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carlyh

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really hurts, i thought the guy liked me, turns out he was only after one things, once he got it, no sign. no replies to my calls or txts, i just feel really let down and angry. Has anyone else ever been used like this? How did you feel? And what did you do to feel better about it?
 
I'm sorry Carlyh!! that really sux! hate people like that!
i can't really remember being in that situation.. well not a situation quite like that. but i liked this guy once and he exploited that.. luckly for me nothing happend!! well nothing i regreted, but it did hurt alot!still i'm sorry it happend to you! it's not a very good feeling!

the best advice i can give(and it might not be that good and it might not make the hurt go away, but still: )You should just act what you are and that's BETTER THAN HIM! Cause if he treats you like dirt, he is a chunck crapola himself! and you should just rise abow him! and ignore the little *BLEEEP*.
(i'm sorry i'm not much help!! i hope someone has better things to come with!)
 
polexia said:
I'm sorry Carlyh!! that really sux! hate people like that!
i can't really remember being in that situation.. well not a situation quite like that. but i liked this guy once and he exploited that.. luckly for me nothing happend!! well nothing i regreted, but it did hurt alot!still i'm sorry it happend to you! it's not a very good feeling!

the best advice i can give(and it might not be that good and it might not make the hurt go away, but still: )You should just act what you are and that's BETTER THAN HIM! Cause if he treats you like dirt, he is a chunck crapola himself! and you should just rise abow him! and ignore the little *BLEEEP*.
(i'm sorry i'm not much help!! i hope someone has better things to come with!)
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yes thankyou, i definetly know i am a better person than him, i could never ever lead someone on like that and just exploit them for their own personal needs.
 
I've kinda been in a situation like that. I went out with this guy and we slept together on the first date... He was my first. It didn't last very long... about 2 weeks... and then he broke up with me. I kinda felt used... but I didn't hold it against him cos I knew exactly what he wanted and I was stupid for not making him wait. I wanted the same as him at the time... but I wanted it to be more than just sex. I know how you feel i guess... but in a different way.

Sorry to hear that you've been treated that way... It's not nice.
 
That is a really horrible thing to have happened to you..a friend of mine has been in a situation like this and i remember her being devastated...it was hard for her,and Im sorry you had to go through it.
 
elmo said:
I've kinda been in a situation like that. I went out with this guy and we slept together on the first date... He was my first. It didn't last very long... about 2 weeks... and then he broke up with me. I kinda felt used... but I didn't hold it against him cos I knew exactly what he wanted and I was stupid for not making him wait. I wanted the same as him at the time... but I wanted it to be more than just sex. I know how you feel i guess... but in a different way.

Sorry to hear that you've been treated that way... It's not nice.
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you summed it up in one there i think, near enough the same situation too
 
A big 'YES I HAVE BEEN THERE DONE THAT!' It made me feel really horrible, like i was some cheap jumped up tart. i'm so sorry its hapened to you cos i know how bad it makes you feel but trust me IT GETS BETTER (though you must be fed up with that). The way i got over it was to just go out woth my mates al the time & get in2 the swing of thins.
 
Hate to break it you ladies, but guys aren't the only offenders to use people. I have been used several times by girls who just wanted to get laid, after that I wouldn't have even heard from them. It sucks, but it's a fact of life that there are people out there (in both sexes) that are out for one thing
 
GIRLS? Do that? Yeah your roght they do because i know them lol
 
Guestage_87 said:
Hate to break it you ladies, but guys aren't the only offenders to use people. I have been used several times by girls who just wanted to get laid, after that I wouldn't have even heard from them. It sucks, but it's a fact of life that there are people out there (in both sexes) that are out for one thing
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yeah that's true i know one or two! i'm not one my self, but people have talked behind my back and they used to say that i was easy to fool and stuff on this matter, but girls are as much in for things like this as guys in some places... and in the situations they were refering to it was all mutual...(even though we never acually slept together, people only thought that we did... but does people aren't the brightest 😉)

but yeah. girls can be as bad as boys, just most people don't expirience it! so I'm sorry you met a girl like that!!!
 
Actually, I met many girls like that, most girls I have had any interest in were like that. I think I'm just really really unlucky when it comes to that area.
 
