Should I?! (adult content i think)

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Ok, my boyfriend is graduating ::grad:: in less then 2 months and hes going to europe to studdy and im afraid I wont see him much anymore after we get back from Japan this summmer.
Well we have been dating for almost 2 years now and I fell in love with him. He never asked me to have sex with him and I never did (with anyone for that matter). But last night I was on the phone with him and sunday were leaving on spring break to go to San Diago wit two more friends....and were staying in a Hotel. He told me that he doesnt want to force me but he wants to have sex with me over break.....and Im not sure what I should do. My best friends telling me to do it and my mom said I should to since I love him. But I guess Im afraid......
LOL I was wondering if anyone could tell me what to do if it gets to that point....and what hapens.....Im a bit scared!!!

Ive slept with a guy in the same bed and some small stuff....but never had sex, and I guess Im chickening out ::uh:: lol

Sorry if I ofended anyone!! ^_^
 
Wow! Your mom is cool. Mine would never encourage me to have sex with anyone.

Anyway... no one should tell you to do it or not to. It's all about you. How do you feel? Do you want to? Do you think you're ready? If you say yes to these questions go ahead. If not, he says he loves you, so he should be cool with it.
 
do it for yourself...not for him...if you do it for him...your doing it for all the wrong reasons...remember though...you still run risks for STD's and pregnancy even if you do use the glass slipper...so...just know that there are risks...

you need to ask him if he's ever slept with anyone...find his history...

other than that...go bust a nut...
 
If you feel you're ready and you want to do this then yes..But even from your post I can see you're having some doubts..Think it over at least 20000000 times before you do anything...
 
can't think these things through luv...or else you'll hesitate...and miss the chance for the right decision at the right time...

gotta feel it...find out his history...talk to him...and feel it...in your gut...what you want to do...your brain is way to fragmented for a decision of this magnitude...
 
I know the 2 girls he slept with and im not scared of any deseases and I trust him.....But Im just scared that when that happens..I would become to attached and when he leaves it would be harder to let go..........you know what I mean.
I will probably do it.....I want to (even if im shaking like a leaf thinking about it) Im a wimp lol.
 
well... I see a lot of go-aheads and do it advice 😉 and they maybe right but I find that it is always good to have seen the picture from both side 😉

What's bothering me is not your love for him, I can see you do love him with all your heart. I'm also sure that a part of you feels ready to do this... heck... I bet you're losing sleep thinking about this...

But that also brings me to a point where I have to ask you if you're ready for this yet? I check your profile (which could be wrong.. I know...) and in it you stated yourself as 16... And yes, I have seen quite a few 16 years old acting very mature... and I'm confindence that you'll make a decision that will do you the most good.

However, that been said... I'll have to ask you if you're ready to make this kind of decision yet? Remember that this might affect you for the rest of your life... Are you sure you're ready? If he really loves you, waiting a few more years won't matters... but then again.. that's just my senseless rambling... the decision is yours.

Just make it a smart one 😉
 
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well... I see a lot of go-aheads and do it advice 😉 and they maybe right but I find that it is always good to have seen the picture from both side 😉

What's bothering me is not your love for him, I can see you do love him with all your heart. I'm also sure that a part of you feels ready to do this... heck... I bet you're losing sleep thinking about this...

But that also brings me to a point where I have to ask you if you're ready for this yet? I check your profile (which could be wrong.. I know...) and in it you stated yourself as 16... And yes, I have seen quite a few 16 years old acting very mature... and I'm confindence that you'll make a decision that will do you the most good.

However, that been said... I'll have to ask you if you're ready to make this kind of decision yet? Remember that this might affect you for the rest of your life... Are you sure you're ready? If he really loves you, waiting a few more years won't matters... but then again.. that's just my senseless rambling... the decision is yours.

Just make it a smart one 😉
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yeah Im 16 turnign 17 in July...
I THANK U SOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH!!! Ur a good advice giver!! YOU ALL ARE!!!
And yeah thats all that I could think bout!!! I guess it is scary but I think Im ready!!
 
nah... I'm glad I could help 😉

and wish you hit upon your moment of true happiness!

~Hakuna Matata!
 
I agree with every one, If you want to do it for you. As it sounds he hasn't been presuring you for it, and perhaps that was some "evil rouse" But i might just be paranoind. When it comes to sex just remember... "MEN ARE ALWAYS ONE OF THREE THINGS,... BOYS,... FATHER TYPES,... OR SCUM!!!!!!!
 
Considering that you are only 16....

Just try to trust your instincts. If you are shaking like a leaf, well, yeah that's natural. But if this guy is going away, why don't you wait until he comes back to find out if you can still be with each other. Don't jump into things too soon.

Just think about the fact that he is going away. What if you meet somebody in his absence? Or vice versa?

But, if you really truly feel that it is the right moment, and you are willing to accept dire consequences (not saying that there will be, but you need to think and consider them), then do what you fee is right. It's always scary, but it's part of growing up.

Hope you are happy with your decision and good luck! 🙂

(some more advice: If i were you, I'd wait until I was older. Or at least until he came back. But definetly get his sexual history. That is key!)
 
OK IM BACK!!!!! ^_^
I didnt go evil but Im soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo happy....heheheheheheheheheheheheh IM GLAD I DINDT CHICKEN OUT!!! THANX U GUYS IM SOOOOOO HAPPY TO HAVE U TO HELP ME!!!!!
 
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