Modern Feminists - aren't playing with a full deck, they have a 3.

As the article rigorously backs up, there is a 'gender gap' in political interest. That is clearly real, not a statement born out of ignorance or prejudice.

Posting an article doesn't make that true.

So I don't know how you can construe this very real gender gap issue as being responsible for hindering the adoption of more equitable gender laws worldwide?

I wasn't. If you read what I actually said, I was saying that you were getting up in arms about the comment about Madonna, saying it was destroying the chances at gender equality legislation, when the attitude that women just don't want to be in politics (as an example), excusing gender bias, is more damaging to equality than that. You're the one claiming that women being upset about things that objectify women are responsible for it, not me. I don't think it's legislation that's the problem.

And I'm not a feminist because I believe all people should be treated fairly and equally, not one above any other. And I'm not interested in getting into a debate about that.
 
And I'm not a feminist because I believe all people should be treated fairly and equally, not one above any other. And I'm not interested in getting into a debate about that.

That's what I agree with too, so maybe I shouldn't call myself a feminist either? maybe I picked the whole feminism label up the wrong way, but do you think Feminism gives preferential treatment to women or something?

I'm vehemently opposed to special treatment for either gender.

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Posting an article doesn't make that true.
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Bizarrely you've decided to throw out the findings of that article.

So here's a different seperate poll that affirms the same thing, western women are generally less interested in politics than men:
http://multivu.prnewswire.com/mnr/harrisinteractive/44732/

Women are more likely than men to read mystery, thrillers and crime novels (57% versus 39%), romance (37%) vs. (3%), chick-lit (12% vs. 4%) and religious books (30% vs. 21%). Men, on the other hand, are more likely to read science fiction (32% vs. 20%), history books (40% vs. 23%), political books (25% vs. 10%), and business books (16% vs. 4%

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I don't think it's legislation that's the problem.

I don't think much further legislation in western countries is needed either, but I do think legislation is needed in countries were women are still legally treated as second class citizens.

What I was saying is that mushing 'objectification' into the issue of equality does no one any favors, especially not the women that need legalisation in their authoritarian countries fast. If their despotic leaders are ever going to soften to allowing a change in the status of women in their society it needs to be presented in a concise way, that is, not to associate equality/('True feminism') with any anti-scientific radical feminism fluff or baggage. Critics to equality lap that stuff up and use it as ammunition against those that simply want equal rights for all.
 
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Just to let you know, it's been proven that most statistics are made up, and are generally bent to fit one viewpoint or another, so they are kind of a moot point here.
And I'm not a feminist because I believe all people should be treated fairly and equally, not one above any other. And I'm not interested in getting into a debate about that.

Feminism is about gender equality...real feminists believe that all people should be treated fairly and equally. That's the whole point of it haha. Any "feminist" that believes women deserve more rights than men, is an absolute phony, in my opinion.
 
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A gap in gender interests is more reflective of how children are socialized to play with or prefer certain activities or careers rather than an example of anything else that seems to be implied in how you are using it. Childrens' interests are still largely manipulated by gender stereotypes. One only needs to walk into the toy isles of any major shopping center to witness that. If women are less interested in politics then it is more to do with a society that did not encourage that interest as equally as it did with her male counterpart than it is to do with her having a vagina.
 
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Feminism is about gender equality...real feminists believe that all people should be treated fairly and equally. That's the whole point of it haha. Any "feminist" that believes women deserve more rights than men, is an absolute phony, in my opinion.

As I said, I'm not interested in getting into a debate about the subject. I only mention it to illustrate why I shouldn't be called a "radical modern feminist".
 
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I just read through the first three pages of this, and I was going to continue... but it seems to just not change. From the very beginning this tread has been a perfect example of male privilege. Now on the one hand, I can't judge you for your privilege if you've never heard about it before... because privilege by it's very definition is hidden from the privileged. It is not realizing how stigmatized the stigmatized group is.

