The Trouble with Feminism in Buffy

More than anything, it's how they did it, that's the thing. Xander's pathetic, but they made Spike panicking, and that above all is what I have a problem with. Explain to me how it's not a case of making somebody looking strong at someone else's expencse, because that's poor writing, no matter how cleverly accomplished.

I can't say I even recall Spike panicking but that's quite irrelevant for your argument. Even if he had kept his calm the rest of the group would never have followed him, period. So I think you are attributing to the writers a motivation that they didn't really have. And I am a bit confused why you think it's so terrible for Spike to panick while it's normal for Xander considering that in S2 Xander was facing Angel without having superpowers while Spike was cowering and pretended to be a cripple but let's not digress. 🙂

The group wasn't being mean to her in season six, they were just getting on (or not) with themselves, felt they had by resurrecting her helped her out, and when you're depressed, that's just the way things are: You stagnate. Alone Spike obviously had a vested interest to listen to her, and I don't think he was doing a thing at anyone else's expense.

But Spike alone having any interest in helping Buffy is exactly what I meant by citing this example. You will probably disagree but I don't think this development made any sense. It was done only because the more Buffy friends ignore her, the more Spike's attentions start to look welcome.

Exactly; Anya makes me smile, and I relate to her, and she changed some, but she's nowhere close to great, not the least because she' not very dynamic. "Liking" ANya doesn't mean she's compelling, and while I may like her company more than Angel's, that certain doesn't make her more interesting

I hate to tell you that but I think Spike is an even bigger caricature than Anya post-S4. 🙂 That's why it's better not to use words like consensus when evaluating character. It's all subjective. If someone thinks Harmony is the best developed character in the verse I can't really prove them wrong, I can just disagree.
 
Or, you know, they were showing the changes in the characters. In S5 Willow becomes vastly more powerful that she was before, it's to be expected that she gains new levels of confidence too. Also, Giles almost dying and Buffy going catatonic isn't any more contrived than Buffy being pulled out of heaven and finding out her friends don't give a fig about her in S6, so you might as well hate S6 too.

When didn't they care about Buffy?
 
Like anything, BTVS is not a perfect example of feminism. I don't think it's meant to be. I think it's strong in its feminist ideology in a lot of aspects, but I don't want to talk about that, I want to talk about some of the issues I have with it. The 1st major one is
the empowerment of the potentials in Chosen. Buffy talked about it as a choice, but it clearly wasn't. On the one hand it was billed as an ultimate empowerment, but it is only empowering if they choose it. As we see in s8, there are lots of problems involved with that spell. However, I do still get goosebumps during Buffy's Chosen speech.
Sorry, it's the emotional vs the logical part of me, I'm a Pisces, what can I say? 😀

The 2nd thing that really bothers me is the treatment of older women. We discussed this on another thread, and it really got me thinking. As long as a woman is young (& attractive) in Buffy, she's strong, whether physically or in personality. Older women are killed: Jenny, Joyce,
the Guardian
, Tara- who may not be chronologically older, but is more womanly-looking due to her shape/size. And the way pregnancy is handled in the verse demonstrates this further (most if not all of these examples are from ATS). Pregnant women (who demonstrate the pinnacle of female physiological maturity), are either homicidal, killed, in danger of being killed, treated as only a vessel, possessed, or comatose- or all of the above lol.

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The entire idea of a Slayer being a young girl who dies young is kind of disempowering in general.
With the activation of all the Potentials, I kept thinking we'd see some older women becoming Slayers in s8; we didn't. What happened to all those older women? Where are they? Do they truly have nothing to contribute?
 
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Blondie Bear
Good points, all. I've fussed about the stuff you said in the first spoiler thingy myself.
Professor Walsh
Professor Walsh
Kudos for that second point in the second spoiler.
Buffy is both strong and weak. That is what makes her an interesting character. For Whedon to simply portray Buffy as a strong female - both physically and emotionally - but with hardly any flaws would have struck me as one dimensional and a sign of bad writing. Mind you, there were times when Whedon's idea of what constitutes feminism left me scratching my head. But hey . . . no one's perfect.


The 2nd thing that really bothers me is the treatment of older women. We discussed this on another thread, and it really got me thinking. As long as a woman is young (& attractive) in Buffy, she's strong, whether physically or in personality. Older women are killed: Jenny, Joyce, Spoiler - Highlight to view:the Guardian, Tara- who may not be chronologically older, but is more womanly-looking due to her shape/size. And the way pregnancy is handled in the verse demonstrates this further (most if not all of these examples are from ATS). Pregnant women (who demonstrate the pinnacle of female physiological maturity), are either homicidal, killed, in danger of being killed, treated as only a vessel, possessed, or comatose- or all of the above lo.

Perhaps Whedon has a fetish for young females. I'm beginning to suspect that he does.
 
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InsaneMystic
...a fetish he'd be sharing with the vast majority of heterosexual males? ;)
I personally didn't find her obnoxious. But anyway, whether or not you found her attitude obnoxious is more about personal preferences, not fact.

I agree, but preaching is, as is bad characterization, even if we draw the lines differently. I hate to be preached to in my fiction, and think that Wheddon is a mite too ideological at times.

Feminism aside, I hate the cynical aspects of the show, mainly in the one-liner, because it's emotional anesthesia. Granted, that show was filled with brilliance, but it still rankled.

But even if you disagree with me and you dislike parts of her personality (like the "obnoxiousness"), I don't see how that makes a statement about feminism. It just means you didn't care for that part of her character. Which, again, is a matter of personal preference.

Literary feminism, subtly, but essentially, premised on gender competition, typically one-sided calibrated in favor of the women, at the expense of the men. That's how, (dare I say most?) shows are built, to a greater or lesser degree, trying consciously, to a state of overkill, to balance things out, and that's aggravating.

Wheddon imagined an empowered cheerleader, which is fine, but all the same, I think the genre does a lot of the talking on Buffy, when the genre does the talking, the that's weak writing, right there.

I don't think the majority of fans believe that about Buffy, and even so, it doesn't make minority opinions any less valid.

So, you think, on a character-to-character basis, Buffy can inspire more analysis than Buffy? I think not, and while we're talking art, I think it's pretty clear. Buffy fans I'd expect to lose with there, but not from fans of the series.


Why is Spike's "greatness" simply an observation, and Buffy's must be inorganic, the fault of bad writing? When you say that it's an "observation" or "recognition", you imply that it's an undeniable fact. Can you give any support to Spike's "greatness" over Buffy's? Because IMO, they are both great characters who face unique challenges and trials.

Buffy starts the series as the Slayer, and the best parts of here story are her love life, gettin' through high school and college, dealing with depression, being a leader, etc. It's well done, dealing with the mundane journey that we most face, and the writing handles brilliantly.

But notice--it's a predictable trajectory she follows, even if sparkles, and that's where Spike's character out shines her.

It's predetermined that BUffy's gonna growup and keep saving the world, but what about Spike? Well, he's a tough vampire gang leader for a villainy arc, but wait--he morphs rising beyond that. What's gonna happen to him?

Crime and Punishment is a about a soul in the balance, and that it could go either way is compelling, and Spike has just a little of that in him. I kept waiting for him to do certain stuff, and he doesn't and that surprised me. Repeatedly.

