Yeah I do agree that Angelus and Dre had profound inflences on Spike. I think than the characters days as William is important to what Spike becomes too though, as it explains why he is a much more sensitive and melodramatic vampire at times.
Darla said it - who we are defines who we become. Actually William was far more sedate. But he had all the sensitivity and melodrama he needed to be a good poet. Sadly, he lacked the talent.
So without Angelus I think Spike would've been different. I think he thrived on having to prove himself against a father/brother figure like that (he clearly didn't have a strong father figure in his human life) and I think that explains part of why the Angelus/Spike dynamic is so interesting.
Angelus gave him the constant message that he wasn't good enough, which was what William had carried all his life. I agree, he used that to train Spike just as he use pain to train Dru. It's why I see them as having a sexual relationship. There is no way in hell, in a demonic setting, that the Alpha male is not going to dominate the Beta sexually. Of course, the Beta is equally dominant in that it is he who controls the pleasure. Or so I've been told by someone in that sort of relationship.
But if Angelus was not hanging around then Darla would have made Spike into the new 'Angelus'
Not the right material - Angel was filled with anger before he was changed, and his anger manifested in Angelus. Spike was filled with insecurity and emotion - he tried to become the opposite of William.
That's because she had Angelus and after Angelus left he had already 'made' Spike so he was tolerable to her. That's why he (William the Vampire) wanted nothing to do with them at first and wanted to lure Dru away from them.. so that he could remain who he was; with Dru and his mum.
I love Dru - You want to bring your mum with us? As a snack?
Dru was molded by Angel, she craved pain and missed things only Angel could supply.
Without Angel teaching Spike how to be a proper monster and challenging him he'd still would have to find ways to impress her. He isn't stupid, he'd find slayers or other things to kill to woe Dru. Besides he has his own demon that craves destruction and carnage.
Let's not equal Spike being sentimental and romantic with Spike being harmless.
Yes - but Harmony also killed for the years between getting sired and working for W&H - not harmless (pun intended) either. I agree that cosseting Dru, raiding orphanages and picking up the occasional street urchin would definitely have been part of daily life. I don't think killing slayers was to impress Dru. In fact, I think it was to impress (his inner) Angelus. He proved he was good enough, even better than Angelus. And he wanted the best fight possible.
My question isn't whether Spike would be harmless (dammit - that word again!) but would he be Spike as we know him. Would he have thrown himself into orgies of carnage, thinking it was a party? It's not whether he would be a monster but what sort of monster he would be. Harmony - having been a mass murderer - is also a monster, but a different sort of monster. The one thing that she and Spike seem to have in common is that they both have an unusual amount of humanity left - though Harmony has far more and is more functional in a human setting. That's my question right there - since Spike blamed his becoming a monster (and I'm assuming that isn't just killing to feed) on Angelus - would he still be Spike without the effort Angelus put into making him a monster
Dru had a thing killing kids and Spike had absolutely no qualms hunting with her in orphanages. Complaining that Angel made him a monster is deluding himself.
Angel just gave him the intensive course, he'd have reached similar results in no time.
It could well be - though I really think a lot of what he did to become who he is was done to impress or refute Angelus. Yes, living with Dru would have put him well beyond the Harmony stage - but I don't think it would have made him "second only to Angelus". Dru had the need to be cossetted and cared for - and William was a sucker for that. I see that as having been part of his life with his mum, a human trait that he carried over. But the Spike we see with Dru, before Angelus starts to show him his place and teach him to be a monster, is very different from the vampire he became, IMO