This si getting to be argued almost as Bangel vs Spuffy, and with even less chance of ever being resolved. Okay, are we all in agreement that up until the moment in question, call it rebellion or revolution, it really doesn't matter, Buffy was accepted as the protector, the provider, and the person in charge of organizing and training all of the Potentials as Giles gathered and delivered them? (Nod your heads here. Thank you) Now, can we all agree that there was a real, honest to goodness war going on in Sunnydale between the forces of the First Evil and the defenders of all that is good, embodied by the aforementioned Slayer and her friends and charges? (Nod again here, please.) We're all in agreement so far, right. Good.
Now, by definition, a group of fighters joined together to fight a common foe constitute an army. Okay? (Another nod at this moment would be appreciated) Also by definition, the person responsible for and in charge of such an army is called the commander. Do you see how cleverly I have worked this around to supporting my argument? (Another nod, but you may begin to grumble a bit now) When an army rebels against or refuses to follow the orders of its commander, the act is, by definition, mutiny. In time of war, which it has been established that this is, anyone who commits mutiny may be punished by up to and including death.
That is the situation in "Empty Places." An army rebelled against the legal orders of its commander. Legal orders do not include any guarantee that everyone will come home alive, or even that anyone will come back. Legal orders are simply the orders that advance the cause for which the army fights. Leonidas gave legal orders when he ordered his men to hold the pass at Thermopalae. William Barrett Travis gave legal orders when he ordered his men to man the walls at the Alamo. Buffy Summers gave legal orders when she ordered her troops to follow her back to the vineyard. Commanders lead armies. Committees debate. Armies get the job done. Debaters do a lot of talking but do very little.
When Buffy left, her army deteriorated into a committee, and only succeeded in getting people killed or injured unnecessarily. Ironically, of all of the greatest critics of Buffy's command, the leaders of the mutiny, were safely back at Slayer Central when all of the death and destruction took place. They were probably still debating the situation. (There are scattered nods, a small amount of applause, and several staunce detractors most definitely grumbling. I even hear a growl or two.)
My rant is finished.