I have a problem between my best freind and sister, please I need your opinions

[Alyson]

Hey everyone, well as you can see, I have a problem and I'm stuck between my best freind and my only sister. Lets just call my freind Jade and my sister Kate, for keepsake, cause I want to keep them unknown.
Well it all started around when I was 12 and Kate was 14, her and Jade were freinds first, we would always hang out at my house, just the 3 of us, cause they both got along with me. 2 years later they grew apart and didn't like each other no-more, they would always fight and Kate hated Jade, but I started to hang out with Jade afterwards, now we are best freinds and Kate totally hates her but keeps on telling me I should stop hanging with her before she gets clinging to me and never leaves me alone. I know what she's like, I've been there the whole time but I don't think I will ever have a great freind as much as Jade is to me.
Anyways, so I keep on hanging with Jade, but she's not aloud to come to my house, I'm occasionally aloud at hers for a few hours wile the rest of the family is out at the football but that's it. Now it is 3 weeks till school finishes, I could either keep freinds with Jade and only be able to see her maybe once a month but still be strong, or I could never see her again and find other freinds who isn't Kate's worst enemy.
And then I still have the worry that Jade is going to be totally mean and I end up hating her for the rest of my life, cause of the fights and what happened to her and Kate because I don't want that to happen.
Now if anyone could give there opinion on what I should do in this sticky situation??

 

[Faith]

Here are my thoughts, based on what you have said.

Do you know the circumstances of why the fell out? And is there are reason other than the fact that your sister doesn't like her that she is not alound in your house? It may be the case that something happened when they were friends, which is making your sister behave like this. But based on what you have said above I can't really get a clear picture to offer other suggestions.

She is your older sister and they have a tendancy to look out for you, but there is a difference in looking out for you and running your life by dictating who you can and cannot be friends with.

Do you and Jade live near each other? Why would you only be able to see her once a month? Because of your sister or because of something else? If you want to remain friends with this girl then it is your choice, don't let the actions of others influence you.

I can't really give more advice at the moment since I don't really know the full situation which may lead me to say other things. But I hope that you get something sorted out. Have you told your friend about the way your sister is behaving? She may understand that this is a difficult situation for you and you could come up with something together to sort it out.

Faith would like to state that this is just advice and she is not actually guiding you to go down a particular path, and cannot be held responsible for the outcome 😉

 

[Beer_Nut]

I agree with Faith on this one. That information regarding the blow-out between your friend and your sister would be helpful.

I think that whether to hang-out with this friend is your choice, noone else's. You sister has to understand that you have other friends who are not her. On the same token, she may just be watching out for you, does this friend do any "bad" (for lack of a better word) things? If she does then I am gonna agree with your sister.

In the end though it is your choice, if you want to remain friends with Jade, then do so. But try to see where your sister is coming from first.

 

[Alyson]

The only reason she is not aloud at my house is because of my sister, my mum and dad like her but Kate dosent.
Jade lives 20 minutes away from my house, i can never walk there so i get my mum to drop me off, and usually she is out most weekends so only sometimes I get to go there.
I have thought of where my sister is coming from, and im not quite sure if its because who Jade is or if its because of reasons like they never got along because of the stuff they were into.
I dont want to let my sister dictate my life, sometimes she can do that, but she does also look out for me, and im still unsure of what to do, but thanks both of you for your advice I will take it into cosideration.