Sexual attraction

[Faiths Angel]

What do I like? Among other things....

 

[Joan the Vampire Slayer]

Hi Guys,

Just a general wondering that comes up here from time to time, however I am going to stay away from the labels usually attributed to it.

Are you interested in people of the same sex, opposite sex or indeed both.

Have you any issues with any?

Do you find people of the same sex attractive BUT never entertain the thought of going with them?

Well, I can definitely appeciate sexy women but I do pursue sexual relationships with men. I did have a fling with a girl back when I was like 17...but we were drunk and it was mostly because we were curious.

 

[Ulrikke]

I have almost no idea what my "type(s)" is/are. But then, the people I'm actually sexually attracted are relatively few and far between (if you ignore the casual "oh, he/she is pretty" moments). A lot of the things that attract me to people (physically) I only realise once I've already noticed them. For example; I used to have a thing for David Thewlis, then realised he's rather tall and found it hot. And I was really quite indifferent to James Marsters for a long time - now I think he's drool-worthy. 😛 Ultimately I think personality plays a big part in sexual attraction for me. In the AVEN community we talk about primary and secondary sexual attraction (PSA and SSA) and for me PSA - if it happens - is closely related to SSA. Anyway, I won't get into the whole hyposexuality (except say: what's the big deal about kissing? ugh - lol) - that can end up a rather long story and I doubt any of you really care that much 😛

Suffice it to say that I don't have a specific type. The only two people I'm sexually attraced to atm are James Marsters and Alyson Hannigan (everyone else is pretty much just objectively good-looking) and really - what do those two have in common? (well, Buffy obviously...) :lmao:

 

[MichelleBFT]

I've always identified as straight, and have never had an experience with a female that I would call anything sexual or romantic.

However, I met my husband when I was fairly young, and have been committed to him for nearly 9 years. I think if I had had that "experimentation" time in my late teens/early twenties that's so common these days, I suspect it certainly would have included experimentation with women, and I'll never be able to say whether it would have amounted to anything more than experimentation. My instinct is that I am, in fact, straight, but I find women beautiful and sexy, though I've never had a deep down urge to fornicate with another woman, whereas I certainly do have the deep down urge for... <insert insertion joke here>. But then again, it could just be something I haven't been personally exposed to, and would enjoy if I did. But I'm married, and while I occasionally crush on other people-- usually men-- I don't really fantasize about anyone else. Well, sometimes. But actual touching is a big no-no.

 

[definition of insane]

For the first part of it, I'm would only say I'm straight because while there are many people I find very sexy and attractive and stuff...I really only feel the inclination to jump the bones of the men. They just do it for me.

As for how (? Possibly not the best way to phrase that), it's a charm thing. If you look back at my exes, other than having a momentary lapse in sanity to date me, they don't really have anything one common thing (well, also being male I suppose). It's a charm thing with me. If you can pull off some sort of confident, witty and sweet charm...I'm all yours! 😛

On a "physical attributes" type level....okay, I admit it...I moved to Scotland to try and steal James McAvoy. It's the eyes...blue eyes make me weak at the knees. The and the accent...I love living here! (sw)

 

[Blaze]

I honestly don't know and you guys are the first one that I say this to

one thing for sure is that i love guys but I has this crush on a girl at school for like ever

 

[InsaneMystic]

Well, you all probably noticed my redhead fetish by now. If the girl in question has green eyes and is pale (especially very pale + freckled) and has green eyes, she'd have to have the face of a dog not to get me drooly. I guess stereotypical Ireland would be paradise for me. 😀

As for the boobs... very, very nice part of the female anatomy, but I tend towards the "good things come in small packages" side. Notice that the two IMO most attractive women in the Buffyverse are Willow and Fred (to me, Frillow would be hotter than Spaith or any other ship... so hot it would melt the screen!), and only one of them fits my redhead paradigm, so... 😉 It's not that I dislike a medium-to-slightly-largish chest, but if it's beyond "slightly largish", it's certainly a turnoff, most especially if it's silicone. I guess the stereotypical USA would not be paradise for me. :lmao: