No Angel said:
I was walking home with my friends. They invited their friend who I can't stand. He pisses me off all the way home so eventually the side of his face makes contact with my P.E. bag (filled with my size 11 shoes). He's eyes then start watering and he tries to start a fight. Keep in mind we are currently standing in the middle of the road. I tell him to p*ss off and turn round. The bugger then kicks me hard on the side of the chest. I turn round, throw him onto the pavement and give him two kicks to the sides of his chest and two punches. He goes down and we stay still for a while. I decide to try and act mature and extend my hand to help him up. He then takes my hand and dislocates my thumb! I elbow him twice and broke his nose. Now his is trying to say I started the fight and he wants me to apologize. Naturally I won't but I feel like asking what you think.
No way should you apologize for something you don't believe you did. Whether its right or not, if you don't feel like saying sorry, then you don't have to. There's no law against this, especially if he did start the fight. Although as Cordelia mentioned above, you could apologize for saying sorry about hitting him with the bag, but once he makes that first hit... its self defense.
Dà¡Nió said:
I have a friend lets call her 'man stealer'.. well she is one of my best friends well was.. kind of. Well man stealer stole one of my friends boyfriends, she is a bit*h, she always has to be center of attention, she is fake, she is patronizing, she always has to be the loudest,funniest,drunkness basically be better than everyone else. When she stole my friends boyfriend we all fell out with her and we all suppressed that we did not like her. we all made back up with her and know one even likes her.. now im beginning to not hang around with her as much because well i dont like her, but all of the rest of my friends still do and im like well aint that just being mean to her you say you dont like her yet you remain her friend. if you dont like someone you just dont hang around with them, what ya think?
In the words (or more like word to be exact) of Buffy, "Ho" (Season 2, Episode 22, Becoming Part II). If you don't feel comfortable hanging around someone, or if you simply just don't like their ass, then your not obligated to hang out with them. Especially if they might potentially steal someone your romantically involved with later on. Everyone has a friend who has a friend that they hate. Its the law of Friendship. Really, not lying. I wouldn't ask you to confront this person, because Comma don't like confrontation unless your really pissed or you know you can smack the ***** down. But if this person acts like she did before, your friends will see who she is. You decide who you hang out with and don't be subjected to hours of torture just because you don't want to let them know you don't like her.
Kindred said:
Dear Cordelia and Comma;
There's this girl, one girl into every gener... Wait, wrong girl. *Eghm* So, this girl, let's call her, um, Joan. Well, Joan recently acquired a roommate. At first things between Joan and her roommate were going along swimmingly. This was mostly because Joan was trying so very hard to ensure that her new roommate, let's call her Chantarelle, was comfortable in her new environment. Joan thinks that perhaps she may have made Chantarelle too comfortable as Chantarelle now thinks that she doesn't really have to help out at all or to consult Joan on anything at all. This is very upsetting to, uh, Joan because Joan always makes a special point of considering Chantarelle's feelings and comfort and for none of this to be reciprocated makes Joan feel rather devalued as a friend and a person in general. So tell me, oh sage ones, what should Joan do?
On a side note, Joan also has this cat, Xander, who can be rather naughty sometimes. He likes to eat the couch you see and Joan doesn't know how to make him stop doing this. What would you recommend?
I believe Joan should have a sit down and tell her roommate, lets just call her mushroom because I can't keep typing Chantarelle over and over again without making some sort of spelling error, because otherwise, Joan will be forced with making all the decisions and doing all the work. And Joan doesn't deserve that. 50/50 is how it should work. It would probably be best to present this to her in a positive light, being friendly, but not too friendly. And make sure she helps out after your little talk. Joan doesn't deserve to have someone walk all over her.
Utopia said:
Dear Comma and Cordelia,
Let's say I have this friend ... hypothetically ... this friend, who has a bad drinking problem. Like really bad. I mean, he's probably not an alcoholic, but he definitely has a problem. So let's say, hypothetically of course, this friend of mine was totally and completely wasted one night and sort of got into a situation with my girlfriend (who was also under the influence), in a not-so-appropriate way. Should I confront them about this, considering that neither one of them remember this? Or should I just chalk it all up to them both being totally drunk?
-Confused in Los Angeles
Dear Confused in Los Angeles (Damn now I sound like Ann Landers),
The first thing that came to mind was, A drunk girls words are a sober girls thoughts, but that may not be entirely true. You see this could have been a reflection of what they really felt inside, but its most likely not. They probably, in the passion of drunkenness, got lost in the moment. But this definitely should result in a conference between the three of you (I suggest 2 separate talks, one with your friend and one with your hunny), just to see if there's not any residual feelings. You may experience some anger over this, but that's not uncommon. You have every right to be pissed. But I think once you find the real meaning behind this little tryst, then I think everything will come into play.
