Willow's Relationships Questions

[Deus Ex Machina]

When Willow and Oz were breaking up and he was explaining his attraction to Veruca, why did it bother Willow so much that Oz wanted Veruca in a more animal way than he wanted Willow?

I mean, I THINK I understand what she's getting at, that he just didn't find her sexy and she wanted him to view her as a sexy woman as opposed to just a sweet, cute lover. However, I'm not sure that I'm right.

So if Willow had Oz's love, why did it bother her he didn't want her in an animalistic way?

Also, did Willow ever out right say she loved Oz or Tara? I know she asked Oz if he loved her, and I know she said she was with the one she loved with Tara, but I don't remember her saying outright "I love you"

 

[tec]

I think it was the nature of love its self
Oz was afraid of his wolf side around Willow he dint trust it like he could with Veruca

This not trusting thing hurt Willow because he could never let him self truly go around her

 

[dexeded]

Because Oz is not a regular human being. It's not just about lust, it's about his werewolf side. Being a werewolf is always going to be a significant part of him, and Willow can't ever touch that.

 

[ILLYRIAN]

Oz wanted to be with Willow, or so he said. But he was found naked with Veruca, in a locked place, by Willow.
If he wanted to be seen as a 'normal' human why did he try to excuse what he did as, it was a werewolf thing?

 

[JCoatsworth]

Also, did Willow ever out right say she loved Oz or Tara? I know she asked Oz if he loved her, and I know she said she was with the one she loved with Tara, but I don't remember her saying outright "I love you"

Well, I can't think of a scene, although I'm pretty sure that there has to be one.
But there's this scene and to me, it means almost exactly the same:

Willow: [enters Tara's darkened room with a lit big yellow candle] No candles? Well, I brought one. It's extra flamey. Tara, I have to tell you...
Tara: No, I-I understand. You have to be with the person you l-love.
Willow: [smiles] I am.
Tara: [amazed] You mean...?
Willow: I mean. Okay?
Tara: Oh, yes.
Willow: I feel horrible about everything I put you through. A-and I'm gonna make it up to you. Starting right now.
Tara: [smiles] Right now?
[Willow smiles and nods. Tara blows out the candle]

 

[FlowerPower]

Also, did Willow ever out right say she loved Oz or Tara? I know she asked Oz if he loved her, and I know she said she was with the one she loved with Tara, but I don't remember her saying outright "I love you"

Willow basically told Riley that she loved Oz in this speech from The Initiative:

Willow: Ok, say that I help, and you start a conversation. It goes great. You like buffy, she likes you. You spend time together, feelings grow deeper, and one day, without even realizing it, you find you're in love. Time stops, And it feels like the whole world's made for you two, and you two alone, until the day one of you leaves and rips the still-beating heart from the other, who's now a broken, hollow, mockery of the human condition.

She tells Tara she loves her by saying she's with the person she loves in New Moon Rising. She also mouths, "I love you" in The Body. And there's this bit in Family:

TARA: I was just afraid if you saw the kind of people I came from, you wouldn't wanna be anywhere near me.
WILLOW: See ... that's where you're a dummy. I think about ... what you grew up with, and ... then I look at what you are ... it makes me proud. It makes me love you more.

Those are just the moments that Willow said the word, "love". She indicated that she loved Oz and Tara in other words and actions too.

When Willow and Oz were breaking up and he was explaining his attraction to Veruca, why did it bother Willow so much that Oz wanted Veruca in a more animal way than he wanted Willow?

I mean, I THINK I understand what she's getting at, that he just didn't find her sexy and she wanted him to view her as a sexy woman as opposed to just a sweet, cute lover. However, I'm not sure that I'm right.

It was a big problem that a part of Oz wanted Veruca more than Willow. Sex is a very important part of romance.

Oz's escalating attraction to Veruca did made him more distant from Willow. He's completely inattentive and unconcerned with her feelings in Beer Bad and Wild at Heart, uninterested in how Willow feels uncomfortable watching Oz lust after another girl in front of Willow or how Veruca is rude to Willow ("Oh how fun! A groupie!"). He leaves Willow alone with Veruca at lunch in the patio in the university.

After Night 1 as a Werewolf, Oz refused sex with Willow after she deliberately tried seducing him. He was worried that she'd see the scratches on him. But then, Oz wanted sex so much with Veruca that he called Veruca that evening to come on over. That's a clear sexual choice and the Girlfriend came out the loser.

Willow really had cause to believe that she was losing Oz. Willow *does* have codependency issues where she feels that she and her SO need to be completely attached. Her admission that she flogs and punishes herself when she so much thinks about another guy was problematic. However, Oz's behavior in Beer Bad and Wild at Heart was universally bad. Every possible girlfriend would be pissed.

 

[Deus Ex Machina]

It was a big problem that a part of Oz wanted Veruca more than Willow. Sex is a very important part of romance.

Oz's escalating attraction to Veruca did made him more distant from Willow. He's completely inattentive and unconcerned with her feelings in Beer Bad and Wild at Heart, uninterested in how Willow feels uncomfortable watching Oz lust after another girl in front of Willow or how Veruca is rude to Willow ("Oh how fun! A groupie!"). He leaves Willow alone with Veruca at lunch in the patio in the university.

After Night 1 as a Werewolf, Oz refused sex with Willow after she deliberately tried seducing him. He was worried that she'd see the scratches on him. But then, Oz wanted sex so much with Veruca that he called Veruca that evening to come on over. That's a clear sexual choice and the Girlfriend came out the loser.

Willow really had cause to believe that she was losing Oz. Willow *does* have codependency issues where she feels that she and her SO need to be completely attached. Her admission that she flogs and punishes herself when she so much thinks about another guy was problematic. However, Oz's behavior in Beer Bad and Wild at Heart was universally bad. Every possible girlfriend would be pissed.

Ahh okay. I kept thinking "wanted her in an animal way" meant something else. Or like, Oz didn't want Willow in a sexual way or see her in a sexual light. I thought "What, that's weird. They obviously have sex!"

I knew how Willow felt somehow on an emotional level, but I couldn't put it into words.