Although I may get sarcastic about it from time to time.
I would suggest that you don't. If you don't like our rules, you are free to post elsewhere, but if you want to post here you will abide by them.
If both of these actions "skirt the line" it must be a fairly squiggly line: it seems restrictive in one area and almost lax in another (again, I accept I don't know the specifics).
As I said, the comment in question was not appropriate for the board, necessitating this thread. The skirting the line has been in other areas. I just gave two recent examples of things that had been occurring.
Remember, this isn't your Facebook, or text messaging, or twitter, or your living room - things that are okay in those formats are not appropriate to this one.
In Buffy and Angel (and Dollhouse) sex (including first sexual experiences) are shown more or less in details, and are freely discussed by some characters, Faith and Anya being the best example. Another example is Xander's first sexual encounter with Faith. Can we mention and discuss things like those and the problem is only not getting personal and ask if some members had similar experiences?
We have always allowed free discussion of the themes of the show. I'm not telling you we can't discuss sex on this board. The way in which you do it, however, needs to follow the board rules and, frankly, good sense. These issues can be discussed without being vulgar. And that is what we ask. This generally has not been too much of a problem. Asking other members out of the blue about their sexual experiences...that's a different animal altogether. This is not the place for that. It's inconsiderate to other members.
Though the discussions - as usual in these cases - people respond and can mention personal experiences. Do they allowed to share those or give advice what one should do in case of sexual harassment at school/work? Is that ok, and the problem is only with asking other members about their personal experiences/opinions or we need to censor certain episodes or lines or words spoken by characters and not speak about certain issues? Attach gifs from the show?
People do mention personal experiences, and again, this is okay as long as it's not done in a vulgar way, "I was banging this chick last night and..." etc. Though I would caution people about getting too personal, just for the sake of this being the internet and not really the place to share some types of experiences, especially those that would be triggering to others. If we see something we think will be triggering for someone else, we will edit it out.
You do not need to censor things said by characters. As long as the gifs are quotes from the show, that is fine. If it's a lewd gif someone's created, then you should use your judgement as to whether that's appropriate for the board.
As far as advice...people should not be giving advice on things like sexual or drug abuse. The people here are not therapists or counselors on the whole and this is not the place to get that sort of help. If anyone is being abused or having substance abuse problems, please seek help from a therapist, counselor, support helpline, or trusted adult. Many resources can be found here and are also linked in our FAQ:
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In short, in which cases it's OK to mention sex, and in which cases isn't?
It's not a rule against mentioning sex. It's about not being lewd on the board and being respectful of other members. Discussing things in an adult manner. Not peppering your posts with curse words and obscene/offensive language. The same rules we have always had here.
I am really confused about those rules 😕 what you can or cant say and when, because when i grew up i could ask and discuss absolutely anything at home, there was zero censure...😳😛 and also because my dad was of the opinion that the more i know I'd be better at avoiding potentially dangerous situations.
That's great that you grew up that way, but this is a board about Buffy, not a therapy group or information session about sex, drug use and the like.
All we ask is that people post in a way that allows every member to enjoy the board and not be made to feel uncomfortable being here. Like I said, this isn't your twitter - bad language and obscene and lewd posting is not appropriate here. We try not to be too restrictive on people but before it gets out of hand we needed to remind everyone of the board's rules.