There is no point in making rude emotional remarks towards someone who is speaking from their privilege. That will only ground them more. It will make them throw out everything said against their stance as irrational. THAT is what I see going on here. You have to be patient with someone speaking from privilege. Education is key here. Privilege is literal ignorance.
 
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Excellent post. (And I suppose I should say I stand corrected.)
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Fredikins said:
Maybe she feels like her story isn't newsworthy...and I agree. If some random guy had saved her, who would care? No one. I mean some people do like celebrity related news, but I personally don't give a kitty so I would feel the same way if something like that happened to me. She thanked the guy sooo yeah, I don't see the point of this thread. The article just seems like an excuse to attack feminism.

exactly.


Sweet J, seems to me like you're a chauvanist & you definitely painted all feminists w/ a broad stroke . If that isnt the case. then why the choice of title for this thread? not to mention an article [which was hardly news worthy] that hardly highlights the history & complexity of feminism in a clear, objective light.

im a card carrying feminist, a member of the national association of the affairs of women & i can tell you that liberated, feminist women who understand the movement & what it has accomplished for us & the previous struggles (suffurage etc) that made it possible, do NOT see/use feminism as a means to put down men or to say that women deserve MORE than men.

again, i think Fredikins sums it up quite well w/

To me feminism is about men and women having equal rights, not that women are better than men or anything silly like that. It is about equality. I feel like you're implying that modern feminists believe that women are superior to men, and I've gotta tell you, the majority of us do not feel that way.

its about equality & the freedom to live how we choose. feminism (& the efforts that came before leading up to it such as suffurage etc) has made the lives of women in america FAR easier than for those in my mother's or grandmother's generation & those before.

fighting for the rights that [white] men enjoyed from the start when this country began is not "special treatment". there was a time when women in this country had NO rights. a woman couldnt even open a bank account or go to school w/out the "permission" of her father or husband. most girls today who may not even appreciate feminism could not fathom what it would be like to live in the earliest days of "America".

what's happened is that groups like the religious right have managed to promote this perception tying feminism to "radical" lesbians etc...making it seem as though its a man hating platform. it's not.

many "modern feminists" (if you can even call them that) have lost sight of the history & meaning of feminism but you can attribute that to a growing laziness & contentment along w/ the way that those who oppose feminism have been able to put such a negative spin on it while those who know the truth have not done enough to dispell that negative spin.
 
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Guys, come on. It's so important not to call one another names and stay civil. I know it's not my place to say this, but please try not to insult other members.
 
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Haahaahahahah lmfa(right)o. 😀 Links are brilliant, ''I literally just got saved from a car by Ryan Gosling, that actually just happened(whooooo?) lol this is brilliant.
Random woman is saved by random man, whoopee dooo, imma go tell every one i know about this.
 
I just went back and read page four of this thread and feel the need to say something. Has it occurred to you [MENTION=11786]Sweet J[/MENTION] that the gap in political interest as shown by all of your sources can and should be attributed to the patriarchal society that we live in and the social pressures women face to NOT be interested in politics? I ask because you spoke up against the criticism of patriarchy and mentioned the gap in political interest which is a direct result of the problems of the patriarchy.

When I was a child... like a little kid in elementary school... so many little girls would say they wanted to be the first female president when they grew up. And the teachers would smile and nod and say something like "I wanted to be a fairy princess." When the boys would say "I want to be president when I grow up" the teachers would say "President _fill_in_the_blank_name_. That has a ring to it!" I remember thinking this was particularly strange because I asked my grandmother why that was the case one day and she said "because some people are stupid." I was taken aback because my grandmother never used language like that... and I said "what?" And she said "Never let anyone tell you that women can't be president. Just because it happened yet doesn't mean it won't happen soon."

That was 13 or so years ago. Since then, things have changed... but not that much. Women aren't and haven't been encouraged to be a part of the political system. We couldn't even vote until 1920 for goodness sake! The social atmosphere surrounding politics is oriented towards men.

I believe this is another case of your privilege getting in the way. You've probably never even thought about how the social forces of the patriarchy affect women's involvement in politics. But let me tell you, as a woman who expressed interest in politics when I was younger, the social influences of the patriarchy to NOT be politically minded as a woman are loud and hard to ignore.

You have to recognize that equality doesn't just mean that there are laws about equality. Equality doesn't even mean that these laws be upheld. Equality means socially, men and women are given equal opportunity to do whatever they want.
 
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I just went back and read page four of this thread and feel the need to say something. Has it occurred to you [MENTION=11786]Sweet J[/MENTION] that the gap in political interest as shown by all of your sources can and should be attributed to the patriarchal society that we live in and the social pressures women face to NOT be interested in politics? I ask because you spoke up against the criticism of patriarchy and mentioned the gap in political interest which is a direct result of the problems of the patriarchy.

When I was a child... like a little kid in elementary school... so many little girls would say they wanted to be the first female president when they grew up. And the teachers would smile and nod and say something like "I wanted to be a fairy princess." When the boys would say "I want to be president when I grow up" the teachers would say "President _fill_in_the_blank_name_. That has a ring to it!" I remember thinking this was particularly strange because I asked my grandmother why that was the case one day and she said "because some people are stupid." I was taken aback because my grandmother never used language like that... and I said "what?" And she said "Never let anyone tell you that women can't be president. Just because it happened yet doesn't mean it won't happen soon."

That was 13 or so years ago. Since then, things have changed... but not that much. Women aren't and haven't been encouraged to be a part of the political system. We couldn't even vote until 1920 for goodness sake! The social atmosphere surrounding politics is oriented towards men.

I believe this is another case of your privilege getting in the way. You've probably never even thought about how the social forces of the patriarchy affect women's involvement in politics. But let me tell you, as a woman who expressed interest in politics when I was younger, the social influences of the patriarchy to NOT be politically minded as a woman are loud and hard to ignore.

You have to recognize that equality doesn't just mean that there are laws about equality. Equality doesn't even mean that these laws be upheld. Equality means socially, men and women are given equal opportunity to do whatever they want.

I can only speak from experience, when I was growing up, we had a president who happened to be female(Mary Robinson), so I never experienced the classroom or societal bias that you are expressing. So the remark that I am speaking from a position of male privilege is unlikely.
The story of your teachers patronising the dreams of the ladies in your class was, I imagine, very insulting and probably disheartening. Be that as it may, I am still unconvinced that the 'patriarchy' is responsible.
I also find it hard to believe that if you really had a taste for getting into politics(like Hilary Clinton and Mary Robinson did) that peer pressure or social conditioning would have gotten in the way of your love.
I'm of the opinion that you're going to love something regardless of what others say.
Not to mention people, both male and female, often remark that criticism for their desires or beliefs usually emboldens them to pursue their desires with even greater tenacity than before.

From personal experience, I'm male and love BtVS, and yes I have had some raised eyebrows levelled at me for expressing my fanship of what might be preceived as a girls show. Despite that, or maybe because of it, I'm still as big a fan of BtVS as ever.

Equality means socially, men and women are given equal opportunity to do whatever they want.

I agree whole heartedly! equal opportunity is central to creating an equal and just world.
Though I think it a stretch to say that Patriachal forces are stifling female opportunity in the western world.

In fact, in many ways, in the western world, women generally have greater opportunity than men:
One highly publicised bias in opportunity is that (up until this year) it was cheaper for women to start driving than men-
http://www.carinsuranceexplained.co...n-why-do-women-get-cheaper-car-insurance.html

Now,I'll be the first one to admit that women are generally more interested in driving safely.

Now this is interesting, why is this? is it because the 'patriarchy' has forced women to be more relaxed drivers? or is it that the female brain is less prone to risk taking?


Furthermore when statements like - ''women are generally more interested in driving safely'' are made, no one criticises them, as it is backed up with statistics and so on. Yet when statements like ''men are generally more interested in cars & politics'' are made there is, bizarrely, an uproar of criticism from modern feminists who attack the evidence and statistics.


Likewise, my original post criticising the feminist who was saved by a man(Ryan Gosling) writing ''I refuse to be cast in some sort of boring supporting female role''. I was asking, why was the fact she was saved by a man so abhorrent to her?
When someone saves your life, you do take a supporting role, regardless of gender. Why are feminists like Penny trying to fight reality?
I've met a lot of feminists like Penny and I'm always struck at just how bizarre they act, is this distaste born out of an napolean complex or something?

I appear to be getting a lot of criticism when saying that men and women are fundamentally different, have different tastes and prefer different things.

When I presented two independent sets of studies that back up the assertion that women generally don't like politics as much as men I got a lot of criticism, some of which tried to explain away that data as a product of 'the patriarchy'. However if someone says 'women generally like chocolate more than men', which again demonstrates that fundamentally the genders prefer different things, the 'patriarchy' explanation clearly becomes nonsensical.
Women, as it turns out, do generally love chocolate more than men:
http://www.news.wisc.edu/13719


Whether it be a taste for politics or a taste for chocolate it appears that women and men do differ, my criticism is that a lot of modern feminists do not seem to like to admit this, instead shying away from that reality. This is what leaves me and others struggling with agreeing with modern feminists. Feminism appears to no longer be about eliminating discrimination but about fighting reality, and bizarrely, themselves.


Now I'm not saying '''look see, equality is stupid'' what I'm saying is that the current modern radical form of feminism that is prevalent in the western world that blames the 'patriarchy' for the likes of women not being as active in politics, is pretty wild and unsupported.

Why feminism in the western world isn't instead focussed on the very real wage discrimination, and the plight of women in countries that do not treat women as equal citizens, is beyond me.

Male and female brains are fundamentally different.
http://health.howstuffworks.com/human-body/systems/nervous-system/men-women-different-brains1.htm
(the page after the one above also discusses the nature vs nurture debate)
None of the studies or writing is saying ''men are better than women'' or vice versa, all it is saying is, we are different.
Women are generally more interested in, and better at, some things, and men at others.
Not because of patriarchal influences but seemingly it's down to biology.

Despite this it appears that modern feminists are aghast at findings that the genders are different, and try to sweep such findings under the rug, or level insults such as 'chauvinistic' towards those that bring them up, instead they prefer to point at the evil 'patriarchy' that is responsible.

This is where more criticism for modern feminists comes from, they refuse to acknowledge this, and because of this Feminism as a whole has been tarred with an unflatterering brush.

Modern Feminists appear aligned with this unscientific point of view:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patriarchy
Most sociologists reject predominantly biological explanations of patriarchy and contend that social and cultural conditioning is primarily responsible for establishing male and female gender roles.

I'm open to the possibilty that 'patriarchy' or social and cultural conditioning is responsible for a part of the reason why women generally have less of a taste for, and are therefore under-represented in politics, car clubs and so on.
Though as the earlier example of women having a greater taste for chocolate than men demonstrates the reason 'why' appears to be more biological than peer pressure.

To reject biological(scientific) explanations is pretty irrational. Again, this is where my, and other peoples criticisms for modern feminists comes from.

To bring up crimes like wage discrimination is rational, but because feminism(especially in the western world) is now concerning itself with trying to fight biology, I've begun to distance myself from it.