Personally, Spike fights emasculation, ridicule, crushes, and the like, and comes out stronger, but he does in a was that surprises. There are multiple series series, and often well done ones, dealing with girls growing up in emotionally real ways, to say nothing of heroes saving the day, but but morphing rascals?

That's far more rare, but oh so fun. The most similar character to Spike is Vegeeta In DragonballZ, but that's an anime. More than half the pleasure of Spike's character was seeing where he'd end up, but Buffy's character was mostly interesting in the how, and that's a substantial difference, if I do say so.


If we are criticizing characterization/plot development on the basis of gender, I have to ask, why is it easier to believe that male characters are strong and female characters are not?

Look up body language. The research pretty clearly states that in mating rituals, the female is essentially hardwired to act more submissive, and the male more aggressive. If it feels easier to believe that male characters to be strong, then maybe genetic programming has something to do with it, and if so, then, no social orthodoxy can fight it, though maybe a geneticist might, or if you're in the Slayerverse, a spell.


That's what it feels like you are implying when you talk about Spike and Angel's "greatness", and discount Buffy's achievements to simply the emasculation/disenfranchisement of others.

Remember Wheddon's original inspiration for Buffy? He felt sorry for scream queens, and empowered one because he felt sorry, and rooted for the underdog. I respect that, and agree, but in subtle ways, the shoe is on the other foot, and I, too, root for the underdog. I didn't grow up watching scream queens, but I did watching loads of masculinity-impaired males, and as a result, I would kinda like to see the scales balanced.

I've thought tons about gender issues in fiction, and while I'm not happy with all the things Wheddon's done, I certainly can see and appreciate his logic, not the least because he's truly smart, and his writing hows it.

That he annoys me so, I guess, equals much of my respect for him.

Isn't the reverse also true? Every damsel in distress Angel or Spike save, all the female characters who are killed off or dismissed to further their respective journeys (and oh, there are many...), etc. those women are also used unfairly to bolster the narratives of male characters.

In the case of Angel, his character peaked early. Angel inspires more analysis in me than Buffy because in him I see the ideological weaknesses in Wheddon positively strangling his story instincts, and now I've thought more, I'd have to say BUffy really is the better character, and not Angel.

Angel thrived in the less-is-more role on Buffy, but in his own series, we saw too much of him for our own good, and that's not getting into the show's gradual loss of moral moorings. Angel was vain, and it did nothing for his coolness, which I think was the point, but it was too much ballast.

Angel, now that I think about it, was much less real than Spike or BUffy, even if I forlornly kept hoping that the show would improve. He was never more of knight in shining armor than on Buffy, and it was all downhill from there.

Thing about Angel, the more you know about his motives the less they make sense, and I think that Angel's journey on his series was more a stint on a treadmill, than real development.


Feminism isn't about making women look strong.

Well, giving a women a phallic symbol is a start. (After all, what is it our favored Slayer is always holding?) Characters are very image-conscious, and few are as talented as Wheddon, you have copious numbers of female characters in various states of Joan-of-Arc drag. Liv Tyler didn't think Arwen needed a sword to be strong, but Peter Jackson chose to err on the side of conventional wisdom, and the question, typically is, "Is she tough enough?" "Ach, give her an action sequence, and then we'll be good," it seems, is the prevailing psychology, and it ain't pretty.

Frankly a strong woman is a strong state of mind, and I've certainly agonized with that in my own musical I've been working on. Doing that is hard, and in the nature of the story I'm telling, it's even harder, but I think I've balanced it out to at least some degree, but I was, and remains, difficult.



Feminism and strong female characters in pop culture is about showing another facet of reality, one in which women are strong.

Feminism, in literary form, is to me largely an architectural style, denoted by stinging one-liners and women more aggressive than the men, or at least a healthy dose of that in the story.

Feminism's stated goal, to not show, weak, pathetic girls is something I agree with, but without imagination, archetypes are simply cliches, and on the series, the stories flit between the two ad infinitum, but of course, by doing so, by flitting betwixt intellectualism and pop culture, that's much the charm of Buffy.

Buffy's characterization and how she is framed in the show, to me, is natural. She is not made to look strong, she is strong. I see nothing artificial in Buffy's characterization when it comes to feminism.

For sci-fi and fantasy, it is, but can't you feel the ideological restraints? Buffy may be natural within a scene, but writers pick the scenes that enter the story, and moral values are reflected in them. As I don't trust feminism, and you do, naturally, I'm going to be more sensitive to this, but an outsider always will.

To me, the show is like a nice bowl of cherries, save for the pits, but nothing is perfect.

Points that I wish were more feminist? Oh boy. How long do you have? 😛 For one, I'm disappointed in how Joss & Co. treated matters of sexual assault and sexual consent issues (not only the attempted rape in Seeing Red, but the many sexual violations and dubious consent issues throughout the series that are ignored or glossed over). I have issues with how the show frames what "empowerment" really is, and I'm disappointed in the lack of representation of women from all different walks of life. The problems that are anti-feminist are generally arguable and open to interpretation, but I think it's safe to say that BtVS's feminism is still very limited in what it tries to show.

Human nature does not change my friend, and I'm sure gender differences are nigh that same level of immutability, if not synonymous. I'd say you've just embodied the central belief that I distrust in feminism, and that's a perfectionist attitude of gender relations, as to management. We can always manage the rough edges better, but at the same time, those same rough edges are not just an irritant, but also an attractant.

Feminism has a drive to make thing into its own image, and having been largely raised by conservative dames, I think I can smell a crusading undertone when I see one.

(Frankly, the whole rape thing shocked me, too, but they used it as a brilliant springboard for Spike, and if Buffy choke to stake him for it, I'd more than understand, but that's the show at its best, at moments like that, and it's why I don't just throw the baby out with the bath water.)


Honestly, I have more issues with feminism in AtS, which, while it doesn't set out to be the subversive feminist show BtVS tried to be, is still very problematic in its portrayal of women. Most of their female characters are awesome and are some of the most feminist characters of the 'verse, actually, so most of my issues are with story arcs and how those female characters are used.

Fred's revenge on that man that sent her to Pylea forced me to lose all respect for her, but then Gunn by killing him made me wonder what exactly the morality on the show was, but by the time Wesley ah, gunned that dude for efectively using her as a human sacrifice, I think the point was it was pointless.

Somehow, I think feminism, or its impact was more prominent in this series, but more in the idea of torment, guilt, and emasculation, yet then again, I think it merely a contributing factor.



Just because someone likes a character does not mean they ignore their flaws or inconsistencies. Very often, we do acknowledge those flaws and we may even like characters exactly because we take such a look at everything in the story.

I think I understand. Buffy wouldn't have panicked in that episode where she lost her powers, and frankly, when Xander confronted her over her affair with Spike, she was being weak.

And like I said, I do have problems with Joss's feminism. I have no illusions about the brand of feminism Joss subscribes to. I just disagree with you on what feminism means and how its framed in the show.

If it's not feminism, then what would you call it?
 
Personally, Spike fights emasculation, ridicule, crushes, and the like, and comes out stronger, but he does in a was that surprises. There are multiple series series, and often well done ones, dealing with girls growing up in emotionally real ways, to say nothing of heroes saving the day, but but morphing rascals?

A bad man who is changed by the love of a good woman is one of the oldest cliches there is, you know. Bad guys switching to the side of good in general is hardly anything new either. Heck, in the Buffyverse alone such characters are dime a dozen - Angel, Spike, Anya, Illyria, Andrew, Faith, etc. For you Spike's development is more interesting than say Anya's but that's merely an opinion, not a fact.

