scared of life?

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does anyone ever feel scared of life and whats around the next corner? scared of spending the rest of you life alone? or is it just me having an "i feel lost moment"?
 
No your not alone, I feel the same way and I think that a lot of other people feel that way too, maybe they just don't want to admitt it, but I think that if you're not scared of life than there is something wrong with you. No one ever knows what is in store for them. It is sad to think about but I do always have fears of being alone. It doesnt help that I have nothing else to think about so this is what fills my head!
 
Scared, pft....I'm not scared....I'm TERRIFIED.
I hate thinking about college, whats after college, and anything else associated with the future.... I'm so absolutely frightened that i won't amount to anything, that i'll have a miserable difficult life, and that no one will ever love me, that i'll be alone forever, that i'll be unhappy forever. I'f deeply frightened. Your'e not alone.

~Kindred
 
I think about it all the time:what will happen next,what with my exams,the univeristy.I just hate to think that I could be alone forever...
 
I had all those thoughts when I began my current school. I kept thinking that I might not succeed and not be at the top of my game anymore. I was afraid of failure and still am. Unfortunately, I'm the type of person that if I have more than three semi-big things to worry about, I start panicking...
 
Those thought runs in my mind all the time.
Can't help to ponder the "What if" question.
I fear that everybody think I'm such an idiot
& leave me on my own.
I fear that I'm too bothering sometimes with
ppl & that I get their goat.

I guess we r all scared of life sometimes &
that the better advise is to think about the best
moment n ur past life & to tell urself that there r
lots of those kind of moment to come in the future.
 
You are not alone, I'm afraid...............

Life is undeniably scary as hell sometimes. There are many times when I'm very much clueless and feeling so very lost. During those times I try to hold on to what is the dearest and nearest to me in my life and that help to pick me up.
 
Im am to.i always think i wonder if ill die young.or if im gonna have a car crash or will i end up ruining my life.Life is one big roller coaster ride who knows you may de-rail or keep runnin safe.
 
Hell no... you're not alone!

I have a boyfriend who i love with all my heart and i'm scared that tomorrow he won't love me anymore and he'll go off with someone else!

I'm at university and i'm training to be a teacher! I'm terrified that when i am a teacher i won't like it or i won't be good enough!

(Don't get me wrong though... i'm not a manic depressive and i tend to take life as it comes but you can't help thinking "What if something goes wrong?)

OMG... I just read over that! That was heavy! Thanks... you just got all my fears out! lol 🙂
 
due to my natural arrogance and foolish confidence in myself...i am usually never afraid of the obsticles that lie ahead...

but there are days when I am afraid...when my swagger vanishes...

i get afraid that i won't have what it takes to be the person i am to become...cause up until now...i've been hella lucky...i'm not the smartest or strongest...but somehow I made it here....hope my luck doesn't run out...

today in class...i was really afraid of something...and i don't know why....this hot chick...bout my height...brunette with sky blue eyes....with a nice ass and major boobies was like looking at me and smiling at me throughout class...for some reason...I just iced her out....like i was afraid of even looking at her....then it hit me...

I don't really like chicks themselves...i just like the chase and the rush of trying to get them...and that like scares me....but the funny thing is that i'm not afraid of being lone....its just that like something is seriously psychologically wrong with me...and that kinda worries me...cause i'll probably loose interest fast in future relationships i have...

lol....heavy thread foi....hella heavy...
 
well funny that i felt so alone last night and still fustrated with myself this morning but i woke up from a dream that was full of different people and the biggest difference in that dream was i felt that those people there wanted me there and i was important and loved and i belonged..i woke up feeling very strange and then read this thread and didnt feel quiet so alone🙂<--attempt at a smile...

i supose the biggest thing for me is i have little friends that have the time to talk to me as most people see me as the strong one with good strong advise and strong shoulders to cry on so when i need help i dont tend to get any..so all these thoughts run wilde and go around my head forming serious paranoia that becomes a self destruct button.....

im so amazingly good at feeling sorry for myself its untrue... sometimes i just dont know what the point of it all is, why the pain, lonleiness, illness? why cant i keep hold of love? whats wrong with me? am i guna have a future? how much longer will my body-clock tick for? see im amazing at this self absorbsion!

i know what will happen next, i will shut down and get hard and uncaring for a while...just to survive..but these thoughts will be back one day...however it is good to know others have the same thoughts as then it kinda gives me some focus, if you know what i mean..
 
