Do you want kids, and how much?

[VisionGirl]

I always wanted kids, I loved children. I babysat a lot growing up. I've worked with kids for 17 years now. I have 3 kids, all boys. And no, we won't be having anymore. I get a lot of questions about "trying for that girl" but I always tell people that even if I had a girl (which is unlikely, I seriously think my DH can only give me boys LOL), I would still have three boys, it's not like I can trade one in. 😀

However I have to say that the decision that our youngest was to be the last one was kind of hard for me. I love, love, love babies, & every time DS3 has gone through a new stage (when he finished breastfeeding or grew out of the crib or put the baby clothes away) it's been a little bit like grieving. I've often thought about fostering babies, just don't really have the time & energy right now. I even thought about changing professions (to a lactation consultant, birth doula or midwife) to be around moms & babies, but I have such a good thing going with my job that I don't think I will. I do have to say that I don't miss the multiple night-wakings! 🙂

I can't see myself wanting kids during my twenties, maybe not even during my thirties. From what I can see and have been told by parents, the older and wiser you are having kids, the better you will be at parenting and the happier they will be for your wisdom and experience.

I think this is true, however at 41, my biggest feeling is how tired I am! Pregnancy at 39 was completely different from pregnancy at 32, and I'm sure it would've been even different if I had had kids in my 20s. But DH & I didn't meet until I was 28, so what're you gonna do?

Being a parent is the most awesome, terrifying, challenging, fun, and exhausting thing I've ever done in my life!

 

[Raiys]

It changes...
I used to want one kid before I was 30, but now I'm leaning towards no kids at all...
I just don't see it happening for me, nor do I want it to at this moment.
But I've been through a bad breakup and it's been dragging on for a loooooong time. So I think that's probably coloring my judgement right now...

I might change my mind and even now I'd find it sad that my parents wouldn't have grandchildren to pamper.(I don't have any brothers or sisters)

Let's just stick to: it won't happen for a while

 

[Chosen Enemy]

When I was little, I planned my kids' names (which today really bother me). I never really thought to myself "I want kids". But about 4 years ago, I've made my decision. I don't want any kids. I don't want the responatility, the waking up at night, I don't want to be pregnant and have the baby, take care of a child, hear them scream and cry, making a mess in the house. I just don't want to devote myself to a little person.

Besides that, I don't like kids, I don't connect with them. I don't know how to act around them, hold them, even talk to them, or play with them. I'm not comfortable with them. I've never even held a baby in my arms, I simply cannot.

I much prefer my dog. She is like a daughter to me. And that's enough for me. Dogs I do like.

When I mentioned it to my mum about a year ago, she called me crazy, and thought that all women want children. And those who don't are stupid and not normal. I've tried to explain her that there are women in the world who don't want kids, and that's okay. She just can't undertand that. Many people think that all women want kids. Well, not today.

I even asked my brother not to have kids so I don't become an aunt. It's horrible, I know, but I don't click with them and really don't wanna be a mom or an aunt.

 

[girlonfire]

[Doctor Who reference for any fan who has seen the Christmas Special, but it's still true]

I want to name my future son Kazran.
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[randiann]

Yep! I've got kids!!! And loads of them!

I'm only 24, so I'm probably one of the youngest parents on here. My two oldest are my step boys, and they are 10 and 5 (my hubby is 33, so he's a bit older than me and married before). My youngest is my only biological (living) child, and he's 4. I started young. REALLY young. Sometimes I wish I waited, but knowing that I have been able to accomplish graduating college while raising a baby is one of the things I am proudest of. Just wish his biological father wasn't a complete douche.


That being said, my hubby is the best father I could ever wish for him to have. He's totally stepped up and been there (since D was one year old). I do not recommend having kids before you are ready though. I would have loved to wait till I was about 23-25 (about my age now), but life sometimes throws you funny curve balls. It all works out.

No more biological kids for us, but I would love to adopt about 5-10 years down the road. I want about 5 more kids. I love kids.