That's far more rare, but oh so fun. The most similar character to Spike is Vegeeta In DragonballZ, but that's an anime. More than half the pleasure of Spike's character was seeing where he'd end up, but Buffy's character was mostly interesting in the how, and that's a substantial difference, if I do say so.

Unless we are talking about suspense and plot twists which obviously hinge on surprising the audience, the how is usually more important than the what - i.e. the execution is more important than the intent. So even if we assume that Spike's development is extremely original (something I for one find quite laughable) this alone doesn't necessarily make it any better than the development of another character. I mean, if Buffy was to decide to go on a killing spree just for the heck of it, I am sure this would have counted as a very unexpected plot twist but as character development it would have been an abysmal failure.

Fred's revenge on that man that sent her to Pylea forced me to lose all respect for her

So what could she have done, really? Left Professor what's-his-name to continue sending people to other dimension? She couldn't exactly tell the police so it was either kill him or let him ruin more lives.
 
Professor Walsh
Professor Walsh
Much with you on the cliché. A dangerous cliché, in my opinion. Too many girls looks for their "Danny", "Mr. Darcy" - or "Spike".
If we are criticizing characterization/plot development on the basis of gender, I have to ask, why is it easier to believe that male characters are strong and female characters are not?
Look up body language. The research pretty clearly states that in mating rituals, the female is essentially hardwired to act more submissive, and the male more aggressive. If it feels easier to believe that male characters to be strong, then maybe genetic programming has something to do with it, and if so, then, no social orthodoxy can fight it, though maybe a geneticist might, or if you're in the Slayerverse, a spell.

I meant that as a rhetorical question. And in any case, mating rituals or anthropologic "evidence" really aren't relevant to the gender politics of today. It shouldn't have any bearing on male vs female characterization in fiction, but the fact that it does and that we are still conditioned to believe in such stereotypes (whether it's from politics, media, or the culture we live in and contribute to), is a problem.

That's what I meant when I mentioned the reversal of gender roles. The agency of female characters is consistently sacrificed for the furthering of male narratives, to the point where this is considered the standard, the "norm". Even if you consider it weak writing to do(I disagree heartily, obviously), focusing on the women characters has subversive and progressive value. Reconfiguring a bigoted power structure is a step towards (hopefully) dismantling it completely.

Human nature does not change my friend, and I'm sure gender differences are nigh that same level of immutability, if not synonymous. I'd say you've just embodied the central belief that I distrust in feminism, and that's a perfectionist attitude of gender relations, as to management. We can always manage the rough edges better, but at the same time, those same rough edges are not just an irritant, but also an attractant.

Feminism has a drive to make thing into its own image, and having been largely raised by conservative dames, I think I can smell a crusading undertone when I see one.

I'm confused by what you mean here. Can you explain? Because a "perfect" feminism isn't what I was advocating for at all. There are things that I wish had happened better, obviously, but I think there is great importance in recognizing and rightfully criticizing the things that don't work well. That's the attractant in the rough edges you're speaking of, to me.

If it's not feminism, then what would you call it?
Pop feminism. Outdated second-wave feminism. Baby steps.

I think it's important to remember that feminism isn't just about the women vs men, and while (like I said before) reversing gender roles has progressive value, there are many other facets of feminism.
 
I meant that as a rhetorical question.

Probably because you didn't think I go there, but I have.

And in any case, mating rituals or anthropologic "evidence" really aren't relevant to the gender politics of today.

You really mean how we naturally interact isn't relevant to how we consciously structure our societies? If it doesn't, then I really think it should.

As is, you seem to be following western civ's grand, "rape the environment" tradition, and I don't think that becomes you.

It shouldn't have any bearing on male vs female characterization in fiction,

Really? That's the equivalent of saying you don't care if the mode of the visual arts went back to the mode of stick figure characterization. If you ask me, the whole sweep of western art has been to more realism techniques until that quest plateaued, giving rise to abstract paintings, with emotion mixed in being the prized challenge.

but the fact that it does and that we are still conditioned to believe in such stereotypes (whether it's from politics, media, or the culture we live in and contribute to), is a problem.

Feminism seems to assume that biology has nothing to do with gender differences, and that's a huge pitfall for it if you ask me. Being doctrinaire is all about ignoring reality, and that's what you've just claimed feminism to be.

And remember: The difference between an archetype and a stereotype is largely perception, and Buffy herself hails from that of the Amazon, an archetype almost as old as bigoted old western civilization itself, the motif of a woman more than capable of dealing in in a man's world on a man's terms. In Buffy, Wheddon merely draped the archetype in contemporary feminist garb.

That's what I meant when I mentioned the reversal of gender roles. The agency of female characters is consistently sacrificed for the furthering of male narratives, to the point where this is considered the standard, the "norm". Even if you consider it weak writing to do(I disagree heartily, obviously), focusing on the women characters has subversive and progressive value. Reconfiguring a bigoted power structure is a step towards (hopefully) dismantling it completely.

That's a heavily ideological justification, and precisely what I distrust about the series. I don't mind the Amazon archetype, and certainly wouldn't be a fan of the Powerpuff Girls or Naruto's Tsunade otherwise, but then they don't have an problem with masculinity. As for Buffy, sometimes she acts like she does, and other times she does not. In an earlier post, I compared watching Buffy to eating a nice bowl of cherries, but at worst, it's akin to having a nice bowl of cornflakes, but having to spit out the glass shards.

I'm confused by what you mean here. Can you explain? Because a "perfect" feminism isn't what I was advocating for at all. There are things that I wish had happened better, obviously, but I think there is great importance in recognizing and rightfully criticizing the things that don't work well. That's the attractant in the rough edges you're speaking of, to me.

A great example of where feminism shows its hostility to the masculine, or sheer lack of understanding, is one episode where Riley and Xander are doing a little play wrestling, and Buffy tells they to stop, or she'll break it up. In my eyes, their display of masculinity was dandy, but was something feminism gives a cold shoulder to at best.

I can understand female wariness to such behavior, but I've got news for you: It's how we are, and yet for some strange reason, still you marry us.

The amazon is a feminist champion of the gender struggle, a struggle which feminists want to win, but what kind of a world would that be? A world sans rough edges? An amazon may be a feminist champion because she competes with us on our own terms, but if the feminist dream is frictionless, a true amazon would find it as non-Utopian as the average male, because a world without struggle is a world without challenge, and that would be boring, so something she'd concur with.

Rough edges can be managed; gender are supposed to be different, yet interlocking.
Here's song I adapted about it for a musical:

Tom: Ah, young love...it turns you upside down
And it's making you dizzy--
Just like a merry-go-round
Just where you sneaking past midnight,
All satins and bows
High shoes with the cleats a-clickin'
A tempermental glow?
Justine, annoyed: Why won't you let me go?
Tom: Oh, it's got a hold on you,
Chorus: He's got a hold on you,
Tom: It's got a hold on you, tonight
Chorus: Oh, it's got a hold on you, got a hold on you,
Justine, annoyed: You got a hold on me
Tom: That's right.

