Im having a rant..

[DáNió]

Im having my rant. I need to get it of my chest.
There is a boy, my mates brother to be exact. Who I met back in Januray & she set us up & things happened. He's at UNI in a totally different city. He came back in early April, got my number & his sister knew he had it. We talk almost everyday, he's on break from UNI and comes back home. We are gonna meet up, after waiting so long. It turns out she's bothered that we're going to be seeing each other. & wont allow us to see each other. Not "It's up to you", it was actually "If it didnt bother me, I would let you" let me.. Iam my own person, she honestly can not tell me what to do. The only reason Im not meeting him is cause I know it will wreck the friendship. I told him we couldnt see each other & kept texting me. Until about two days ago when It just stopped. She also said "and most people would agree, you dont go with your mates' brother/sis" I was totally stumped that she could even say that, she set it up, cannot set someone up and then totally go back on your word. He went out with another one of her mates and all they did was argue. I just feel like she's going on what happened in the past & wish she would just give it a chance. & i feel stupid cause he means so much to me, and Ive only known him 1month & a bit. I got so hyped up about finally meeting him & it just got crushed. She seem's to thing he's just in it for sex. If he just wanted sex, wouldn't he get someone closer to where he is than all the way back here. I know he was being an nob about it with her, by calling her a "sh*t stirrer" & i dont know if there getting on now. Cause I havent spoken to him since Tuesday night & she just wont speak about it. Of all the people I have liked he is the most & i honestly don't think she knows how much I do. I feel like he's just gone of me now. Cause he dosen't text at all. & it feels stupid just to throw it all away, not seeing why we couldnt be friends. I know I sound like im a b*tch cause you should always pick friends over lads. I just feel by her not letting me see him, Is hurting me more than her. I know there other lads out there, but at the moment I just cant see that. Cause all I can think about is him.
I've had my rant and now Iam done.



&once again we're further away from what we never had​

 

[Anchovy]

Oh honey. "Friends over guys" only works if your friends aren't being complete bitcas. I know that you don't want to mess up your friendship, but if you really clicked with this guy, maybe you should talk to her about it. You do have to consider your own feelings above your friends sometimes. It really is ok to be 'selfish' sometimes. Because nobody's ever going to just GIVE you anything, and sometimes, if you want it, you have to take it. Anyway, I hope it works out and I hope your rant made you feel better. :grouphug:

 

[Soulgasm]

heh...kinda shady....seems like you really got along with that guy...

if you want him...go get him...just remember to be patient and persistent...it'll over come any obstacles...

 

[DáNió]

tahnks. put it aint gonna change. not ever.

need to get over this boy. badly.

 

[Jenny]

Oh man I have a friend, well it's a friend of a friend..going through almost this EXACT situation..and I was just shocked with her situation...now to see it again....man I swear.

I TOTALLY agree with Anchovy here...

Oh honey. "Friends over guys" only works if your friends aren't being complete bitcas.

Honestly, don't let what could be something REALLY special get away just because your friend is being unreasonable!!!! I know you don't want to hear that because you are obviously a very good friend and don't want to jeopardize your friendship with her...but you have to look out for YOU too hon!!! *HUGS*

 

[elmo]

Much in agreement with the others here honey. I think that your friend is being really selfish here and it might do you some good to talk to her about it. Just tell her that you like him a lot and that you don't understand why she would set you guys up and then tell you "you can't date". It's not her choice. If it bothered her then she shouldn't have put it out there for the 2 of you and then taken it away. It's not fair on you. I would explain to her that you respect her because she's your friend but you would like to be able to make the choice yourself. I'm sure she'll understand, if not, she's not a good friend.

Hope that helps a little.