 

[MRNewman]

Yep! I've got kids!!! And loads of them!

I'm only 24, so I'm probably one of the youngest parents on here. My two oldest are my step boys, and they are 10 and 5 (my hubby is 33, so he's a bit older than me and married before). My youngest is my only biological (living) child, and he's 4. I started young. REALLY young. Sometimes I wish I waited, but knowing that I have been able to accomplish graduating college while raising a baby is one of the things I am proudest of. Just wish his biological father wasn't a complete douche.


That being said, my hubby is the best father I could ever wish for him to have. He's totally stepped up and been there (since D was one year old). I do not recommend having kids before you are ready though. I would have loved to wait till I was about 23-25 (about my age now), but life sometimes throws you funny curve balls. It all works out.

No more biological kids for us, but I would love to adopt about 5-10 years down the road. I want about 5 more kids. I love kids.

That's a lot of kids! My parents had 3 biological children (myself included) and then adopted my youngest 5 siblings. Adoption is an awesome option!

 

[fly on the wall]

I want kids very much. One day. I'm twenty right now, so yeah, definitely not planning 'em any time soon. But yes, I've wanted to be a mom for as long as I can remember.

I want at least two. Ideally, I want to have one or two biologically, and adopt/foster more. (This obviously depends a lot on my finances and stuff, you know, once I'm a grown-up.)

 

[MandaMeena]

I want kids, but since I don't even plan on getting married until I'm 30, I'll have to shoot em out rapid-fire-like! 😉 Part of me wants only a couple, but then there's that Italian in me that wants to find the nearest hot Italian stallion and make lots of little Italian babies. Oh, those poor kids. They are gonna be soooo messed up! hahaha!

 

[VisionGirl]

Angels baby101 agrees: lol yeah what I meant to say was... Before my pregnancy with Jonathan, a year before I was pregnant I lost the baby 6 weeks in though I didn't know till i was 12 weeks. I had a d&c exactly a year and 2 days before Jonathan was born on june 30th of 08

Oh, I'm so sorry AB. 🙁 I had a miscarriage between #1 and #2. I saw the heartbeat at 9 wks, then I lost it at 11 wks. Found out I was PG with #2 around the time I would've been due with the baby I lost.

When I mentioned it to my mum about a year ago, she called me crazy, and thought that all women want children. And those who don't are stupid and not normal. I've tried to explain her that there are women in the world who don't want kids, and that's okay. She just can't undertand that. Many people think that all women want kids. Well, not today.

I think that's so true. While I can't relate to it because I've always wanted kids, there are people in my life who don't want to be parents nor will they. But, they're awesome aunts & uncles, so you never know! 😉 I do also recognize that peoples' desires can change either way, and that's their perogative. It's your life, not anybody else's.

 

[caitaintdead]

I definitely want to have a child one day, but only if I can find someone that I really want to settle down with. I was going to be trying to get pregnant next year, so this is a weird discussion for me to be having I guess...

I always wanted kids before I was 26-27ish and the old clock is ticking away. I still haven't really met anyone that I want to be with and I guess I want to be single for another 6 months. That means I'll be 24 before I meet anyone, then I'd want to date before getting married for 2 years so I'll be 26, then a year to plan the wedding, and I'm 27, then a year before I have a baby and I'm 28 🙁 Life plans are out the window already, and that's assuming I meet someone in the next year...

Wow, for such a happy topic this came out kinda depressing in the end didn't it?! Woops!

And a girl or a boy would be fine, but I'd like to have a boy I think so there is a higher chance I'll have someone to talk football/cricket with over a pint at the pub! I like the name James for a boy and Siobhan for a girl.

 

[caitaintdead]

Sha-vorn is the proper way.

 

[Elfangor]

At 24 I have been thinking about my future...I think I am gonna be much better off with cats then kids but you never know what the future could hold!

 

[sisterofmercy]

I never want kids. Ever. I may foster some at some point, but I'd never physically have them.