I voted for Angel because I remember that Angel's death hit me on the first view, I was all shaking and silent for a while. But now when I re-watch this episode, I'm pretty stoic actually.
Same goes for Jenny, and the scene with Giles didn't make me as sad on the first view, even though I find it very cruel; heart-breaking when Willow finds out; shocking when Angel actually kills her. I didn't vote for her though.
To me, "The Body" is the best episode in both shows. That's why I voted also for Joyce's death, more for the idea of Joyce dying, and for the great episode, than for the actual end of her life, because I think it was kind of meant to be, in the context of the season... Plus, I don't see how Buffy could have grown the way she has if she hadn't had to take all these responsibilites.
Buffy's second death is terrible too, so I also voted for Buff, but I think it's undermined by her imminent ressurection (I watched the show after it aired, so I knew she was gonna come back). It makes me more depressed when I imagined that could have been the end of the show, the end of the character. It would have been more upsetting and also very true to the character.
Anya's death was shocking. It hit me and haunted me for days after "Chosen". I don't know what else to say.
Tara would come second : "Your shirt?" Need I say more ?! I love this character. It was all so horrible.
But the death that stroke me the most is Fred's. "Why can't I stay ?" OMG. I mean, OMG. And the part at the end of the following episode when you see her going to L.A., it's just cruel. I mean it. Cruel. I loved Fred. It's cruel. The way she just dies and everyone insists on the fact that Illyria burned everything that made Fred Fred, you know she hasn't gone out to a happy place... It's the hardest death in that: you know there won't be Heaven for her who deserved it the most.
1. Fred
2. Tara
3. Anya
4. Buffy
5. Joyce
6. Angel
(7. Jenny)
As for Doyle, I really liked this character but I thought his death was rushed, I felt like they had to get rid of the actor and just had an episode centered around him and killed him. Pretty much like Betty in Dead like me. I know that Joss said it wasn't like that but I find it hard to believe.
Cordelia huuuh... I think it could have been really upsetting but noone cared about her death, we get what, one phone call, and one line from Angel three episodes after ? And though I love how they all fight to cure Fred, I think it's hard to believe they were never that invested about Cordelia.
And Spike, hmmm... Don't really care actually, I thought it was too predictable, ooh let's have the character adored by half our audience die a heroic death on the final episode! Meh. Besides, how weird and unsatisfying was his last scene with Buffy ? Written in a way so Bangel fans could say "HAHA! She doesn't love her, Spike just said so" and Spuffy fans could say "HAHA! She loves her, she just said so" ?! Way to take a stand, Joss.
Wesley's death for me was totally wasted by the fact I got spoiled about it like 30 minutes before watching the episode. Besides, I think it's perverted how Illyria turns to Fred and "lies", it's disrespectful to Fred, according to me.
I'll stop talking now.