to allycat
no you are wrong, angel was her first and only love. we are not talking about boyfriends here. tyler was a high school boyfriend of the chickbuffy. "tyler would have to crawl on his hands and knees to get me to go to the dance with him". that sounds like love... owen was just a crush, not even the slightest hint of a crush. and ford was just who buffy said, "her giant fifth-grade crush". scott was just buffy's replacement for angel and so was parker (and look how that ended). riley was safety, the person to tell buffy, that her life is like the life of any other person, the person to go to the movies with, to have picnics and rant about professors with. She was "the normal guy". spike was buffy's hideaway from the hard reality after she returned from heaven. maybe they were in love when "once more w/ feeling" took place, but that feeling soon faded away, but buffy was used to all that. with spike she could just be robot-like and not feel, think, have meaningful discussions, she could just gather it all inside her and become Numb Buffy.