Well I'm not defending the comics but
@Grace is right and I think thats the right interpretation. It's just confusing because the comics are tough to read sometimes and I worry I'm injecting my persona biases in them. But Buffy definitely admitted she had conflicting feelings. Angel does say he doesn't think it will last. But - at the same time there are so so many things that are just cringeworthy.
The way that Buffy brings Spike in to show Angel they are dating. The way they draw Angel at the end with a panel of Buffy and Spike fawning over each other. I just don't think show Buffy would ever do that. I wish I had the panels but I'm on my phone.