Incest!

elmo said:
Ok, hun. That's really nice of you. The same goes to you, ok? I like listening to people's problems. It kinda helps me to get my head round my own, you know?

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I know exactly what you mean...you give advice to other people but at the same time your kinda advising yourself??

*hugs back*

Anyway we should get back on topic so everyone can join in or before we get told off 😀
 
I know that some of you may find this weird, but I don't believe in "falling" in love. And everyone says, "you can't help who you fall in love with". But I believe that love is a choice. Which is also one reason I think why so many people divorce now, because everyone is enveloped in this belief that you fall in love. If you really think about it, you'll understand how you can choose to love someone, keep loving, and choose not to love someone as well. Like your sibling... I would hope you could choose not to love them, cause thats just sick.
 
OMG! Akasha, I am so sorry that had to happen to you! That shouldn't have to happen to anyone......( I am so getting ready to cry now ) I don't really think that the whole brother marryin sister thing is right, but I guess that it is their decision (sp) ........again akasha, I am so sorry! I once read in a magazine that this one girls dad did stuff to her, then she finally broke down and told her mom, her mom believed her, but no one else did....(parents were divorced already) it is sad when no one will believe the truth, I guess they just don't want to face the facts.....

*big hugs!*
 
Brittany said:
OMG! Akasha, I am so sorry that had to happen to you! That shouldn't have to happen to anyone......( I am so getting ready to cry now ) I don't really think that the whole brother marryin sister thing is right, but I guess that it is their dissicision (sp) ........again akasha, I am so sorry! I once read in a magazine that this one girls dad did stuff to her, then she finally broke down and told her mom, but her mom, her mom believed her, but no one else did....(parents were divorced already) it is sad when no one will believe the truth, I guess they just don't want to face the facts.....

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Awww thanks hun...i should have made this the crying thread lol
Im ok.. my way of dealing now is to just get on with life 😀

*big hugs back*
 
I'm so sorry Akasha. That is awful and no one should ever have to go through that. 🙁 But it's good that you have been able to deal and move on with your life. But I am still so sorry.

Ok, wow, somebody loving their sister? I love my family very much, but not sexually! My brain can not comprehend how you can have feelings like that for a family memeber. I just, can't understand that. It seems so strange and unnatural to me.
 
Akasha said:
Awww thanks hun...i should have made this the crying thread lol
Im ok.. my way of dealing now is to just get on with life 😀

*big hugs back*
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Well I am glad that you are doing better, and I hope that one day your half brother will realize that what he did was wrong, and maybe even apologize for it......but again I am glad that you are doing better, I don't know if I could even bring myself to tell anyone if that were to happen to me, but in then end, you feel better letting it all out......🙂
 
I may have already said it in the depression thread but again elmo & Akasha, you both amaze me. I mean, with all that you went through, I'm just so stunned by your strength.
You both really deserve to have a good life after all this ****.
*hugs* to both of you.

As for the incest concern, I really donno, I think I might agree with Allycat, but meanwhile, I think it might be fake.
I mean siblings loving each other, it's maybe because they know each other very well, & that comfort them. They might prefer unconsciously fall in love with their sibling coz it seems safer. They might be afraid to fall in love with someone else coz it's all new & can appear as scary.
I'm not sure, just an opinion.
 
Hey Frenchy, maybe that's it! Maybe you've cracked the case! I can understand why they would feel more secure with each other... it's not like you're gonna leave a member of your family after being intimate with each other. Eeeeew! It still sounds yuck though. It's more likely that they will be together til death do they part... but it'll be harder for them because they are not socially accepted in their situation. I'm baffled by it all. But I think you've all come out with some very valid points! 🙂

*hugs* for Frenchy for being so sweet yet again! 😀 And *hugs* for Akasha for being so strong as Frenchy said!
 
Yep, totally, the bad point is that they aren't open to the society. They make themselves outcast.
I have no idea whether it is real love or just deep affection but it's somehow there way to say that they are scared.
I agree that it sounds yuck elmo, & I have no will to experience that either (ewww) lol, but I try to understand why it's like that, lol, & glad you liked some point of my theory (laugh @ herself for having such a solemn tone, ha ha ha)
But for the kids concern, I totally think they should not have kids. I mean, they must not condemn a child because of their choices.
 
You're right, just as everyone has said, if they choose to be together... then they shouldn't have any kids! Not only will the kids possibly be deformed but they will be subjected to a disrupted life... full of confusion and hatred. If they do decide to move to a place where they are unknown, the kids will have no Grandparents or Aunts and Uncles! And if they don't, the kids will have to know that their parents are siblings and that's the reason why they don't have 2 sets of Grandparents, and such. They will feel abnormal and that could mess them up big time!
 
I'm really not sure how to react to Incest. I have no problem with homosexuals and believe that they should be allowed to be together. But as someone else as said Incest is a very different thing. I'm trying to view this different ways but I can't really say. My cousin is the closet thing I have to a sister and I would never want to have a relationship with her. I can't understand those types of feelings. I won't condem them and I don't think they are sick. But if they are gonna stay together they are going to have a pretty hard time. Also to anyone who said they should be allowed to adopt I don't think they would be allowed. Adopting is a long process and they are very picky about who they give the children too. I'm sure being Brother / Sister is a big disadvantage.
 
