What are your fears ?

The process of dying.

That has become more and more of a dread to me as I advance in years. I have had friends and family members robbed of all dignity and even self awareness by cancer, stroke, and dementia. I have had friends who spent the last years of their lives hooked to machines and oxygen bottles, who have had bits and pieces of their bodies removed, or who have spent their last years blind, and the thought that such a fate might await me or my wife fills me with genuine terror.

Don't confuse death with the process of dying. Death is an inevitability, and I will almost certainly fear it when the time comes, despite my faith in a Higher Power and belief in an afterlife. The process of dying is the slow, agonizing path that some poor unfortunates have to suffer before reaching that point.
 
I'm a perfectionist, so I fear failure: failing people's expectations, failing to reach my potential, failing to understand what other people say or what they mean, failing to communicate my feeling properly, failing my classes, failing to get a job or worse failing at my job, failing to contribute to society, etc. I'm basically afraid of not being perfect; even though, I know rationally that no one is perfect. It's really annoying and stupid!

I'm also slightly agoraphobic...One of these might be contributing to the other...
 
I don’t like snakes, spiders, or bugs/insects.

Car accidents scare me.

Getting old and having dementia or Alzheimer’s and needing full care is also a big fear.
 
I don't appreciate heights but I can manage around it if the activity or the view is worth it. My real fear is a mellow form of thalassophobia which is pretty much like @WillowFromBuffy . From wikipedia its:

Thalassophobia is an intense and persistent fear of the sea or of sea travel. It can include fear of being in large bodies of water, fear of the vast emptiness of the sea, and fear of distance from land. It can also include fear of the unknown, of what lurks beneath.

I can travel on the sea but anything in it scares me especially sharks!
 
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There are no sharks where I live, but I still look out for them.
Mr. Pole said:
Oh no, it certainly IS a rational fear. You should be afraid of sharks, but there are TONS of other things in the sea that you should be more afraid of.
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Skanky Vamp
Skanky Vamp
I was thinking more off all the microscopic things you cannot see that swim in your various orifices and burrow into your skin and set up little colonies in your body causing you all kinds of problems.
I used to suffer so badly from claustrophobia that it interfered with my day-to-day life, so I decided to face it; I have no problem with small spaces anymore. If it's dark and I can't get out, I might sweat a bit, but I don't panic or freak out like I would have 10 years ago. Progress 🙂
 
I'm not very good with heights.
It's not so much the height though, more the fear of falling down.
If I feel safe it's not that bad actually. On the other hand, the only time I have a vivid imagination is when it comes to coming up with way things can go wrong and ways I can get hurt so...

But that's not an irrational fear. It's very rational and just common sense. 🙂

More irrational is my constant fear to make a fool out of myself in public or just making a fool out of myself in general.
Do something, or say something stupid that will make people look at me and think wtf?
I've become better at this with age though since experience has taught me that usually so doesn't people even notice, or just doesn't care, and that life goes on anyway.

/SK
 
I suffer from cynophobia, which means, I fear dogs. No one takes it seriously. Every dog owner thinks, he has the perfect cure for me. His dog. Because his dog is soooooo nice, that I will instantly understand, that there is nothing to fear as soon as his dog is slapping ist tongue across my face. Unfortunately fears are not rational. Therefore I will not understand and freak out.

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MarieVampSlayer said:
I don't appreciate heights but I can manage around it if the activity or the view is worth it. My real fear is a mellow form of thalassophobia which is pretty much like @WillowFromBuffy . From wikipedia its:

Thalassophobia is an intense and persistent fear of the sea or of sea travel. It can include fear of being in large bodies of water, fear of the vast emptiness of the sea, and fear of distance from land. It can also include fear of the unknown, of what lurks beneath.
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Joining Team #ScrewyouPoseidon 😛
If I can avoid it, I'll avoid sea travel (by this I mainly mean big boats though, not zipping through the archipelago in a small one, though I might have to re-think that after a cruise ship recently crashed into a small motorboat in my area), I love swimming but I'm deathly afraid of what's underneath. My best friend of forever can tell you of my irrational fear of squids. All those arms... what are they for if not to drag you down into icy, wet, darkness...

I think my fear comes out of three things - seeing the Creature from the Black Lagoon when I was way too young and having an evil older sister who'd grab my leg and pull me down under the surface; almost drowning once; and Estonia - in 1994, just as my sister's penpal from Estonia had visited us, a cruise ship called Estonia sank in the Baltic sea and it was horrific. I recently listened to a documentary about it and scarred myself all over again. When a ship like that sinks, it goes under real fast. 852 out of 989 people died in just minutes.
 
Taake said:
When a ship like that sinks, it goes under real fast. 852 out of 989 people died in just minutes.
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That would be a plus in my book. Would certainly be better than drowning slowly, always wondering how much longer before it finally sinks and I die. Quick sinking would be a benefit.
 
Mr. Pole said:
That would be a plus in my book. Would certainly be better than drowning slowly, always wondering how much longer before it finally sinks and I die. Quick sinking would be a benefit.
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Screw that, I wanna live. Slow sink = other boats may reach you in time to assist. Also, gives you a chance to get out of that tomb of a boat.
 
Something tells me, that @Mr. Pole enjoys this thread a lot 🙂

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TamsinValencia said:
Being infertile this is a major one for me because ever since I was a little girl I've always wanted to be a mother
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I am infertile (that sounds rather harsh though .... isn`t there a nicer way to say it ? ) and it doesn`t mean, you couldn`t be a mother. Don`t worry about that. There a many ways to motherhood.

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