I think we all get this from time to time - just part of the dark side of the human condition I'm afraid. Just don't dwell on it, is my best advice - concentrate on the positive stuff that makes life worth living.
I find smiley, giggly grandchildren works for me 🙂🙂🙂🙂 - now look what you did - made a grumpy old git think of something nice😉
 
Foi; phone me if you need to hon. I do know what you mean though; my mate yesterday got such an earful; I saw a pic of the girlfriend of this guy I've fallen for. I went completely amd, cos she's all cute, blonde, petite, looks like a complete gal, and thats just not me...I can never live up to that, and I felt completely stupid for even thinking I could.

We all have days when we're terrified i think, it's just how you deal with it that matters 🙂
 
Foi,
I was just going to add to my last post above - but got called away by pesky ol' work - 'cos I know I can sound a bit glib and flippant sometimes.

I've always thought of myself as a pretty well-balanced individual but I did once have occasion to seek medical help 'cos I was depressed/severely fed up or whatever you want to call it. I found the best thing was to talk it through with someone - doctor, counsellor, lecturer, friend, parent.
But I've found since that trying to look optimistically at life is also helpful which is what I was trying to get at above. As Monty Python said "Always look on the bright side of life...whistle, whistle".
If you want, I can send you the picture of my little grandsons which I use for wallpaper on my work PC - I guarantee you'll smile (same reason as Homer has no pics of Maggie at home - they're at work to cheer him up 🙂)
 
Yea, if you think that would work for you.
But don't just bottle it up - have a good talk to someone ( or cry, shout or swear if that helps - don't do those in a crowded pub, railway station or bus stop though, you might get some funny looks or even arrested 🙂) - as well as thinking happy thoughts.
 
well the amount of time i spend on my pc when im not at work should say how many people i have around me that would listen to my rants lol

i just find it difficult feeling regected and unloved and un wanted you know the usual crap, fed up with my job/home/debt/looks/life/toilet seat! im just in wallow mode but sometimes that wallow mode can get a bit too much and difficult to get out of🙁
 
I know how you feel Foi, feeling alone and everything. Now don't get me wrong I have really great friends but sometimes I don't let them close enough. And about the whole finding love and holding on to it, I'm 20 next month (I know I'm not that old) but I've never had a serious boyfriend, nothing that comes close to finding out what love is like and my two closest friends are in serious relationships. They joke about my lack of a relationship and say maybe I frighten the lads off (me? 😉 ) I laugh it off and my friends never know that it really bothers me but it does scare me.

Anyway, if you need a chat, pm me 🙂
 
jules, I'm 25, and I'm not in any kind of relationship either and the only serious girlfriend I had cheated on me, and most of my friends, with a few exceptions, are in long term relationships and a few even have kids. It's nothing to worry about. It'll happen for me when it happens, and no amount of worrying is gonna change that.

I really don't get this 'scared of life' thing though. I have no idea wht is gonna happen to me tomorrow, next week or next year, all I can do is make plans for the future and rely on myself and my abilities. It helps to have good friends to rely on, and I do, but at the end of the day, you are responsible for yourself. No-one is gonna do things for you.
Now, maybe you could get run over by a bus tomorrow, maybe you're boyfriend/girlfriend could leave you tomorrow for someone else, maybe anything could happen. The question is, do you really wanna waste you're time dwelling and focusing on the negative? Do you really wanna put a dampener on the good things in you're life by thinking about when they will end or turn bad?
The reality of life is that all things, eventually, end and there is nothing at all we can do to change that. All we can do is enjoy the good times while they last, roll with the punches and learn from the mistakes we make, no matter how painful that is.
Oh and most importantly, believe in yourself.
 
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