Self Indulgent BotD

[Edmund Blackadder]

OK, so I have been here a few years now and along the way I have made friends, pissed people off, scared people away blah blah blah but currently I am going through a full reevaluation of who I am and I have been asking my 'RL' friends to talk me through my good and bad points.

It hit me that I spend alot of time here and I do make an impression so then I thought that I could ask you guys too.

I wondered it you guys would help me.

I want a no holds barred opinion of me from you.

What I don't want is people being nice just to be nice, if you think I am a bar steward, you can tell me - trust me, there will be no retribution.

This is all about me learning who I am a little better and what, if any, improvements I can make.

Go on, be honest - I'm giving your free rein to say anything.

Please, if you don't feel comfortable saying it in public, PM me your response. It is an interesting experiment on how I 'interact' with others/

Thanks in advance

Alister

 

[Blondie Bear]

As I've already told you, I initially thought you were an ass. To be fair, a lot of that was because one of our first disagreements took place while I was sick and grouchy, and therefore everything I was reading sounded grouchy unless accompanied by lots of smiley faces. Once we started getting along better, I found you hilarious, though it was a mean kind of hilarious--great as long as you don't turn it on me. After more time, I've found you to be intensely loyal to those you like, scathingly sarcastic to those you don't, and neutral to those you're neutral about. Often I wish my wit were as sharp as yours (without me having to sit and think about it for hours to come up with the PERFECT comeback, cause I'm just not fast about stuff like that).

I hope this helps!

 

[GATEGOD]

lol. I guess I think you're obnoxious, mean worded against posts who disagree with you (lol), opinion oriented, and never think you're wrong.. even when it's just about opinions :lmao:

~Don't yell at me. You asked~

Other than that you seem okay. You always have something to add, always are on somewhere, a great addition to VH, and would post a thread like this.

~Dunno if that will help~ ::bbat::

 

[Joyce Summers]

I think generally you're okay- not actually any issues with you or anything. Though sometimes I can't tell whether you're being sarcastic or harshly cutting or, erm both.
You can be overly blunt sometimes. I mean I'm not overly sensitive so I mostly let any blunt comment you may have aimed my way wash over me, but sometimes I think 'Ooh, little harsh'. But like I said, I'm a wash-overing person so it's never bothered me in particular but I don't know...I get that vibe sometimes.

Maybe you have be-an-ass potential. Haha. But otherwise, you're pretty much all-round okay.

 

[The Chosen]

Lemme lay it down straight: When I first encountered you, it was the "Eat my skids!" BoTD. I PMed you a couple times after that and you told me you were a "Superstar." I thought you were really obnoxious after that. Then, I thought you were really rude and pissy after you called mine and other's opinion's "stupid." And now, I think you're pretty cool, because I've grown to like conflict and arguments and debates and that's what you bring to this board. You bring a nice slice of reality to a bunch of people who are obsessed with TV. :nod:

- TC

 

[Randy Giles]

I used to hate your effing guts as I'm sure we've talked about before. The first time I read a post of yours it just made me think you were a jackass and so I read every post as you being a jackass, but now I think you're awesome, and you usually make very good points on things although I can't always tell when you're being sarcastic or serious.

 

[definition of insane]

I don't hate you or like you, but that's because we don't have much to do with each other so other than what I read about how you interact with others I can't really say any opinions of your interactions with me. Sometimes I feel that you like to bait people for the sake of baiting people but I do also think that you are fiercly protective of those you care about and the things you are passionate about and you're not afraid to fight for them and that's a pretty good thing in my book.

 

[TabulaRasa]

As I can see first impressions of you were not very good at all. Hmm, that says something BOTD.

I hated you, plain and simple. I have a very pissy attitude and if you piss me off I let you know. We fueded. It was a thing. We got over it. I wouldn't say we're friends because you are on my facebook, I leave you comments to say 'hey what's up?' and you never respond. But on BB your opinions are valued as are everyone elses.

 

[Allycat]

Like most people here I pretty much hated you at first. At the time I thought you were the worse thing to come out of BB since soulgasm. My opinion's of you didn't really change for a long time. Like Randy Giles said, once one posts make you seem like a jackass, you read all other posts as a jackass's.

It wasn't until after I saw clips of you from "Castaway 2007" that I realised you weren't all that different from myself. That kind of made me see you in as new light. As it just so happened, I think that experience changed you as a person. And right around the same time, I did some changing of my own. That sort of did wonders for how we get along, I think. Ever since you haven't really seemed like a jackass at all. Instead, I find myself agreeing with you quite a lot of the time.

If I had to pick one thing that can sometimes still annoy me about you is that you're pretty popular with some people on this board and that you know it just a little too well.

 

[Bangelxx]

haha, nice thread al😛

well, to be honest, at first I didn't like you. You kinda annoyed me with your comments and disagreeing posts and all. but now, i respect you. you really are a cool guy🙂 I think your brave to post such comments and also, to start this thread!

 

[Edmund Blackadder]

I'm sensing a pattern

 

[Lyri]

erm, am i the ony one who actually liked Al when they first met him?

i've never had any problems with you. you've always been there for me if i needed to rant or just wanted to talk. sometimes i find that you can be a little bit blunt when you're talking to people here, especially the newbies or the younger members. but you usually come back to aplogize, so i won't dwell on that. i find you extremely loyal to your friends, and anyone who's not your friend better watch out. you don't hold back with what you want to say, which is something i've always admired.

other than that, i'm just glad i never made your hit list!! 😛

 

[Kean]

I'm not here long but when I was an uber newbie my first impression was that you were an arrogant shite. It was clear that you knew what you were talking about but it was also clear that you took great pleasure in that knowledge. It didn't make me hate you but it did make me wary of you. To me you were liable to turn on me or anyone for that matter at any given time, that hasn't happened. Actually I'm kinda wondering how I never had to deal with your wrath.

In saying all that I am actually really fond of you. Like it has been mentioned, you are incredibly loyal to your own. You are funny, witty and very sharp. Also I have seen evidence of you really making an effort lately. Little things like the thread you started for great members, or how you will always give karma back to someone who has given you karma. Personally I think you are a real softy when you want to be and can even be charming when it suits you😉

However no matter how fond of you I am there are a couple things that I take issue with. You telling people their posts were stupid. Since when do you determine the meter on stupidity? Disagree by all means but do not tell someone they are stupid. You have no idea what effect your words will have on that person. Cutting them down just cuz you can is not cool and I pretty much think it's an extremely low thing to do.

Personally I think you have the ability to be a real leader. People want you to like them, they want to follow you. Thats a powerful position to be in. Honestly I think you have abused that power by saying what you want, when you want regardless of the fallout. I'd love to see you turn it into something positive.

I don't know you very well but to me you seem to have a good heart. Your words can be toxic at times but I think ultimately your a nice fella.

 

[TabulaRasa]

Bored of the Dead agrees: I actually dislike myself ever so slightly for not replying to you. I feel quite rude and for this I must apologise. I will make a concerted effort to reply should you message me again

It's ok. I just once read on a post by you that if you wanted to remain a friend on your facebook that it would be best if wall posts or messages were kept up because you were not there to be just a friend counter. And I agree. So I stop by to ask how you are and such. 🙂 Just trying to keep up the friend side of this thing. Especially now that we have a bond, lol.

 

[Edmund Blackadder]

It's ok. I just once read on a post by you that if you wanted to remain a friend on your facebook that it would be best if wall posts or messages were kept up because you were not there to be just a friend counter. And I agree. So I stop by to ask how you are and such. 🙂 Just trying to keep up the friend side of this thing. Especially now that we have a bond, lol.

Best keep friend side up - it seems obvious that if I don't like you I will turn on you!!

I recently had a cull on Facebook and I think you were spared though, thats something, isn't it?

LOL

 

[Kean]

First of all - language😉 Secondly, I'm not a leader, doesn't appeal to me my scathing comments have been reduced BUT I still sometimes have something to say😉

You may not want to be a leader but you definetly are one, the way people look for your approval shows that. Hell will freeze over the day you don't have something to say😉 and I agree your scathing attacks have become a thing of the past. No doubt about that, like I said, you just a big softy😉

 

[Edmund Blackadder]

You may not want to be a leader but you definetly are one, the way people look for your approval shows that. Hell will freeze over the day you don't have something to say😉 and I agree your scathing attacks have become a thing of the past. No doubt about that, like I said, you just a big softy😉

Careful, I have 'cred'!!!

See, one of my biggest beliefs is that you shouldn't look to others for approval.

Maybe that is why I am so cutting, if you don't believe what you say and have confidence in yourself, then obviously the words of others will affect you.

I have never understood why the words of a stranger could upset you - they don't know you, understand you.

It all comes down to the insecurities, which is sad.

I guess part of me HOPES that these 'kids' learn to ignore the nastiness because as you have all seen, I am actually pretty nice mostly.

 

[Lou]

Honestly, if I think REALLY hard, when I first got here you probably weren't on my "Overly Friendly" list. But, I can't say I was upset or even annoyed.

I did VERY QUICKLY notice that it seemed we had been watching two different cuts of both Buffy and Angel. So, much so that I wondered if it had been edited differently in the two countries. But, then I realized, you'll never let me miss ANYTHING whether I agree with it or not.
In fact, I still often wonder if you have the transcripts of the show bookmarked and tagged for any occasion. If someone coughs and I miss it, you'll point it out. Which I have to say, is a GREAT thing.

If anything I could say that might help, is that I think you strive to come across as the drunken arse in the room. Which isn't very flattering considering you're obviously smart as a whip and very detail oriented. You could very easily get the same amount of attention just for that and not have the negative downside.

 

[Kean]

Careful, I have 'cred'!!!

See, one of my biggest beliefs is that you shouldn't look to others for approval.

Maybe that is why I am so cutting, if you don't believe what you say and have confidence in yourself, then obviously the words of others will affect you.

I have never understood why the words of a stranger could upset you - they don't know you, understand you.

It all comes down to the insecurities, which is sad.

I guess part of me HOPES that these 'kids' learn to ignore the nastiness because as you have all seen, I am actually pretty nice mostly.

I think that is clear from your posts, you are who you are and you stand by what you say. I actually really respect that but you are probably the exception to the rule, most people will feel hurt when someone says something scathing to them. We can't control that but we can control what we say.

And if you that is stupid I'll kick your arse!!!😉

 

[Edmund Blackadder]

I think that is clear from your posts, you are who you are and you stand by what you say. I actually really respect that but you are probably the exception to the rule, most people will feel hurt when someone says something scathing to them. We can't control that but we can control what we say.

And if you that is stupid I'll kick your arse!!!😉

{Insert really scathing cutting remark here}

I know what you mean, I guess being the geeky kid at school, I remember what it was like to be bullied and picked on(oh my, a break through on Buffy Boards) and what I feel these kids need is some harsh lessons because, darn it they are going to get it BIG time in school they need to learn to stand up for themselves.

The best thying you can do to me on this site is, when I am an ass, tell me to shut the frick up!!!