Chosus: Oh, oh it's magic
Justine: Since I'm with you (Chorus: Oh-o, it's magic)
Tom: Just a little magic (Chorus: Gotta be magic)
Justine: And you know it, too
Tom: I've got a hold on you

Justine: So twisted...under sideways down
I know you've got me twisted
And I can't calm down
Tom: I see you under the moonlight
Sparks dart from your eyes
How far can you take it
Till you realize
There's magic in your eyes! (She audibly gasps) Yeah, that's right.
Tom: I got a hold on you, got a hold on you, got a hold on you, tonight
Chorus: He's got a hold on you...
Tom: Got a hold on you,
Justine, sighing: Oh, what will I do...?
Tom: Yeah, oh, yeah, huh?
Cue the sound of falling stars.

Chorus: Oh, oh, it's magic
Tom: That calls to you (Chorus: Oh-o, it's magic)
Chorus: Oh oh it's magic (Justine: Just a little bit...of magic)
Tom: Pulls me through
Justine: I've got a hold on you (BREAK)

Tom: I've got a hold on you, Justine: I got a hold on you,
Tom: I've got a hold on you...Justine: That's right
The stars continue to fall.
Tom: It's magic
Chorus: Oh oh it's magic (Oh-o, it's magic)
Justine: Despite of you (Chorus: Oh-no, it's magic Oh-oh)
Justine: Oh oh it's been magic (Tom: Just a little magic, gotta be magic)
Justine: Since I'm with you (Chorus: Oh-o, it's magic)
Justine: Oh I know it's tragic (Tom: That's why they call it magic)
Justine: And that's why I'm with you (Tom: Just feel the magic...)
Chorus: Oh, oh, it's magic (Justine: Must be the magic)
Chorus: Oh, oh, it's magic
Justine: How I'm drawn to you!
Tom and Justine keep talking, as the music fades: Oh, how I'm drawn to you! Oh, how I'm drawn to you...oh, how I'm drawn to you...

The attraction (and revulsion) never ends.

Pop feminism. Outdated second-wave feminism. Baby steps.

Well, not the least of the reasons is because feminism, as per what you're espousing, isn't simply about changing gender relations, but revolutionizing them, by your own admission, I might add, to revolutionary theory that doesn't care a whit about reality because it simply cares about remaking it.



I think it's important to remember that feminism isn't just about the women vs men, and while (like I said before) reversing gender roles has progressive value, there are many other facets of feminism.

Well, that's rather nice to know to know that feminism has many other "wonderful" facets. Very nice, indeed, when I recall that poor identical twin boy that after his penis was destroyed in a botched circumcision they chopped of the fest of his manhood and proceeded to raise him up to adulthood as a girl at the behest of the Kinsey Institute. The tale is well-documented, causing immense stress not just him, but his twin, too, with whole sorry saga ending with them both committing suicide separately. Please read the the book As Nature Made Him if you don't believe me.

The Kinsey doctor unprecedentedly applied the idea that gender roles were merely cultural, when in fact he was egregiously forcing a square peg into a round hole. He lied about it, too, getting a lot of acclaim for saying this example advocated the the theory, when in fact the facts absolutely screamed the reverse, but then again, he looked to transvestites as role models for "the future," as opposed to being the exception to the rule.

What you just said assumes something, but if you take a look at it, science does not support it, and I would hope common sense. Some gender differences are, indeed, cultural, but they didn't emerge out of a conspiracy.

I real wish (and for everyone's sakes) that feminism did take science into consideration. Men can nurture, but they lack a woman's nurturing hormones. Women can fight, but they lack a man's testosterone. Forgive me if fail to see the outright reversal of gender roles an outright blessing, because I absolutely don't.

Sincerely, Noitartst

PS: Given your beliefs, I truly fail to see why you have Fred's picture as your icon, because, aside from the fact the name is masculine, and you like that (affinity for role reversal, and all), she simply does not become you, my dear, and would instead suggest either Illyria, or Dark Willow. Given your beliefs and values, I can't help but think they're closer to your apocalyptic mindset.
 
Feminism seems to assume that biology has nothing to do with gender differences, and that's a huge pitfall for it if you ask me.

No, feminism makes the argument that biology does not necessarily dictate universal truths in personality or aptitude (etc.), and what differences do exist among sexes should not be justifiable grounds for the "superiority" or domination of one particular group.

A great example of where feminism shows its hostility to the masculine, or sheer lack of understanding, is one episode where Riley and Xander are doing a little play wrestling, and Buffy tells they to stop, or she'll break it up. In my eyes, their display of masculinity was dandy, but was something feminism gives a cold shoulder to at best.
Femnism is anti-patriarchy, not anti-masculinity.

Haha, if the idea that feminism is against masculinity had any modicum of truth, the stereotypical "butch" feminist would be even more absurd than it already is...

I can understand female wariness to such behavior, but I've got news for you: It's how we are, and yet for some strange reason, still you marry us.
And wow- I've got news for you: not all women are interested in men, and framing a discussion of gender in a heterosexist way really doesn't make your position look any better.

Well, not the least of the reasons is because feminism, as per what you're espousing, isn't simply about changing gender relations, but revolutionizing them, by your own admission, I might add, to revolutionary theory that doesn't care a whit about reality because it simply cares about remaking it.

Hardly. I can't speak for all feminists, but I want to revolutionize and reframe gender precisely because I care about the reality we live in, and I demand better of it.

Very nice, indeed, when I recall that poor identical twin boy that after his penis was destroyed in a botched circumcision they chopped of the fest of his manhood and proceeded to raise him up to adulthood as a girl at the behest of the Kinsey Institute. The tale is well-documented, causing immense stress not just him, but his twin, too, with whole sorry saga ending with them both committing suicide separately. Please read the the book As Nature Made Him if you don't believe me.

The Kinsey doctor unprecedentedly applied the idea that gender roles were merely cultural, when in fact he was egregiously forcing a square peg into a round hole. He lied about it, too, getting a lot of acclaim for saying this example advocated the the theory, when in fact the facts absolutely screamed the reverse, but then again, he looked to transvestites as role models for "the future," as opposed to being the exception to the rule.

First off:
  • Biological sex is not the same as gender.
  • Gender identity is personal; gender roles are cultural.
I'm not familiar with the Kinsey case, but from your description, what the Kinsey Institute did was unethical because they forced someone into a gender that he was not. That's irrelevant to this conversation. Changing expected gender roles is not the same as trying to change someone's sex or gender identity.

PS: Given your beliefs, I truly fail to see why you have Fred's picture as your icon, because, aside from the fact the name is masculine, and you like that (affinity for role reversal, and all), she simply does not become you, my dear, and would instead suggest either Illyria, or Dark Willow. Given your beliefs and values, I can't help but think they're closer to your apocalyptic mindset.

Wow, this is the most condescending thing I've read in a while.

My avatar is a picture of Sarah Michelle Gellar in a movie where she happens to have brown hair and glasses. It's not Fred.

And lastly, my dear, don't infantilize me. Don't.
 
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No, feminism makes the argument that biology does not necessarily dictate universal truths in personality or aptitude (etc.), and what differences do exist among sexes should not be justifiable grounds for the "superiority" or domination of one particular group.

That sounds a whole lot better than portraying gender role reversal as a near-absolute reversal; good. Thing is, I've gotten the impression, both from reading science and observation, that the male is the natural leader of the species. If that's so, then I certainly hope that doesn't qualify as "domination," and I assuredly hope feminism's not at odds with science.