Again to reiterate my standpoint, I'm in support of female politicians and women getting invovled in politics, car clubs etc. There should be no snide remarks levelled at either gender for expressing a love of xyz.
However we have to realize that males and females biologically have greater tastes for different things, and by and large this appears to be the reason why women are under- represented in politics, and men under-represented in say the likes of the Veterinary profession.
http://sf.oxfordjournals.org/content/88/5/1969.abstract
 
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I feel like your use of correlative data as evidence that there is a biological reason for differences in gender preference is largely incorrect. Correlation and hypothesizing about causation does not prove your point.
I'm just going to make a couple of comments because I'm not totally sure where this discussion is up to, but...

As far as the argument about women in politics goes, we've had attempts in Britain to put more women into Parliament by allowing parties to insist on all-female shortlists when the local parties select their candidates. In my local area, it happened at the last election when two parties put female candidates up against the sitting male MP (who won comfortably). The only problem is that the decision of who represents us is ultimately made by the electorate, which is as it should be, but there was also a sense that some of the parties were forcing female candidates from outside the area on us just to keep the numbers up. The political life is difficult for anybody- long and irregular hours, personal attacks and having little or no private life- but it's almost certainly less attractive to any woman who wants to have a family life as well. Many British MPs, for example, travel down to London at the start of the week to attend sittings of Parliament and then return to their constituencies on Friday evening to spend the weekend with their families and the people they represent. I have to say that it adds a lot to my estimation of somebody like Hillary Clinton that she's carried so much political responsibility for so long as well as raising a daughter and having to live very publicly with her husband's infidelities.

I think part of the problem is that "feminism" is a broad church, and that sometimes people have axes to grind, whether it's with individual men, the male sex in general or the concept of patriarchy, without catching sight of the long term objective, which is having both sexes living along side of each other as equal citizens, happy in their own skin and comfortable in their masculinity, femininity or whatever identity they choose.
 
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I saw this quote about 30 seconds ago and it made me think of this thread:

"When 1,100 Michigan elementary students were asked to describe what life would be like if they were the opposite sex, over 40 percent of the girls saw advantages to being male; they would have better jobs, higher incomes, and more respect. Ninety-five percent of the boys saw no advantage to being female, and a substantial number thought suicide would be preferable." -Deborah Rhode in Speaking of Sex: The Denial of Gender Inequality quoted by Andrea Dworkin in Scapegoat
 
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''Elementary students''...you mean they polled kids?
I saw this quote about 30 seconds ago and it made me think of this thread:
It's just about male ego, no man is ever gonna tell you that he'd like to be a woman, whereas women don't have a problem saying that, that's all .. Men do have certain advantages women don't, but women do too!
 
It's just about male ego, no man is ever gonna tell you that he'd like to be a woman, whereas women don't have a problem saying that, that's all .. Men do have certain advantages women don't, but women do too!

Don't generalize. If I was a girl, I wouldn't have a problem with it. I'm not saying I desire it or anything, but fundamentally I have zero issue with it. To me, a guy, both sexes are equal. Not all guys have the "male ego" thing going on. 🙂

(although that study was pretty telling)
 
Don't generalize. If I was a girl, I wouldn't have a problem with it. I'm not saying I desire it or anything, but fundamentally I have zero issue with it.
Well duh! You're on a Buffy forum, I should hope so lol, I mean I guess those 95% who act all macho & stuff wouldn't be caught dead on a Buffy forum & I'm not generalizing, but you can't deny it's true 😛
 
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It's just about male ego, no man is ever gonna tell you that he'd like to be a woman, whereas women don't have a problem saying that, that's all .. Men do have certain advantages women don't, but women do too!

Why would a male ego make him not want to say that he'd like to be a woman? Because he would be ridiculed? Why is that...? Hmm...our society makes it seem as if being feminine is such a terrible thing. I find that incredibly unfair. My mom's friend's husband wouldn't let their son BORROW a pink sippy cup if he needed to. His wife forgot to bring one once, so my mom let her borrow my sister's. The lid was pink and purple and my mom's friend was like, "Good thing my husband isn't here, he would insist I buy a new one because of the color." What the hell??