Thanks for all the support people, i feel a little better, plus as they say, a problem shared is a problem halfed, well at least a problem a bit less neway. Talking about it has definetly helped i hate to have things bottled up inside, they eat away at you.
 
Im so glad someone started a thread like this as i was gonna start one myself...this happend to me on saturday..it started off one day i was watching the tv and saw this guy on there that i really liked...so i looked him up online and found out he lives in my area and does kickboxing up the road from where i live, (im not a stalker honest) he is quite famous over here but im not going to mention name's.. anyway on his profile there was an email address to contact his trainer so i emailed him just asking weather this guy still trained there or not...anyway a couple of days later i got a reply from his trainer saying "i told him that you emailed and he wants to know has he met you as he's intrigued" so i replied and said no but here's my number and sent a picture and said ask him if he wants to go out for a drink!! never in a million years did i think he would call but saturday morning he text me and asked to meet me...so we met up saturday night i couldnt believe i was out with a tv star and he was getting recognised by all the girls it was an amazing feeling..and he kept holding my hand and putting his arms around me when we were at the bar so all the girls knew he was with me and he didnt look at anyone but me all night.. and in his situation he has to be careful who he's seen with so that was a huge compliment to me...we had an amazing time and got on so well then the conversation turned to sex and we were both quite drunk at this point...but anyway to cut an already long story short we had sex..then the next morning i text him...no reply so i thought right im not going to keep texting him...but later on that night i did text him again just saying thanks for last night hope u got home ok etc and just put at the end, look even if we never see each other again at least reply to let me know your still alive..and i got a reply...basically saying yeah im ok, thanks for last night too had a really nice time and he said "you should be more positive and he put a kiss at the end.
We had arranged to go out on my birthday in a couple of weeks when we met, so i replied back to that saying are you still up for going out on my birthday?...that was like 24 hours ago and he hasnt replied...so i havent got a clue weather ive been used, dumped or weather he does like me and i will see him again...i know its only been 24 hours but thats a long time for me and its not like we are going out with each other it was just one date...what do you guys think? ive been so depressed today as i dont know what to do heeeellllp!! ::crying::
 
Well dont think i am lol, i was careful. This would be a right kick in the guts if i was.

Akasha said:
Im so glad someone started a thread like this as i was gonna start one myself...this happend to me on saturday..it started off one day i was watching the tv and saw this guy on there that i really liked...so i looked him up online and found out he lives in my area and does kickboxing up the road from where i live, (im not a stalker honest) he is quite famous over here but im not going to mention name's.. anyway on his profile there was an email address to contact his trainer so i emailed him just asking weather this guy still trained there or not...anyway a couple of days later i got a reply from his trainer saying "i told him that you emailed and he wants to know has he met you as he's intrigued" so i replied and said no but here's my number and sent a picture and said ask him if he wants to go out for a drink!! never in a million years did i think he would call but saturday morning he text me and asked to meet me...so we met up saturday night i couldnt believe i was out with a tv star and he was getting recognised by all the girls it was an amazing feeling..and he kept holding my hand and putting his arms around me when we were at the bar so all the girls knew he was with me and he didnt look at anyone but me all night.. and in his situation he has to be careful who he's seen with so that was a huge compliment to me...we had an amazing time and got on so well then the conversation turned to sex and we were both quite drunk at this point...but anyway to cut an already long story short we had sex..then the next morning i text him...no reply so i thought right im not going to keep texting him...but later on that night i did text him again just saying thanks for last night hope u got home ok etc and just put at the end, look even if we never see each other again at least reply to let me know your still alive..and i got a reply...basically saying yeah im ok, thanks for last night too had a really nice time and he said "you should be more positive and he put a kiss at the end.
We had arranged to go out on my birthday in a couple of weeks when we met, so i replied back to that saying are you still up for going out on my birthday?...that was like 24 hours ago and he hasnt replied...so i havent got a clue weather ive been used, dumped or weather he does like me and i will see him again...i know its only been 24 hours but thats a long time for me and its not like we are going out with each other it was just one date...what do you guys think? ive been so depressed today as i dont know what to do heeeellllp!! ::crying::
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I know the feeling love, it hurts doonit? All i can say is at least you got a reply to your txt, i sent one this morning just asking him for the truth and that he owed me that much, but so far no joy. I so need to forget about him.And i think you need to aswell, well at least your was Famous!!!! lol
 
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