What do you think...please read!!!

A

ana8

Missing you....
Joined
Sep 28, 2003
Messages
7,744
Age
40
Location
In my own mind
What do you think...plz read!!!

I would like to know what you all think about abortion.I'm asking coz my class mate is pregnant and she wants to do it .One little problem:in Poland abortion is illegal(besides woman is seriously ill or was raped). Even though you can look for a doctor for months as noone is ready to do it in hospital. But in his private clinic- of course!!!Price is between 1500-4000 zl(from 400 up to 1000$).
Is abortion legal in your country??
 
I personally am agianst it ... unless the woman is raped cause she should have to pay for her actions i mean if she did it cause she was willing she should have the child and support it...But thats my opinion if she wants to its on her but she should make sure she may feel really bad in the future... good luck to her either way!
 
Abortion is legal in my country.

I don't reccomend that you're friend get an illegal abortion...it sometimes can end up being VERY unsanitary. There was a period of time where abortion was illegal in America and it lead to alot of usafe surgical conditions.
 
yes... we even have this org that deals with the issues around abortian as well!(the mental aspects of it.. like how you might grives cos of it! why do uyou you want an abortion...)

is the abortions that are preformed in polen safe??? cos if it's not! and your friend could get sick or die, than that is a VERY harsh alternative... but i can understand that she doesn't want a kid.. i guess that she is still in High school, and doesn't have education or a job.. or she might have a job, but still... a lot of resposibility to have a kid!

what do your friend think of paying that much for an abort? can she aford it?

i am for it! i say DON'T bring a child into this world inless you are ready for it! and can handel it, mentaly and economickly! a child needs love! and a child demants so much of your attention and you, and it should get all that! and all it needs!
but in your friend case, i might say that if it's NOt safe than i think she should think over it! and here i agree with jacklyn!
 
I wouldn't say that abortion in these private clinics is safe,but what else can you do???She doesn't want that child.Her boyfriend got the money coz she told him she would kill herself...
I'm fully for abortion and I would really like to see it being legal in Poland....
 
yeah! i think that abortion should be leagal for your friend as well! cos then she could have it and feel safe!!!!
wish your friend good luck from me ana8!! i hope she makes a choice that is right for her! and that she has a safe abortion if that's what she chooses!
 
I hope it'll be safe.She just called-she has her appointment tomorrow.She found that doctor in newspaper:Bringing back your menstruation or sth like that his ad was...
 
I don't know...i'm worried. My prayers will be with your friend tonight . I believe in the right to have an abortion...I don't know that I could do it myself though 🙁
 
I'm also a bit...But it's her decision.I think I would make the same-I really hate small children and I fell sick when I think I would have to carryu one for 9 months.Meg(my classmate)is also not a child-person.
Jacklyn-thanx for prayers...
 
If she's old enough to have unprotected sex, she's old enough to have a baby. Only way she should be getting an abortion is if she was raped or if her life is in danger. If she's too far along, then it just wouldn't be fair to kill a developing child.
 
Off course abortian is legel, about everything is here. And I think it should be, I mean, who wants to be born as an unwanted child?I also believe condoms or the pil should be distributed for free.
 
I don't think that i favor abortion, but i am not against it either, even if she "should pay for her actions" that doesn't mean that an innocent child should. If the child is going to be resented and unloved, she should deffinately do what she feels to be right. However, even though they *can* be more disruptive to her life, there are other alternatives to consider: Has she thought about adoption?

Whatever she decides to do, she should deffinately do what SHE believes to be right. This decision is going to affect her the most, and it is HER decision.

~Kindred
 
if she can get it done safely have an abortion.

people who say she shouldnt should just get out of other peoples lives

wasnt it god who said "judge not lest you be judged yourself"?

well i heard it from metallica but im sure god said it first!

anyways everyones always saying how life sucks, so surely your doing the kid a favour!
 
I believe it's woman's decision what to do with her body and her child.She thought about adoption, but she doesn't want to feel the baby or anything.She just wants to live normal again...
 
i can understand when abortion is an option...but to me...that's still a life...born or not...

i'm not hatin on abortionists...but i figure abortion is a cop out....if i ever get a chick pregged...i'll finish what i started...even though it will mean that my life is over...
 
I was raised Roman Catholic so was taught that it was wrong and all that stuff. But i've come to believe that it really all depends on the circumstances, that you can't make up your mind unless you are in that situation. Only the other night I had a dream that I was pregnant...which is a strange dream for me. And I faced the dilema. In the end I opted to have an abortion because I didn't want the child at this point in my life, I wasn't ready, I still had my degree to finish and a lot of things that I wanted to do, and had I not done it I may have ended up hating the child. (being in mind this was only a dream....never actually happened.)

I'm also not maternal in any way, perhaps that will change. When it comes down to it you do what you think is right. As someone already pointed out, is it any good to bring a child into the world that is not wanted, and may end up in social care all their life....and who knows what that can do to a kid, i've seen many as my aunt is a foster carer. She has kids whose parents don't want them or can't look after them, and its not a pretty sight I can tell you.

On a side note - Please don't use kewl talk on the boards, especially in thread titles.
 
See, I agree. The society that made the no sex before marriage rule doesn't exist anymore. That was when there wasn't medicine for STD and people died from it, and when people got married at age 13. In a world where many people do not get married until their 30s or later, it is biologically unrealistic to ask people to never have sex.

As for abortions...I don't believe someone shoudl ruin their life just because some rule somewhere says abortions are wrong. I've known people who have had them and peoplel who have had the baby and given them up. For all the people in society who say 'Have the baby and give it up for adoption', it is those same people who put a stigma on unwed mothers.

You know, men's lives don't (usually) get ruined if they get a girl pregnant, but the girl's usually is. Unlike SG I think most guys would turn the other way. I knew a guy in high school who was vehemently against abortion. And one day I asked him what he would do if he got his girlfriend pregnant. Adn he said he'd leave her, but he still wouldn't want her to have an abortion.

Okay, pointless ramble over.
 
I really think it's sick in Poland that you can't have abortion profesionally made in hospital-doctors just want more money....If you have to you'll find that money

Meg did it two hours ago,she's still kinda dizzy, but I think dhe'll be ok.The doctor was really nice, she was given pain killers, so thanx guys for support...
 
If you go private then yes, but a friend of mine got hers on the NHS (National Health Service) we get free health care, well its not really free its paid for out of taxes. But we don't operate a system where you pay for each treatment, like pay as you go.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom