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My dad and i just started living together in July with my grandma and things were great i had space and he had space but we still hung out alot then my step brothers moved in and he started hanging with them more then me but he still hung with me sometime then my brother got a girlfriend who basically had no place to stay so we invited her to live with us because I had started to like her like a sister but then my dad started flirting with her like crazy hugging her and kissing up on her even though she is only 17 and now my dad has nothing to do with me the only time he looks at me is when i do something he dont like and thats just to yell at me and i know its parshly cause of my friend see everytime he is interested in a girl i get pushed away. and i can't go back to my mom because she thinks i'm a disgrace basically because i got kicked out of school for being sick and I need some where to go cause i can't take being here anymore but i dont know if i should leave or not i dont want to make a mistake but i can't take all the crying anymore...... Any suggestions on what i should do?

Thanks for the listening and for those of you that try to help me.
 
Sorry you have all that trouble..really don't know what advice give you,but you have a hug from me...::wave::
 
Why don't you try getting your dad on his own and try and talk things through? It could work,and you have a hug from me too.
 
Thanks you guys... I mean i have talked to my dad or tried to but he just gets mad and yells at me... when i was like 5 he would call tell me he was picking me up and i'd be sooooo excited and have my bags packed in like 5 minutes and be sitting on the couch and just stay there all day long untill it was like 7 pm and my dad called up and went sorry baby girl me and sandy had to do some grown up stuff then he would tell my mom they went out to a bar or something
 
omg,well you live with your dad and grandma right?why dont ya try talkin to her,openin up 2 someone might help
 
well your mother wont have you back(which in my opinion is wrong as every mother loves they're child),and as your mother she should care what happens to you,and if that means getting an apartment so be it,whats so wrong with getting one anyway?
Have you tried confiding in friends (apart from on here) having a chat with someone face to face can help,maybe if you stay over your friends house sometimes it will give you a chance to tell her/him whats going on and they might have a solution .
 
I can't give you much advice as i've never had a situation like this. If you have already tried talking to them yourself, including your father and mother, maybe you should find someone else who can help you reach them, even if it is a friend's parents. I'm sure you have plenty of people who care about you, focus on them. Your friends, your grandmother. I know this is much easier for me to say than for you to actually do. Stay with friends as often as possible, just to be in a place where you feel like your happy. The best thing i could possibly say is, find help from someone to talk to your parents. Even a close friend can give great moral support if you want to talk to them yourself. Have your friend with you(this is also a great shield, parents genrally seem to yell less, and be more cooperative when there is someone else around. Most people don't like to be put on the spot, but in this situation you really need to find a way to get through to them.)Im not sure if im any help, but i hope everything works out.
 
Originally posted by Shell
well your mother wont have you back(which in my opinion is wrong as every mother loves they're child),and as your mother she should care what happens to you,and if that means getting an apartment so be it,whats so wrong with getting one anyway?
Have you tried confiding in friends (apart from on here) having a chat with someone face to face can help,maybe if you stay over your friends house sometimes it will give you a chance to tell her/him whats going on and they might have a solution .
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Well i dont really have friends thats the problem i got sick for 2 months in public school so i switched to a small private school got sick for 3 weeks (no one would tell me it was a stomach virus) now but by the time i got meds for it and took them i got kicked out and i couldn't go cause every now and then i'd get sick and the fact i couldn't hold anything down so i never really made a good friend 🙁
 
oh,you have my sympathy,it must be really difficult,but at least you have people here who can try and help,I'll do the best I can,it must be a horrible situation to be in,I'll try and help as much as I can 🙂
 
Thanks i know i can always count on y'all I know i talk to Allycat all the time and he always tries to help me out and i know all of y'all are just as sweet and nice so thanks 🙂
 
First of all, lemme get this streight...Your dad is flirting and kissin your brothers girl and he's like..How old?Thats sick and wrong and...Sick!

Candi, if i didn't live so far away i'd say come live here...But since Wyoming and..Cali i think are so far away that's a bust...I think you and your grandpa getting an apartment is a good idea..Your dad won't even look at you unless he's grumpy and needs someone to yell at, your mom wont let you go live w/ her...So what's the big deal?I think you should call your mom and say that exact thing.That your dad is always busy and your mom wont let you stay...That grandpa is the only person who pays attention to you...And you don't like it there...

Hope it works out!
 
wow, that's so sad...*hugs* I would try and have a talk with your dad, tell him how you feel. Maybe he doesn't mean to do the things he does but does them because it just happens...if that makes sense...
 
It sounds to me that you have lots of friends here. Now all you need is to find a few more, who live closer to you. Is there somewhere nearby that you can meet new people? I am certain that there are lots of other people near you who want a friend, and you might be able to help them that way as well. I know that meeting new people when you are sad can be a risk. But sometimes you just have to take a risk to make your life better.

I don't know if that's good advice, but that's what I do when I feel that way. But in any case, you have my sympathy. It upsets me to hear that things have been tough for you. I really do hope things get better.
 
I'm soz for what happen to u, & I donno really what to say to advise u. I agree with Khaych. & did u try to talk to ur bro's gf to know what she think about ur dad flirting with her ?
I donno if it would help u, but maybe.
Hope it'll be better for u, take care
 
Awwwwwwww, i feel bad for you, you could also stay with me if i were'nt to far away.::crying::

You should try talking to your brother about it.
 
alright...hire a lawyer and get yourself emancipated right away...then live off the court ordered syphon paycheck from your dad....get a job...then go to community college...

in reality...do what khayach says...
 
Lots of great advice here for ya hon. SG's advice is great if talking to your dad doesn't work and you can't get a place with your grams. I would say that when you get him alone try again. If he tries not to hear you...speak up. Don't let him NOT hear you. Don't be insulting but just say how you feel. He's hearing you even if he doesn't act like it. That's what I had to do with my mother. If you don't want to risk that then write him a letter. Try everything you can to get through to him befor you make an extreme choice like leaving. But if you have no other choice then look into other options. At least then you'll know you've tried everything you could.
 
Well the only problem with becomming an adult myself is the fact that dont you have to prove yourself fit to for like a month and be able to support yourself.... well with me not being in school i mean i can't really work i dont think i mean i aint good with this kinda thing its like sooo complicated for me but i know i need to get myself out of here cause so much is going on...... and the problem is i live in a bad neighborehood and most people and teens around here are on drugs and i can't drive so i can't go to the mall and stuff i am basically stuck in my house cause my grandma works 2 jobs so she can't drive me places and its too far to walk
 
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