Femnism is anti-patriarchy, not anti-masculinity.
Problem is, there's very little difference in actual portrayal; Xander and Riley's wrestling is worth a feminist cheap shot, for instance, and there are lots of examples in contemporary fiction today where males are competing with each other, and it's portrayed, essentially, as immature, stupid, or weak.

I simply don't see the other side of the coin in today's fiction, where men are set to sniggering about the foibles of women where the audience is meant to share their mirth. As is, in such a situation, we'd be more likely supposed to laugh at them instead, and that's where I see effective feminist prejudice.

Have you ever read the lyrics to Prince's brilliant "Little Red Corvette" lately? It's basically about an incubus and succubus facing off, with each deciding to have a go at each other, with the succubus appalling the incubus along the way with how thoroughly she's embraced role reversal, though he gets over it, and proceeds to embrace her challenge, with the tone of his voice and flow of the music suggesting that he was pleased with the success.
In contemporary fiction, see, the feminist challenge is never answered, and that's what gets me, and causes me conclude that the gender portrayals are unrealistic, above all. To generalize, men love challenges, and when a girl acts in a pro-feminist manner, I never see a man behave in a pro-masculine manner, and that's what gets me, because it seems markedly unnatural, and that keeps setting my teeth on edge.

Haha, if the idea that feminism is against masculinity had any modicum of truth, the stereotypical "butch" feminist would be even more absurd than it already is...

Well, the more mistreated you've been by men then the more justifiable a woman's feminism is, and I certainly don't blame them. I don't know how much you know about Myers-Briggs tests, but in one of the books I was looking through on it I read something intriguing, in that it claimed the leading ranks of the feminist movement were led by NF women, or intuitive empaths, dames like Gloria Steinem, who came from reasonably good homes, had a full college education, and were were natural social stars.

I find it rather ironic, don't you? As a group, they never really suffered what were furious over, unless it was incest, and we don't know about it. They didn't have to deal with the ordeals of the suffragettes, where WInston CHurchil would haul you off to prison, but instead came of age in those free-swingin' sixties, where glass ceilings sharted to shatter like never before, and where Churchill died off.

I like NF women, and while I certainly can't imagine a heterosexual NF woman being personally against masculinity, I certainly can that her beliefs might, especially if it's doctrinaire clap-trap. It creates political correctness, and rather than ending stereotypes, it officially disapproves some, endorses others, assuming they haven't just created them in the first place.

And when it comes to wfiction? Well, romance-oriented stories often feminize women just as action stories do the same to women (and I think this applies to all eras, but coupled with today's overall feminist slant, it just kinda seeps in....
And wow- I've got news for you: not all women are interested in men, and framing a discussion of gender in a heterosexist way really doesn't make your position look any better.

There are exceptions of all kinds, and I trusted that you understood that I understood that. My point basically, was that genetically speaking, we can't pick who we're drawn to. The overwhelming majority is attracted to the opposite sex, a minority is drawn to the same gender, and some others are just so horny that they don't care. I really don't see anything "heterosexist" about a general point, that though women don't like all we men do, the species still stands. WHen there's enough of the exceptions to threaten our existence, then I'd better take feminism more serious, shouldn't I?

Hardly. I can't speak for all feminists, but I want to revolutionize and reframe gender precisely because I care about the reality we live in, and I demand better of it.

That's precisely the thing. If feminists wish to start girl orphanages, or abused woman shelters, I understand. If you want to midwife your babies into the the world because the hospital system is too cold and unfeeling, I will more than endorse it. If you even asked me to stand around with a sign saying, "Silvio Belusconi is a pig," I'd probably do it, but the thing is, men are not, and most absolutely don't wish to be, like you, just as you, I trust, don't want to be us.

I read a book once about a lesbian who went undercover as man for a prolonged period, but quit three months earlier than she planed because she couldn't take it. She was naturally quite masculine, down to her walk, but by a man's standards was pretty effeminate, and had to work at it. In the end, she just felt that living as a man was like getting hit over the head constantly, and I think that says a lot of how an exception can prove a a rule. (Or is the term "demonstrate"?)

You don't sound like you're hurt, abused, or a lesbian, but if you were, I'd be forced to take that into consideration. As is, all I see is some who follows textbook logic, that's what concerns me. I know that men aren't perfect, but but what you espouse seems to go far beyond sanding off rough edges. As an INTJ, I firmly believe in societal improvement, and think there's lots of common ground, in practical terms, but if everything were "smooth," the world would be less interesting.

I just wish you could appreciate that.
Fact: We men have abused both our roles and our power, but let's not toss the baby out with the bath water.
First off:
  • Biological sex is not the same as gender.
  • Gender identity is personal; gender roles are cultural.


  • It doesn't mean gender roles don't reflect gender truths, though. In my view it would be good to hate 'em if they didn't.
I'm not familiar with the Kinsey case, but from your description, what the Kinsey Institute did was unethical because they forced someone into a gender that he was not. That's irrelevant to this conversation.

You both wanted to change the world in markedly similar ways, and that's not the least because the Kinsey Institute had a significant role in the promulgation of feminism, as I recall. Assuming things are malleable when they aren't is demonstrably awful, if you ask me.

Changing expected gender roles is not the same as trying to change someone's sex or gender identity.

Ah, but don't they go hand in hand? By imposing certain gender roles on the kid, he was trying to change his gender identity (to say nothing of the hormonal approach, and the like), and essentially, demonstrate that your general narrative was realitic, that social engineering factually worked, whereas his experiment demonstrated the reverse.

I said the problem with feminism didn't take into account of certain realities, didn't I? Well, if such is feminism's ideological sponsors, is it any wonder?

I hope you see my point.

Wow, this is the most condescending thing I've read in a while.
Well, friend yours was the most naive thing I've heard in a while.
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My apologies, then; I was wrong, and it now makes plenty of sense.
And lastly, my dear, don't infantilize me. Don't.
Well, given what you profess, I'd say you're doin' it to yourself. At any rate, I enjoy your hostility; keep it up.
 
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That sounds a whole lot better than portraying gender role reversal as a near-absolute reversal; good. Thing is, I've gotten the impression, both from reading science and observation, that the male is the natural leader of the species. If that's so, then I certainly hope that doesn't qualify as "domination," and I assuredly hope feminism's not at odds with science.

Near absolute reversal? Where did you get that? And even if science (pseudo- or otherwise, noting that you haven't cited any actual credible support) suggests men are more naturally inclined to leadership, it doesn't mean that all women lack the capacity to be leaders as well, and to suggest otherwise on some obscure scientific basis is to rationalize sexism based on this assumption as "natural" or "justified".

I simply don't see the other side of the coin in today's fiction, where men are set to sniggering about the foibles of women where the audience is meant to share their mirth. As is, in such a situation, we'd be more likely supposed to laugh at them instead, and that's where I see effective feminist prejudice.

Are you for real? Let's talk about the female characters almost always written without agency of their own and the Women in Refrigerators trope. Let's talk about culture, about the debasement of women writers, women artists, the objectification of nearly every woman in the public eye no matter her intelligence or achievements, the glassy-eyed sexually "willing" female models on every advertisement and photospread just begging the assumed heterosexual male audience to screw them into oblivion- then, you can talk to me about the unfairness of female vs male representation in the fiction and culture we create.

I never see a man behave in a pro-masculine manner, and that's what gets me, because it seems markedly unnatural, and that keeps setting my teeth on edge.

