I love both finales but they're pretty different from each other so that's understandable. The Gift was a great finale because Buffy does her ultimate sacrifice, she finds out what her gift, to her friends and world, is. She got that part of herself done, complete and she jumps, accepting her role and everything she is. So whoa..amazing character growth, especially since it's THE main character. But The Gift wold have made the finale of all finales? Honestly, I don't think so. Buffy had so much to discover about herself at that point (love,friends,work) and she never experienced hitting a really low point as we see in season 6 (as much as I hate this season, I think they needed to show her down that path because characters in Buffy are never one-dimensional) and all the characters got introspection and growth..let's think of Willow. Joss and the writers wrote about her magic inclination and powers more and more, giving hints of what was to come and if it would have ended all in season 5? What a waste. As Darla said, Th Gift has a better sense of finality but it's not really the end, the journey is so not complete. Chosen, even if it could've been A LOT better, gives me chills and it gives me the mood for a proper finale. Buffy and the cookies speech which fits her journey so well, Angel coming back, everyone fighting for what's right and one big, world-altering decision. The characters and the relationships between them are defined and that's why I think Chosen is a better finale then The Gift..it has more closure and more development (from season 6 and part of season 7 of course).