I must say that I could never not like Willow. Not even in Seasons 6 and 7, and this is mainly because she is such a reflection of me. At first, she is a geek who is shy if you don't know her and talkative if you do. She is unintentionally funny, she doesn't dress or act to the norm, and she would never hurt anyone on purpose.
From Seasons 3-5, she becomes more confident in herself. She discovers things that she wouldn't have thought, and she learns to stand up a little on her own. She draws on the energy of her friends a lot, and at times her friends don't believe she can handle things on her own because they are like her protection from the world. She works hard to prove them wrong.
Season 6 is really where she becomes fed up with being the "little sister figure" and says, "this is what I can do that you can't. I know you don't think I am someone who can stand on her own. But I can." She does take it a little too far, of course, after Tara dies. But she did, in the end, achieve her goal. She proved herself, even if it had consequences she wouldn't have dreamed.
Season 7 is her really trying to figure out who she is, if she is this major girl power girly, or if she does really need protection. She tries to find her medium. And Season 8, though I haven't finished it, seems to continue with this theme. She wants to show that while she will always need the Scoobies, and she is always one of them, she doesn't NEED them. She is her own person!
I don't agree with everything she does. But to me, hating Willow in general would make me a... um, there's a word for this. It ends in -ism... means hating yourself. Oh well, short version is she's too much like me, her path is too much like mine to even think about disliking Willow.
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I thought so too, but the definition I got was ENTIRELY different...