Right, see, this is the kind of thing that makes me wonder whether we're on the same planet. Even Joss's other shows feature masculine men. Check Firefly- you get Malcolm Reynolds and Jayne. AtS- Wesley, Angel, Gunn. Don Draper from Mad Men, Timothy Olyphant's character in Justified, the list goes on and on when it comes to current television (at least in the U.S., where I am.). Even the ones who aren't treated expressly as masculine icons are not necessarily feminine. A shortage of masculine men is the most absurd thing I have ever heard.

Well, the more mistreated you've been by men then the more justifiable a woman's feminism is, and I certainly don't blame them. I don't know how much you know about Myers-Briggs tests, but in one of the books I was looking through on it I read something intriguing, in that it claimed the leading ranks of the feminist movement were led by NF women, or intuitive empaths, dames like Gloria Steinem, who came from reasonably good homes, had a full college education, and were were natural social stars.

I find it rather ironic, don't you? As a group, they never really suffered what were furious over, unless it was incest, and we don't know about it. They didn't have to deal with the ordeals of the suffragettes, where WInston CHurchil would haul you off to prison, but instead came of age in those free-swingin' sixties, where glass ceilings sharted to shatter like never before, and where Churchill died off.

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You're missing systematic oppression in your shallow explanation of what women "never really suffered". Glass ceilings shattered like never before? What, you think they just happened that way? Heck no- feminists fought for that. And uh, getting SOME representation is not the same as actual equality. Equality isn't here. Even today, we still haven't passed the Equal Rights Amendment, we still have unequal political and social representation, we still live in rape culture, we still have unequal pay in a world where women outnumber men in the workforce. Even now, globally, wherein women are half of the population and work 2/3 of the world's working hours, we receive only 10% of the world's income and own 1% of the world' property. Tell me again why feminism is only justifiable when you've personally been mistreated by men. Patriarchy is a system. Say it with me now. Sys-temmmmm.

There are exceptions of all kinds, and I trusted that you understood that I understood that. My point basically, was that genetically speaking, we can't pick who we're drawn to. The overwhelming majority is attracted to the opposite sex, a minority is drawn to the same gender, and some others are just so horny that they don't care. I really don't see anything "heterosexist" about a general point, that though women don't like all we men do, the species still stands. WHen there's enough of the exceptions to threaten our existence, then I'd better take feminism more serious, shouldn't I?

It's heterosexist because you framed it within a discussion of men and women's "natural" interaction, assuming that we are all straight. It's erasure of other identities, and if you meant something else, you should have stated it differently.

And "exceptions threaten our existence"? Yeah- cause gay people never have children; we turn in our “capacity to pro-create” cards the minute we gay ourselves up. Right. I forgot. 🙄 Modern science be damned, there's absolutely no way for gay people to have biological children! 😛

And once again, framing minority sexual expressions as "exceptions" to some kind of "rule" IS heterosexist- just because something is in the majority does not mean it is correct or should be assumed true of all people until we prove otherwise. That is heterosexism- the privileging of heterosexual practices and relationships above others and classifying others as simply "exceptions".

You don't sound like you're hurt, abused, or a lesbian, but if you were, I'd be forced to take that into consideration. As is, all I see is some who follows textbook logic, that's what concerns me. I know that men aren't perfect, but but what you espouse seems to go far beyond sanding off rough edges. As an INTJ, I firmly believe in societal improvement, and think there's lots of common ground, in practical terms, but if everything were "smooth," the world would be less interesting.

I just wish you could appreciate that.
Fact: We men have abused both our roles and our power, but let's not toss the baby out with the bath water.

I don't "sound like a lesbian"? What is that supposed to mean? How do you know I'm not? How do you 'take that into consideration' in discussing gender with me? That makes zero sense.

When have I said that I hate men, or that all men are evil, or absolutely anything along those lines? When? Honestly, I would like to know, since I expressly stated that feminism is not anti-masculinity (and relatedly, not anti-men), but anti-patriarchy.

Ah, but don't they go hand in hand? By imposing certain gender roles on the kid, he was trying to change his gender identity (to say nothing of the hormonal approach, and the like), and essentially, demonstrate that your general narrative was realitic, that social engineering factually worked, whereas his experiment demonstrated the reverse.

Gender identity is personal, and it doesn't matter what hormones you have, what organs you are born with, or what's between your legs, so I don't know what you're talking about when you mean the “hormonal approach”. Similarly, it doesn't matter what gender roles are forced on you; you are the gender you are no matter the physical body you are born in or the society that tells you otherwise. That's what happened in the Kinsey case, as you describe it.

What you innately identify as, whether you are cisgender or transgender, or not of the gender/sex binary (genderqueer, intersex, etc.), gender identity is personal. In what you described, the doctor removed the boy's genitals and raised him as a girl (I'm assuming not having told him that he was born of the male sex). If implied that the subject killed himself because he actually did identify as a boy/man, the Kinsey Institute case is an unethical attempt to change gender identity contrary to the will of the subject. It doesn't have anything to do with what we're talking about.
Changing cultural gender roles is not the same as trying to change someone's gender identity, and it doesn't make anybody “more” or “less” of the gender they are. They just are, and an attempt to subvert what's culturally “accepted” or “allowed” of certain genders is an attempt to show more of the diversity ALL genders have.

Well, given what you profess, I'd say you're doin' it to yourself. At any rate, I enjoy your hostility; keep it up.

Better idea: how about you stop giving me reasons to be hostile? 😛
 
The overwhelming majority is attracted to the opposite sex, a minority is drawn to the same gender, and some others are just so horny that they don't care.


Let me get this straight. Bi-sexuals are attracted to people of both genders, because they're horny? Seriously? This is your explanation?
 
Near absolute reversal? Where did you get that? And even if science (pseudo- or otherwise, noting that you haven't cited any actual credible support)

The rate you were going, I didn't know you wanted any, the way you were going. Do you really doubt that men on average are taller and heavier than women? Do you really doubt men and women interact differently, or do you truly think that it's all just a conspiracy?

Read what it says at wikipedia under "Sex differences in humans":


# 2 Size, weight and body shape
# 3 Skeleton and muscular system

suggests men are more naturally inclined to leadership, it doesn't mean that all women lack the capacity to be leaders as well, and to suggest otherwise on some obscure scientific basis is to rationalize sexism based on this assumption as "natural" or "justified".

Look up testosterone; even those men with more of it tend to dominate even the rest of us men. I read an article about it years ago by Andrew Sullivan in the New York Time Magazine which stated things well, but since I dont have that on hand, let me just tell you that wikipedia, in its testosterone article, states the average male produces ten times more of it than the average woman.

And as for women leaders, I indeed have a great respect for them. IN the case of my own mother, growing up, I only wish she was more of a leader than she was. There are good women leaders, and bad women leaders, the same as it is with men, but if men tend to dominate the leadership ranks, that's not surprising in biological terms.

Are you for real? Let's talk about the female characters almost always written without agency of their own and the Women in Refrigerators trope.

Here, I think we start to have a bit more common ground, but we're also talking about the hardships of fiction writing. Writers need to get from point A to point B, and we can get predictable.

That said, that's one reason I respect Wheddon, and that's why I think so highly of Buffy as a series. Cliches of all kinds I loathe, you know.

