Who's Pearl and what time period did he sleep with her in? (I've not read any of the comics).
Not sure. Pearl & Nash have been around since the 1930's I think (they're half-demons).
The reason I remember their encounter is that its specifically shown in a flashback in Spike: A Dark Place (A spinoff set during Buffy S9)
The Angelus thing came out of left field, they'd been no hint of it at all before Angel season 5, as for where it falls on the scale of intimacy
I tend to doubt it as well but its there in the dialogue. I tend to think Spike has too many issues with masculinity to have a fling with a guy, but there it is.
Again, its about what you consider 'cheating'. What would Drusilla consider cheating? We know that she slept with both Angelus and Darla on separate occasions, I think she'd be pleased that her family is, uh, 'getting along very well' lets say.
Vampires have different morals to humans, that extents to things like killing, eating and, no doubt, sexuality in relationships.
Spike finishes his sentence of "I haven't had a woman in weeks" with "unless you count that shopkeeper".
Okay. Fair enough, so he was talking about feeding.
To me, having Spike being a rapist doesn't make sense because of the role he plays in the series.
Putting aside the vampire aspect, Spike is meant to be a hero,
Spike is merely a male protagonist (one of several), which isn't the same thing as being a 'hero'. The show is about Buffy and her friends, it doesn't have a main male 'hero' character really. The closest they had was Angel (who became a villain for a while in S2) and he had to be written out shipped off to his own show so he could be a hero-type over there.
Spike was merely a 'romantic interest' in S6 and 7 and had for a long time been a murky shade of morality. People can (and have) debated about what emotions Buffy felt for Spike but basically it can be argued that (as always) Buffy tries to see the best in people that are attempting to better themselves (this isn't always the case but it applies to Spike I think).
That is why she can have feelings for somebody who- once upon a time- killed and ate and no doubt raped lots of very nice people. She did exactly the same thing with Angel. She even saw some of his handiwork- Drusilla, and yet she still undoubtedly loved him very much.
Can I ask: why is the rape thing a problem when we're talking about a demon who has slaughtered thousands? Killed men, women, children, two champions of good (slayers) and has left untold misery in his wake.
Why is it so hard to believe that he'd do this one particular crime- especially from what the viewer sees in S6. Vampires do what they want, when they want it- whether its shown or not, the only things they care about are their emotional attachments (which are always other vampires or people they intent to sire) and survival.
I mean, is it so unlikely that Drusilla might want to 'play' with her food and for Spike to join in? Would he refuse her? I somehow doubt it.
Even if 'Seeing Red' hadn't happened I'd just assume that Spike, being an evil vampire of note, had often done what he wanted to whatever victim crossed his path. That includes rape.
And I'm not talking about S7 Spike here but the demon; the monster not the man. They may have similarities but at the end of the day they have a very different moral code (I hope) and saying that one did these things does not make the other responsible.
You can root for and hope that S7 Spike is okay without 'endorsing' any or all of the crimes that he did. Hell, how could anybody watch 5 seasons of Angel when that's the guy who did all that horrible stuff? It's because of that change in behavior and/or morality. What they
choose to do after.