My cousin's son loves pink so she buys him pink toys and some of his shirts are pink and sometimes people give him strange looks and I just hate that. I'm a feminist because things aren't totally equal for either side, in my opinion. For the most part, the inequality has to do with social issues, which can still be very damaging to a human being who doesn't fit their gender's "mold". If someone doesn't live up to society's standards they are deemed "abnormal", and that is total crap.
 
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Why would a male ego make him not want to say that he'd like to be a woman? Because he would be ridiculed? Why is that...? Hmm...our society makes it seem as if being feminine is such a terrible thing. I find that incredibly unfair. My mom's friend's husband wouldn't let their son BORROW a pink sippy cup if he needed to. His wife forgot to bring one once, so my mom let her borrow my sister's. The lid was pink and purple and my mom's friend was like, "Good thing my husband isn't here, he would insist I buy a new one because of the color." What the hell??
I think maybe that's more a gay thing than a gender thing
 
In the spirit of reviving old threads...

I also find it hard to believe that if you really had a taste for getting into politics(like Hilary Clinton and Mary Robinson did) that peer pressure or social conditioning would have gotten in the way of your love.
I'm of the opinion that you're going to love something regardless of what others say.
Not to mention people, both male and female, often remark that criticism for their desires or beliefs usually emboldens them to pursue their desires with even greater tenacity than before.

What if you never had a chance to get into it in the first place? Not being exposed to politics or -- well, let's just take cars, for example. Someone assumes since you're a guy, you'll be interested in cars. Then that someone sees a girl and shows her some fashion magazines. In an alternate world, someone shows the girls the car magazines, and she gets interested. In the first scenario, she never gets the chance to explore her could-be interest in cars. Obviously, everyone would probably be exposed to quite a number of things over their lives, but the fact is that some will not actively pursue the interest if they are not encouraged. It is a question of exposure and societal expectations. You might not be so passionately interested in something the moment you see it; you could grow a passion if you were exposed to it and your interest encouraged. It's like how schools get people to sample an array of subjects before they can decide on what their career is.

Despite this it appears that modern feminists are aghast at findings that the genders are different, and try to sweep such findings under the rug, or level insults such as 'chauvinistic' towards those that bring them up, instead they prefer to point at the evil 'patriarchy' that is responsible.

This is where more criticism for modern feminists comes from, they refuse to acknowledge this, and because of this Feminism as a whole has been tarred with an unflatterering brush.

Modern Feminists appear aligned with this unscientific point of view:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patriarchy
Most sociologists reject predominantly biological explanations of patriarchy and contend that social and cultural conditioning is primarily responsible for establishing male and female gender roles.

I'm open to the possibilty that 'patriarchy' or social and cultural conditioning is responsible for a part of the reason why women generally have less of a taste for, and are therefore under-represented in politics, car clubs and so on.
Though as the earlier example of women having a greater taste for chocolate than men demonstrates the reason 'why' appears to be more biological than peer pressure.

To reject biological(scientific) explanations is pretty irrational. Again, this is where my, and other peoples criticisms for modern feminists comes from.

To bring up crimes like wage discrimination is rational, but because feminism(especially in the western world) is now concerning itself with trying to fight biology, I've begun to distance myself from it.

Again to reiterate my standpoint, I'm in support of female politicians and women getting invovled in politics, car clubs etc. There should be no snide remarks levelled at either gender for expressing a love of xyz.
However we have to realize that males and females biologically have greater tastes for different things, and by and large this appears to be the reason why women are under- represented in politics, and men under-represented in say the likes of the Veterinary profession.
http://sf.oxfordjournals.org/content/88/5/1969.abstract

My whole point about exposure and societal expectations is above... and on a different tack, it's not like anyone contends, say, the difference between the strength of men and women. Men are naturally stronger than women, by a large degree. No one says that's due to societal expectations. No one complains about sports competitions being split according to sex.
 
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