Let's talk about culture, about the debasement of women writers, women artists, the objectification of nearly every woman in the public eye no matter her intelligence or achievements,

We're sexual creatures, so unless you neuter us, don't think we won't stop lookin through that filter, and don't women don't think through that lens at all, either, because you do. Not only that, some of you dames don't just except that, but exploit it, which I'm personally uncomfortable with, but that's the way things are, in my book.

Cleopatra was one smart woman, and very good at managing Egypt's treasury. She may have objectified herself, but you think that it's avoidable? She's an extreme case, but by exploiting the natural order instead of fighting it, she proved wiser than the feminist wisdom you espouse.

Lastly, I really wish you'd explain why women artists and the like have it so hard. The way you talk, you sound like it's a conspiracy, when society, in the last hundred years, society has evolved much in your favor. If you're opposed to certain rules and laws, I'll understand, but I think your wrath is too much for something too vague.

the glassy-eyed sexually "willing" female models on every advertisement and photospread just begging the assumed heterosexual male audience to screw them into oblivion- then, you can talk to me about the unfairness of female vs male representation in the fiction and culture we create.

I was talking about nuanced cultural creative adjustment, and you're talking about mass merchandising. Intellectual crusaders can drive public displays of sexuality underground, but it will still exist. If you refuse to help end gender hostilities and cliches because hucksters are forever, well, I think you've just demonstrated why I'm against my point of view, which you seemed not to dispute.

Right, see, this is the kind of thing that makes me wonder whether we're on the same planet. Even Joss's other shows feature masculine men. Check Firefly- you get Malcolm Reynolds and Jayne. AtS- Wesley, Angel, Gunn. Don Draper from Mad Men, Timothy Olyphant's character in Justified, the list goes on and on when it comes to current television (at least in the U.S., where I am.). Even the ones who aren't treated expressly as masculine icons are not necessarily feminine. A shortage of masculine men is the most absurd thing I have ever heard.

Joss typical impairs his male leads somewhere. Ever read of the doctrine of masculine impairment? Camille Paglia, lesbian who's probably formed my gender views more than anyone else talked about it eloquently in Sexual Personae, and it's older than feminism. It's not the least because if we didn't have one, what kind of story would there be?

I developed my own personal solution to this problem in my own writings, but in a feminist era of strotelling, I think if masculinity were allowed to cut loose, I think there'd be plenty of storytelling fodder, and that's because feminism is a friction in and of itself.

I hope you can see that.

You're missing systematic oppression in your shallow explanation of what women "never really suffered".

Oh? I guess it's because I've hung out with too many inelligent, college-educated, conservative women.


Glass ceilings shattered like never before? What, you think they just happened that way?[/QUOTE]

To a large degree, yes; society became stabler, and women weren't needed for housework like they used to, and thus it made much more sense for them to work outside the home. Was there resistance? Yes, but at the same time, it was a reflection of changing social needs.



Heck no- feminists fought for that.

Oh, you did, but me and an awful lot of conservative women think you give yourselves way too much credit, and those changes aren't all for the best, especially in terms of divorce. I doubt you'll take a bow for that, though.


And uh, getting SOME representation is not the same as actual equality. Equality isn't here. Even today, we still haven't passed the Equal Rights Amendment,

Phyllis Schlafly deserves some credit for that; my mother read her in college.

we still have unequal political and social representation, we still live in rape culture, we still have unequal pay in a world where women outnumber men in the workforce. Even now, globally, wherein women are half of the population and work 2/3 of the world's working hours, we receive only 10% of the world's income and own 1% of the world' property. Tell me again why feminism is only justifiable when you've personally been mistreated by men. Patriarchy is a system. Say it with me now. Sys-temmmmm.

Patriarchy, it seems, has done a mighty good job working itself out of a role, wouldn't you say? It's been creating a world allowing you feminists to exist, and I'd say you're a bunch of ingrates.

It's heterosexist because you framed it within a discussion of men and women's "natural" interaction, assuming that we are all straight. It's erasure of other identities, and if you meant something else, you should have stated it differently.

I you mean I think heterosexuality is the prime force of humexistence, then I'm guilty as charged. I won't anyone to have sex in any form, and I've certainly learned from their unique perspectives.

And once again, framing minority sexual expressions as "exceptions" to some kind of "rule" IS heterosexist- just because something is in the majority does not mean it is correct

I agree; I type to you from The Evergreen State College, and here, my views are pretty much outnumbered.

or should be assumed true of all people until we prove otherwise. That is heterosexism- the privileging of heterosexual practices and relationships above others and classifying others as simply "exceptions".

Feminism sounds pretty high-handed itself; I wish you could hear yourself talk.

I don't "sound like a lesbian"? What is that supposed to mean? How do you know I'm not? How do you 'take that into consideration' in discussing gender with me? That makes zero sense.

You may think I'm utterly elitist, but I'm trying to understand where you're coming from, believe it or not. Everything about you says, "Heard it in a book!" I truly wish your thinking, even if I disagreed, held more substance.

When have I said that I hate men, or that all men are evil, or absolutely anything along those lines? When? Honestly, I would like to know, since I expressly stated that feminism is not anti-masculinity (and relatedly, not anti-men), but anti-patriarchy.

Well, I believe you proclaimed role-reversal in fiction as a a near-absolute good, that's where I take umbrage too. You say you're not against masculinity, but if you're against that, well, I 'd say you effectively are, intent or no.

Gender identity is personal, and it doesn't matter what hormones you have,

Actually, it's suspected that hormones do; they think girls in the womb, exposed to testosterone at one stage or other, are more likely to become lesbians.

what organs you are born with, or what's between your legs, so I don't know what you're talking about when you mean the "hormonal approach". Similarly, it doesn't matter what gender roles are forced on you; you are the gender you are no matter the physical body you are born in or the society that tells you otherwise. That's what happened in the Kinsey case, as you describe it. [/QUOTE]

And that case has been legend precisely for that reason! Before well, well, a lot o' people, more educated than I, thought gender a malleable as, well, gender roles, and made no distinction between the two, and to me, it's a a veriatble parable of the risks of ideological zealotry run amuck.

What you innately identify as, whether you are cisgender or transgender, or not of the gender/sex binary (genderqueer, intersex, etc.), gender identity is personal. In what you described, the doctor removed the boy's genitals and raised him as a girl (I'm assuming not having told him that he was born of the male sex).

Correct.

If implied that the subject killed himself because he actually did identify as a boy/man, the Kinsey Institute case is an unethical attempt to change gender identity contrary to the will of the subject. It doesn't have anything to do with what we're talking about.

Beg to differ. Unless I'm mistaken, your feminism demands changes in the way the genders interact, and from everything you've said, this feminism of yours does not seem to take the real world much into consideration. As much as you seem unphased by past disasters from your ideological forbears, well, why wouldn't I be worried?

Changing cultural gender roles is not the same as trying to change someone's gender identity, and it doesn't make anybody "more" or "less" of the gender they are. They just are, and an attempt to subvert what's culturally "accepted" or "allowed" of certain genders is an attempt to show more of the diversity ALL genders have.

Oh? You don't find the idea of men jacking off in public bad taste? You really think a society where it's culturally accepted for men to tell women they've just met what their sexual appraisal of them was is dandy? Frankly, I don't think most women want that, but your ideology seems to allow for such madness.

Better idea: how about you stop giving me reasons to be hostile? 😛

Well, I think I'm feeling less hostile towards you, if more sarcastic. How's that?
 
