Xander's true love

I wouldn't say they where each others true love because that implies romantic implications and also taht xander is willows true loves when we all know its tara. They have an unconditional love for each other but only as friends. There thing in series 3 was lust not love and my own personal theory for why that happened is divine intervention i.e. jasmine cant control love so made them lust for one another leading to the breakdown of xander and cordys love relationship meaning it was easier for cordy to go to L.A. because she had noone to stay for
 
I agree with a lot of people here when I say that I don't think that Willow and Xander have true love between them. I think that they have a platonic love between them, and that's it. Their bond goes way beyond a romantic relationship. I think the Season Three thing was a fluke, they only lusted after each other because they weren't supposed to. The only kissed a couple of times, it doesn't make them soulmates or anything. Forbidden fruit is the sweetest, and all that. I don't think they ever loved each other like that, or ever will. I think Anya was Xander's true love, even though things didn't work out between them. And I think Tara was Willow's true love. But I do think that Willow and Xander will grow old together. 🙂
 
In an episode of Babylon 5, one character admitted he loved another, but that it was a spirtual love. I think that is what Xander and Willow have.

They have been friends for so long, they have gone through so much and they would risk their lives and die for each other. They have the perfect loving relationship, but one that could never become physical.

I think they are soulmates in the same way (for those that have read the Anita Blake books) that Anita and Edward are. Without the whole "trying to kill each other" thing.
 
phoenixrising said:
In an episode of Babylon 5, one character admitted he loved another, but that it was a spirtual love. I think that is what Xander and Willow have.

I think he was lying. He later tried to kill her husband LOL I think it was more lusty than he let on at first LOL. But I do agree that's what Xander and Willow have, she is kinda gay now.
 
I rooted for Xander and Willow to get together lots of the time but then I loved Willow and Oz together and when he left I was all..well Xander swoop in and be the knight in shiney armor! And then he got together with Anya and I loved those two together. So now I just see Xander and Willow as being the closest friends of all in the show. And that those two will be best friends,together forever! 😀
 
An interesting concept for sure. To be fair I always thought Xander was much more romantic or sensitive than he was portrayed. But as he was portrayed he never had a soulmate or a true love. He had ignored the love and when he wanted to acknowledge and was about to announce it, he discovered that he had lost it and had a rival and never persuaded it. [Willow] On the otherhand, to the last minute he was beside someone whom rejected it with him long ago and never stalked her like some did and when necessary he gave full support, he was devoted. [Buffy] If Xander had true love, I have two options; Willow and Buffy and since Buffy made it clear that they are an impossible match whereas Willow DİDN'T, I still believe mutual care and devotion is still there in the picture. So, Willow.
 
I do agree that they have a strong friendship and that will probably remain... although I'm not actually as sure as whether it's as strong as everyone thinks. Course, it's just fanfic, but unintentionally, in my works, Willow and Xander seem to be groing apart, and I don't write this on purpose, it's just something that happens, which makes me wonder whether their bond is unbreakable.

I certainly don't think there's anything romantical (left) between Willow and Xander... they were in their puberty and best friends (f/m) end up falling in love quite often during their puberty... it's just something that happens. I don't read anything more into it.
 
No doubt in my mind he loved Anya most. But he had a close relationship with Willow, not the kind of love he had with Anya, and he also loved Buffy very much, but also, not like Anya.
 
as some have said, though some have not, its anya. only anya. she is the one he loves. :: red ::

willow and he had a love, but it was more of a sweet, friends-forever love. he and cordy maybe could've had a love, but she broke up with him too soon, then left, so i dont think what they had had enough time to develop into love. and if she came back after anya, then forget it. he loves anya too much.
 
I second JustAnnie. I could make a huge post about it, but I'm 100 % sure that Xander's soulmate and true love was Willow, by far. The bad thing was that the romance did not happen, but it could have happened. I think he never really loved Anya.
 
im not sure i want to admit to thinking it could be possible for xander's true love to be willow, just because i am a full-on xanya shipper and believe they truly loved each other. xander & willow have a really special relationship. they have a history that nobody, not even anya, could touch. they DO love each other unconditionally, but i think that comes from being life-long friends. which is why xander was willing to sacrifice his own life at the end of season 6 we he went up against big bad willow, if it came to that. the problem with xander is that he wants what he can't have... so eventually he'll just move on to something else, but he'll also continue to hold some feelings towards it. so with willow, once their little liaison occurred in s3, he probably kept some romantic interest in her for a while, but that eventually died out

(and i think what i just said above came out as a complete ramble and probably doesnt make sense at all, and probably contradicts itself too. eh, i have too many thoughts to get them all down coherently...)
 
i agree that will and xander will always be together yeah.. but not romantically. i've always thought that yeah you have soulmates in life but they aren't always sexual/meant to be romantic. i have many friends that i mold to so well that i couldn't bear to live without them. xan and willow definitely are not meant to be apart, ever.
 
I think if we're talking romantic love, then it was Anya. No doubt in my mind. The things he said to her and about her. That was some powerful love, even if it was a little wacky.

Willow is a very good friend. Like family. I think it very likely that they will grow old together, but not in a romantic sort of way. Like GH's Carly and Jason. Or, like someone else said, Dawson's Creek's Dawson and Joey. In TV land, at least, it is possible to have platonic friends of the opposite sex -- even if you've had a sexual relationship in the past. Sometimes, a relationship reaches a point at which sex would seem almost incestuous. I think Xander and Willow have reached that point.

Dawn? Well, yeah. I can see that. Maybe down the line some when Dawn is older. She could be his next love.

Who says you can only love once? Why can there be only one "true" love? I think it is perfectly possible for Anya to have been his greatest love to date, but for someone else to come along and marry him and have a great relationship. He's young yet, people!
 
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As of yet its Anya, no question, but I agree with what PAL said about him and Willow and I'm still holing out on them bringing Cordy back and them getting a happily ever after!
 
I both agree and disagree...him and Willow have such an amazing friendship which at first I wanted them to be together but I so much adore Xander and Anya, in my opinion they are soulmates!!

I was watching Triangle the other day and it shows Xander has such a great relationship with Willow and such a loving fun and upbeat relationship with Anya that he can't decided between them and he refused to choose between one to be killed. But no, Anya and Xander forever! <3

Xander and Anya were meant for each other!
 
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