita" with her.

 

[Antho]

Tonight I went to a bar to have a few drinks, and there was a girl alone working in the bar, as the owner was in Prague to celebrate his birthday.
There weren't many people there, but she was there by herself, running the whole place. I stayed there to help her a little bit and talk.
We talked for about 2 hours and had a "strawberry margarita" with her.

looks like someone had a really good evening 😀 😉😎

 

[November]

Wow, I cant get over how much easier having the heater is. I put it on a timer to come on at 5.30am this morning. All of my clothes are hung on a hook under it, so now when I get up, all my clothes are warm too! Since the days are so hot, it doesn't have to be on once the sun comes up, but I really am surprised how much nicer it makes life.

And its nice not to have to rush to walk the dogs before it gets too hot. I can go anytime and its much more relaxing. I love love love the cooler weather! Maybe I need to move to New Zealand...

 

[Ethan Reigns]

Tonight I went to a bar to have a few drinks, and there was a girl alone working in the bar, as the owner was in Prague to celebrate his birthday.
There weren't many people there, but she was there by herself, running the whole place. I stayed there to help her a little bit and talk.
We talked for about 2 hours and had a "strawberry margarita" with her.

Interesting you should mention this. I follow the Irish Try channel on YouTube and Monday's session was about mixed drinks through the decades. Strawberry Margaritas represented the 1940's and one of the tryers, Ciara, put it succinctly: "Nothing says I'm getting railed on the beach like a strawberry margarita." Love that channel.

 

[Stake fodder]

This is the month of things breaking. First, my DVD player. It's hard to find plain DVD players anymore, but Blu-Ray is more expensive, and I don't see the pont in investing in it, as everything is moving to streaming. Got a cheap one, but probably cheaply made, too.

Then my watch battery died suddenly, even though it hadn't even been losing time. Finally, my trusty box fan quit. I paid $5 for this fan 28 years ago, so yeah, it's served honorably. But it's weird that it worked perfectly one day, then boom, won't work at all.

Anyway, I'm left wondering if this is all unlucky coincidence, or if the solar storm had something to do with it.🤔

 

[Ethan Reigns]

This is the month of things breaking. First, my DVD player. It's hard to find plain DVD players anymore, but Blu-Ray is more expensive, and I don't see the pont in investing in it, as everything is moving to streaming. Got a cheap one, but probably cheaply made, too.

Then my watch battery died suddenly, even though it hadn't even been losing time. Finally, my trusty box fan quit. I paid $5 for this fan 28 years ago, so yeah, it's served honorably. But it's weird that it worked perfectly one day, then boom, won't work at all.

Anyway, I'm left wondering if this is all unlucky coincidence, or if the solar storm had something to do with it.🤔

According to the ephemeris, the sun is in Taurus, the moon is in Virgo, mercury just entered Taurus yesterday, Venus is in Taurus, Mars is in Aries, Jupiter is in Taurus, Saturn is in Pisces, Uranus is in Taurus, Neptune is in Pisces and Pluto is in Aquarius. What did you think was going to happen?

 

[HowiMetdaSlayer]

I'd only worry if Pluto was in Uranus. That would just be goofy