The rate you were going, I didn't know you wanted any, the way you were going. Do you really doubt that men on average are taller and heavier than women? Do you really doubt men and women interact differently, or do you truly think that it's all just a conspiracy?

Those are differences between biological sexes.

And again, they don't determine universal truths among genders, or people, for that matter.

Of course people interact differently, but that's just it- differently. Good for you if you can spot some kind of pattern, but it's generalizing (to say the least) to assume that every single person must conform nicely to a specified gender role. Especially when those assumptions are restrictive and potentially damaging- how long did the world spend punishing and raping women for not being submissive to the men who controlled them, send women who dare to have sex drives to insane asylums to be "dealt with", hurl homophobic and sexist slurs at men who show feminine characteristics? Funny that I wrote that in past tense, because the world still does this, people still do this, all because they operate under some ridiculous idea that conventional concepts of masculinity and femininity must reign supreme, and everyone who strays from it (as human beings will inevitably do) is wrong.

When I say that reversing gender roles and reconfiguring power structures has subversive value, this is what I mean. That within a culture that doesn't typically tolerate divergence from the accepted, allowing vulnerability in your male characters and power in female ones is progressive. It shows another side of what reality is, and that's all the better to portray the human condition. And while it doesn't necessarily erase gender differences, what it does do is help tear down conventional methods of gender oppression. Writing powerful, strong women changes the accepted norm that only shows women as damsels and vapid "bitches"; showing men who draw strength from being a human being with emotions, insecurities, and thoughts (as opposed to an unrealistic paragon of stereotypical masculinity) helps change outdated attitudes that strictly dictate what "being a man" is. (Especially when dominant attitudes about masculinity are startlingly homophobic and intolerant.)

but if men tend to dominate the leadership ranks, that's not surprising in biological terms.
"tend" to dominate? Do you honestly think things just happened this way? Do you honestly think that the state of the world is fair and justified when it comes to gender? That the overwhelming political, social, and economic dominance of men (and in particular white, rich, able-bodied, straight, cisgender men) in a world filled with diversity of ALL different kinds is natural?

If you do, wow. That is just depressing.

We're sexual creatures, so unless you neuter us, don't think we won't stop lookin through that filter, and don't women don't think through that lens at all, either, because you do. Not only that, some of you dames don't just except that, but exploit it, which I'm personally uncomfortable with, but that's the way things are, in my book.

No one is suggesting neutering. And looking at things sexually isn't a bad thing either. Perceiving things sexually is entirely different from portraying things sexually, and there is a double standard in how men and women are portrayed this way. And yes, men can be objectified too, but very rare is it to the extent that women are, and in a world where women are rarely written/portrayed as complex human beings in the first place (as opposed to the dominance of complex male narratives), this double standard is especially damaging.

And yes, there are some women who exploit that. But what does that matter? That's not relevant to all women, not in the slightest. What does that say of the women who don't get a chance to capitalize on objectifying themselves (which, in my book, they have every right to do, my concern is with people who are subjected to objectification by others), who don't fit the standards of conventional beauty and attraction? Especially in a power structure that evaluates women's worth based on what they have to offer sexually?

The way you talk, you sound like it's a conspiracy, when society, in the last hundred years, society has evolved much in your favor.

I am not going to be grateful for basic equality. We should not have to fight to be considered human beings in the first place.

And that case has been legend precisely for that reason! Before well, well, a lot o' people, more educated than I, thought gender a malleable as, well, gender roles, and made no distinction between the two, and to me, it's a a veriatble parable of the risks of ideological zealotry run amuck.

And he (if that case is even real) was wrong for doing that. But, for the last time, trying to change gender identity is completely different from trying to expand culturally accepted gender narratives and roles.

Beg to differ. Unless I'm mistaken, your feminism demands changes in the way the genders interact, and from everything you've said, this feminism of yours does not seem to take the real world much into consideration. As much as you seem unphased by past disasters from your ideological forbears, well, why wouldn't I be worried?

You are mistaken then. Changes in the way genders interact, no. Alternatives in the way genders (and relatedly, interaction among them) are consistently portrayed, when as it stands, it's usually unfair, restrictive, and damaging? Yes.
 
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Ms.Trick
Prophecygrrl, I love you to bits in this debate!
"tend" to dominate? Do you honestly think things just happened this way? Do you honestly think that the state of the world is fair and justified when it comes to gender? That the overwhelming political, social, and economic dominance of men (and in particular white, rich, able-bodied, straight, cisgender men) in a world filled with diversity of ALL different kinds is natural?

If you do, wow. That is just depressing.

LOL! I love you! 😀 And this whole post - brilliant.

I wish I had more time to join the discussion, but I don't. I just settle for saying - equality (and I'm not just talking between men and women): hasn't happened yet. We've come further than we had 100 years ago, yes, but that doesn't mean that we're anywhere near "done" and should just stop trying to make it better. It is a matter of basic human rights, justice and, when it comes down to it, democracy. Everyone should fight for that.
 
Noitartst, is there a conscious reason behind your condescending tone (and the fact that you are consequently misspelling Joss Whedon's name)?
 
All quotes by Noitartst.

I'll be a bit rude here, and address some points even though I haven't had a chance to read the thread properly further than to post #25.

In my experience, feminism isn't about substance, anyway, but attitude. See, it's all about, per my understanding, acid takes on traditional masculinity, and little to do with how men and women actually interact. There are moments on the series which are very natural, and largely explain my interest on the shows, but like I said, feminism to me is an attitude problem, like a squeaky wheel, or a needlessly bumpy road.

When you write "feminism" here, do you mean feminism in Joss Whedon's shows, feminism in BtVS and AtS or feminism as an ideology?

Feminism in particular is about making women look strong, so is it any wonder that a show attempting to portray it would find itself undermining male leads simply to make the series theme work?

In saying that feminism is about making women look strong, it sounds to me like women being strong is something of an anomaly to you.

For fans of Buffy, I simply ask you to take a hard look into what's going on. I think you overlook flaws in the series because when you like a theme from some part or other, you prefer to cheer, rather than look and see how it's running roughshod, and illogically, over something else.

Y'know, to me, "Buffy" is entertainment. I am not against debating the strengths and weaknesses of the show, if I were I wouldn't be here, but much as I can enjoy novels by Dick Francis, Jane Austen or Jasper Fforde without loving every single sentence, I can be a fan of "Buffy" even if I don't know the show by heart or adore every single thought that Joss Whedon cares to think. Also, everyone does a bad job every now and again. If I, a science teacher, does a bad job of a lesson, my students will notice that the lesson sucks. If the writers of a show does a bad job of an episode, the fans will analyse the ups and downs of said episode for a decade.

Look up body language. The research pretty clearly states that in mating rituals, the female is essentially hardwired to act more submissive, and the male more aggressive. If it feels easier to believe that male characters to be strong, then maybe genetic programming has something to do with it, and if so, then, no social orthodoxy can fight it, though maybe a geneticist might, or if you're in the Slayerverse, a spell.

You are not a biologist, are you?
 
Look up body language. The research pretty clearly states that in mating rituals, the female is essentially hardwired to act more submissive, and the male more aggressive. If it feels easier to believe that male characters to be strong, then maybe genetic programming has something to do with it, and if so, then, no social orthodoxy can fight it, though maybe a geneticist might, or if you're in the Slayerverse, a spell.


The female is hardwired to be more submissive? Really? I've never heard of anything so . . . implausible.
 
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