Wow, you guys.. There is a lot for me to sort out and I have very little time spare as my life has been all but ruined, but after Cait let me know everyone at BB thought I was dead I had to come on and apologise in person.
Things are pretty awful for me right now and while I've not completely read this thread and don't think I will, the support and love I've recieved here is heartwarming. I am feeling very humbled and truly apologise for the hurt you've been put through. I have almost lost faith in humanity considering recent events but I might just get through this shit and come out a nicer person.
Thanks to the lovely Cait who made a decent summary of things, I will make a big post explaining what has actually happened in a short while but if possible I'd then like the thread locked or deleted as I am not looking for attention or sympathy over this. I really thought I was mostly hated here, you've all made my day 🙂
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Ok, get a cup of coffee and a bar of chocolate because there is a long post coming up.
As some of you know, my job required me to stay anonymous online and at times here and on my Facebook account (which I have not used in a very long time) I have given away far too much about myself. This may not seem important now but will do later. Also, some of you may remember my (now ex) girlfriend registering on here and accusing me of having 'online relationships' with some of the girls here. Considering I don't believe in them, that is absurd enough to me but the fact that many people here are under 16 makes it even more preposterous. However she believed it and sent a few people shitty PM's. This put our relationship under considerable strain and this combined with her increasingly jealous/paranoid behaviour and stress from work made me tell her we were going on a break, Rachel & Ross style. Some of you may remember my posts in the 'what's annoying you' threads that were around at the time. I felt better after a bit of time alone and took her back for another chance and to try to get that spark back.
It didn't seem to work and after a few weeks she was assuming that when I was travelling for work I'd be chatting up and bedding American girls, which is far from the truth- the work was a very solitary experience and I barely conversed with anyone. Any female friends I had were assumed to be someone I was shagging, stuff like this really gets to you. As she has wormed her way into my entire circle of friends, there were a few people I could talk to about this without it getting back to her. Fortunately I had made my first ever proper online friend in the lovely Caitaintdead who I talked to a little about the problems we were having in our relationship. During the April fools joke by her and Darla, I requested her email address when it looked like we were going to be banned and the fact it was a joke hadn't yet clicked with me. I put her email address into my online contacts list, while this may seem trivial it is actually a very relevant point.
Cut to a week and a half ago and I'd almost had enough of being regularly accused of cheating when I'd done nothing wrong. Having been cheated on once in the past (and having done it once, which was the biggest mistake I've ever made) there is little that pisses me off so much as this horrid accusation. On sunday morning I told my girlfriend that I had had enough of defending myself for no reason and constantly altering my ways to make her happy but getting nothing but more distrust in return, so the relationship was over. This was massive for me, while she doesn't live with me she does spend a lot of time here so I said she could keep my key and pick her stuff up whenever suits her best.
Cue endless text messages, phone calls and emails. She was apparently making Facebook and Twitter updates saying I'd been sleeping with loads of women behind her back, and apparently when our mutual friends expressed disbelief this sent her crazy. I stayed pretty much quiet as I could thinking that venting would help her get over things and had my mate come to visit. He came over and we had a glass of vino before deciding to go and see Source Code, so I went to my room for my coat and we finished our drinks before heading out. On the way back from the film I bumped into the wife of my boss who lives a few doors down from me who was after a USB key containing some video interviews I've done. We get on pretty well so I invited her in and as I was rummaging through my suitcase I heard the front door go- as luck would have it my girlfriend had chosen now to come and get my stuff. All of the explaining in the world couldn't calm the screaming madwoman and she eventually left after I successfully convinced her it there was nothing going on and it was just awful timing.
Thinking things were less intense, I went to sleep, woke up in the morning and left for work. As we work in the same place, I met with the same lady from the previous night -my bosses wife- and we walked to the office together as we had done hundreds of times before. I have no memory of what happened next but have been shown the CCTV: As we were crossing the road round the corner of the office a red Mondeo screeched round the corner and before we had a chance to react had driven into us sending us both flying across the pavement.
Next thing I know it's Saturday night and I'm lying in a hospital bed with no memory of the previous five days. Turns out I was in a coma due to minor head trauma and it had taken me this long to wake up. My dad had travelled the country to see me which was lovely (shame my mother couldn't be bothered to even contact me from France but hey ho) and I'd got hundreds of cards and enough chocolate to put back on the weight I've lost being on a drip, which was very humbling. I've had a sore head constantly since then and headaches come and go but otherwise am fine, save for a huge bruise on my leg where the pressure of the car had pressed my iPhone into it. I can't believe I'm so lucky and didn't die. Sadly my bosses wife is still in a coma and I can do nothing but hope she comes out of it ok, although without going into too much detail the staff are saying things are more serious for her.
I actually have a lovely friend Melissa (who is a doctor at the hospital) who said she would stay at my flat with me for a while to make sure I'm ok, meaning I could get an early discharge. This morning I was signed out and officially a free man again, so home I went with Melissa to finally relax in my own surroundings. Once I got back I noticed a letter from my employer. Which is usually bad news. It was a redundancy offer, so I called my boss from my landline and spoke to him. Turns out that while I was in a coma my girlfriend had been up to all kinds of nasty shit.
I knew their relationship wasn't going well, and so did she. Turns out that she had been to my house to collect her stuff, then when she got to my flat seen the two wine glasses in my room and jumped to conclusions. When she heard about the accident she decided that instead of showing concern she'd extract some HULK SMASH style revenge and told my boss she thought I was having an affair with his wife. She also wiped the drive of my MacBook and iPad but not before emailing people from my online contact list that I'd died even including sick stuff such as the funeral details (which is what Cait received) and cancelling all of my utility companies contracts with the same excuse. She had also emailed all of my real life friends and family with the news that I was in a coma but had been cheating on her so deserved it.
Fortunately my Mac automatically makes wireless backups so I restored that and from there the iPad, so I haven't lost any of my freelance work but I keep noticing she has changed my passwords for a lot of sites and closed a lot of my accounts. I think she has been clever enough to not explicitly break the law with her actions but I am pretty sure she can't get away with what she's done. It's quite clever that she's disguised it as 'caring' and has the excuse of my accident to cover herself but the fact that she won't answer the phone or talk to any of my friends clarifies to me that she feels guilty. That's about it. As it stands I've got a massive headache and have no job, as well as having a decent mate in a serious condition. This is bad enough but what my ex has done is unbelievable.
When it comes to the Buffy Boards, I feel awful for Cait having to relay the information to you all. I feel awful for Darla having to put up with people accusing her of making this up as some sick joke. I feel awful for everybody that thought I was dead and had to go through some form of grieving. I feel embarrassed myself for having to explain all of this to you, but couldn't let you all believe something that isn't true. I'm sure some will think this is a huge joke on my behalf, and that's fine. I assure you it's not true but in all honesty I'd find it a difficult story to believe. Suffice to say reality really is stranger then fiction. Coming back and reading some of the wonderful things you have said about me has brought a tear to my eye and really helped cheer me up. I genuinely thought almost everyone here hated me.
I am so grateful for this place and am proud to be back, sorry for any upset this whole incident may have caused.
I adore the lot of you 🙂