Unfortunatly, I think so too. My aunt and uncle wanted to adopt kids, but they weren't allowed and they had to go through all these tests and all, it was too exhausting that they decided to give up on their child-dream. I think it's pretty sad, 'cause every run-of-the-mill moron can have kids, whether he's a drug-dealer or the president of Iraq, but if decend, earnest har-working people can't have them and want to adopt them they can't... bit OT-ing, but as I was saying, they indeed will probably not be allowed to adopt a kid, but that doesn't mean that they shouldn't be allowed to.
 
i have to say im suprised and ashamed at alot of you!

ok incest not my cup of tea, but if they both want to do it why shouldnt they? acording to your guys because A: you think its "icky" and B: because you dont understand why?

well put it like this, i'd rather had a brother and sister couple living next door to me even if they were going like rabbits as long as they were open minded and didnt force views on me then people with the attitude of "if its different ban it"

Marrage? i really dont see the big fuss about being married i mean with the amount that dont work these days you'd think their would be less fuss about who can and who can't!

no, i dont think incest is the nicest of things to think about and no i dont think they should have the same rights as gays and lesbians but if all they want is to be happy together and not bother anyone else good on them. its more than jahovas witness' !
 
I see what you're saying Faldor. Fair enough, if they want to do it and be happy together, then why not let them? But the rest of the world isn't gonna see it that way. It's all well and good wishing that they would but it's not gonna happen.

There are a lot of different people on this forum with a lot of different views. You're intitled to a view point aren't you? You just gave yours didn't you? Well, then you shouldn't be ashamed of other peoples' points of view. That what keeps the world turning. You should listen to other people and make up your own mind. Other people are what helps you to form your own opinion. That's the whole reason for opening up this thread. If people didn't voice their opinions about things, the world would be a very boring place... but probably more peaceful!

Yes, we said it's icky, and, yes, we said we don't understand it. But the whole reason i wanted to ask you guys is cause i wondered if anyone had a theory!

As for marriage, it's a very important thing to me. I'm waiting for the right man, and I'm gonna stick with him... or do my best. I have very strong views about it because i want the rest of my life to run smoothly. I don't want to be in and out of relationships and not knowing if i'm loved or not. I'll not marry until I'm sure it's right. And I'll work at it to make sure it's right. I want a stable life full of love, laughter and fun. Is that too much to ask for?

WOAH!!!!!! ::idea::

I get it now.
 
A year or so ago there was a show on tv bout sibs that fell for each other. they didn't grow up together which meant that they couldn't form the bond that most sibs do, which somehow usually prevents sibs for falling for each other. not all the time, cuz everyone's different. but that might explain a bit
if it makes them happy i guess im rather ok with it, but...i couldn't even...
i don't condone it, and i do have some trouble fathoming it, and it makes me go ew a bit, but i can see in some circumstances how it could happen.
frenchy's theory is pretty good as well. i'm sure there are many more things at the root of things than we can think of, circumstances shape people a great deal. kids are manipulated easily and it leads to a lot of grief for a lot of people. its the way the world is, it sucks but...

the strength of some people is amazing at times, it can be very hard to be in this world. each person is different as well but...the past shapes one greatly and life may have totally sucked, but if there were some magical way to go back and change all the bad, you mightn't be the person you are today. there will always be something that everyone wishes they could change or take back, but for better or worse, its a part of you and its shaped you. personally i'm not to fond of that but...its life...and...some people turn out to be truly amazing people, even without taking into account a past, which can sometimes make them even more amazing and special. even with that, there would be some things id love to go back and change for people.

i uh rambled on a bit, and my wording isn't that great...but...yea...
 
Akasha and elmo: i'm sorry! no one should have to go through that!! my dads(stepdad..)sister, she was abused by their father, she was the only girl of the 6 kids, she used to wear alot of layer of clothes... when she was home... he is a devil!!we don't talk to him! i'm sorry it happend to you!!

there are different forms of incest:
No.1: where there is the abuser, who rape and so one.. it can be an uncle, brother father.
n0.2: where it is like these siblings...

i mean it shouldn't be thought of as wrong and we should exept 2 people in love, but it is a very special situation! i mean, i wouldn't fall in love with ,my borther, sure he is a pretty, nice young man, but he is my bro... i wouldn't fall inlove with my older bro either- and we arn't blood related!
it just seems so wrong! cos i, as most people have been though that it's wrong...

it must be pretty strange to be IN LOVE with your sis or bro... i'm not gonna say it's sick, but it's a little-wired! i try to be open minded here, but it is a very iunusual situation, don't hear about that so often..

but i guess as long as they are both in this together and noone is forced into it it's okay. i'm not gonna judge, or throw stones... but i also have to say that i disagree with this guy one one thing: being inlove with you sis, si not the same as being homosexual!! i wouldn't call eny of it a deseas, but that doesn't make it the same!!

and i would acually agree to something said in this thread on page 1: it's easyer to imagining falling in love with another woman then with my borther!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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